Humility: how do you know it’s lacking? What is there instead?

Humility: how do you know it’s lacking? What is there instead?
self-concern vs humilityHumility, wrongful pride, high about me score, self-concern… They all say the same thing.

The single most important blockage you have to raising your consciousness, raising your vibration.

In the 3-wishes workshop, one that I lead every Saturday afternoon, the one that never gets boring, I stumbled onto something that had never been revealed in all its gory beauty to the participants before: how focusing on hiding the self-concern completely and totally robs you of a life that you live powerfully, a life that you enjoy living, a life where you are productive and love yourself.

I have taught the concept, the distinction of ‘about-me’ for a decade now, but had never found a way to make it so visible, so visceral as in yesterday’s workshop.

humility... what does it mean?In the following video that I made some 8-9 years ago I explain how wrongful pride, a high about-me score, lack of humility manifests itself in life. Continue reading “Humility: how do you know it’s lacking? What is there instead?”

Who are your customers? You don’t have any? Think again!

Who are your customers? You don’t have any? Think again!
You have customers. Many. You have ‘vendor-customer’ relationship with them.

It takes intellectual intelligence (the one the IQ tests test) to see this. It has nothing to do with being stingy, or emotionally unevolved.

So let’s have this conversation now to cause a sudden rise in your intelligence, and potentially a sudden rise in your income, your popularity, your street value.

The story behind this knowledge comes from 1991-1992.

I was a student in Werner Erhard and Associates in 1991, when Werner appeared on 60 minutes and consequently had to leave the country, his company, and go into exile.

He sold the company to its employees, and the company faltered. It always happens when the vision of the company wasn’t shared between owner and staff.
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The rich get richer the poor get poorer the sick get sicker

The rich get richer the poor get poorer the sick get sicker

Money is like a capacity… Whatever you have more of, you’ll get more of. Misery, stupidity, mistakes… or money, happiness, success…

Money is a means… a means to get more… and so are capacities… spiritual, DNA, epigenetic capacities.

One way you can see this is that the rich gets richer, the poor gets poorer… but how? but why?

This phenomenon is visibly true in every area of life, not just money, not just love. This sentence, from the New Testament, is true…

“I tell you that to everyone who has, more shall be given, but from the one who does not have, even what he does have shall be taken away.”

As I am doing my work to take a group of people to become human beings… I see it clearly in my work. People don’t grasp principles… they only grasp tricks and strategies. Continue reading “The rich get richer the poor get poorer the sick get sicker”

Principle guided life… but what principles?

Principle guided life… but what principles?

When I wrote the article about racial, ancestral identity and its importance, I touched on something that is not valuable for most people… because I didn’t go deep enough and I didn’t accurately identify what it takes to be proud of who you are, where you belong.

I got on the phone with one of the people who was very unhappy about that article… I was eager to talk, because it is near impossible to go beyond the visible by yourself. It is a whole lot easier when you get input… because what is invisible to you can be visible for another.

The conversation was fruitful… And the insight to me was: it is not virtues, it is principles that form the basis of a happy life… I will elaborate…
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Your deserving factor, your earning factor… How much do you deserve? How much have you earned? Are you worth a damn?

I am listening to step 1 of the 67 steps again. The seventh time? Eighth time? I have lost track.

And as is usual for me, I am seeing something that Tai is not saying, and I kind of have been seeing, but not really. In the corner of my eyes.

Unwillingness masquerading as confusion, fear, and a host of other “symptoms”

unwillingI don’t wanna…! You can’t make me… Nooo!

We expect these reactions from children, but more than 50% of all soul corrections’ foundational issue is this unwillingness, this resistance.

If you remember, all soul corrections are, fundamentally, about restricting desire to receive for the self alone (evil, negative energy).

Obviously, this resistance, this unwillingness is about you, and not something beyond you… What you are gaining from this behavior is only for you, and not for anyone else’s sake, and it serves only your lowest self… not anything else.

So we can say, safely, that it is one of the major enemies of you, personally, and us, humanity, become better, higher, a humanity of human beings… who don’t kill each other, don’t hate each other, who don’t use each other.

And because this unwillingness feels innocent, or it feels like procrastination, or it feels that it holds YOU back… you think that it is not evil… and that it is not mandatory for you to overcome it, if you want to feel good about yourself.
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Cynicism, resignation, feeling your feelings…

Cynicism, resignation, feeling your feelings…

Cynicism, resignation, feeling your feelings… turn your resistance into flow

Somebody said that being in the 900s of vibration, I must be in the flow.

I felt that what she meant and what it means are very different.

Most of what is termed ‘flow’ is a feeling that everything is OK… That there is nothing to resist, because god is on your side.

But from that definition to get to flow, the real flow, you first have to make bad feelings wrong.

As if feelings were responsible and at fault…

But feelings are there for a reason, and resisting them is the stupidest thing you can do.

If we looked what prevents you from entering the flow state, I can promise we would find that you don’t want all the feelings, you only want the good ones.

But most, maybe all gold is in the unpleasant feelings.

I finally got response to my private message to the author of the book ‘Feelings.’ Continue reading “Cynicism, resignation, feeling your feelings…”

Do you meet others’ expectations? There is a price to pay

Do you meet others’ expectations? There is a price to pay

If you are on this site, you will find yourself, more or less, in this article. And it may change your life.

A student writes


Hi Sophie, I think I take trivial and superficial things too seriously. How can I let go of these immaterial incidents or people and focus on important things that truly matter to me?

this was my answer

“This is the sign of two things: 1. your map of reality isn’t very similar to reality. 2. you have too much importance attached to nice words about you… i.e. you want to be defined by words not by your actions.
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The risk of living a life without a purpose… no direction

The risk of living a life without a purpose… no direction
A purpose is not automatic… or if anything can be called automatic, it is always bad… or inappropriate

We, humanity, are more attuned to danger, bad feelings, than we are to good feelings… And it is natural, given our size and defenselessness in the natural world.

In order to get anything done, you cannot rely on your natural inclination, it won’t be helpful. Your natural inclination is to do nothing much, reserve your energies, unless you are hungry, you are horny, or you are in danger. Continue reading “The risk of living a life without a purpose… no direction”

The secret sauce that makes you start having joy in your life

The secret sauce that makes you start having joy in your life

fox_and_hare, dinner or life?The fox and the hare tale: Why does a rabbit run faster than a fox?  Because while the fox is running for his dinner, the rabbit is running for his life.  All of life works the same way…

Keep this tale in mind as you read this article: are you running for your dinner, or are you running for your life?

I have noticed that take-away, as a manipulation technique, works exceptionally well on me.

Here is how the technique works: you show something, and you state that it is only available at this price or any price for a limited amount of time.

I find myself scrambling to get it…

Obviously I was taken in, because once I have it, I don’t want it. I was put in a hypnotic trance, and I acted under that influence.

I am fairly certain that nearly all humans are sensitive to scarcity or takeaway: the pain of loss is bigger than the joy of having something. Or better said: the genes are…

One area you may notice it (the fact that you don’t notice it, doesn’t mean it’s not there!) is how you value your life. Or a relationship. Continue reading “The secret sauce that makes you start having joy in your life”