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Did you get stuck, ontologically, at a 3-year old’s level, and you are still behaving like a 3-year old child
Ontology is being science.
It looks at the grounds of your being. Here are a few examples: “I am an object in the world of objects.” “I am not free to be myself!” “There is something wrong and it needs to be fixed!” “Don’t tell me what to do!” “I already know!” “It’s mine!” “I am a girl” “I am not loved” “Life is dangerous” “I can’t count on anyone” “I am worthless” 1
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You don’t seem to be able to change…
You have been unsuccessful getting their guidance, getting your information from outside of the mind.
This manifests, among others, in your inability to muscletest correctly.
The question is why?
The phenomenon, what actually seems to happen is this: you understand where to look, how to look, and you nod rapidly. You bring great examples to show how you just succeeded in using the new capacity… but I can smell the mischief… you are trying to throw me off my tracking.
Now, I say “you” but who is this “you”? What aspect of a person am I talking about?
In this case, the dominant aspect, the ego your delusional self, who you fancy yourself to be, your “precious I” you defend at all cost.
Continue reading “Why can’t you change? What’s keeping you the same?”
Telling them apart will make you a happier, more accomplished person!
Why all techniques of increasing Emotional Intelligence are b.s…
…and not effecting the level of happiness, the level of well-being of people who practice it.
Same is true about the Emotional Guidance System of Abraham/ Hicks… b.s. and ineffective. Why? Because they are trying to change the fruits instead of the roots… Putting makeup on syphilitic lesions. 1 Or pimples, if you are squeamish…
Feelings are clean. They do four simple things. Make you go for it, make you stop, direct you towards pleasure and away from pain… They are the seed level. The foundation. 2Feelings are what guides you as an organism to feed yourself, to procreate, to stay safe, or to fight. To have a community to belong to, and to have enough information so you know what to do[/note.]
Emotions are a construct on the top of them, created by words, created by marker feelings, and are a veritable mess.
Continue reading “Are feelings and emotions the same? Do you know?”
Are you always going for the home run? The big win?One of the most useful steps in the 67 steps is the step where Tai compares business/life to baseball.
The most important aspect of business is to not lose money. Money lost is the result of mistakes. Mistakes are the results of hasty actions, or actions that try to go from zero to sky high in one fell swoop.
Like a baseball player who tries to hit the ball so hard every time as to be able to have a home run…
Most people I talk to have no skills, no plans, no idea… but when I ask them what they are up to, they talk about the sky-high.
Most people want to raise their vibration to 500+ right away… Continue reading “Setting your sights sky high not getting your hands dirty”
It’s my birthday today, and I guess, I should be doing something other than work… but I love working, so I am going to do as much of it today as i can.
What is great about having all this Social Media is that people are reminded that I have a birthday, so people come out of the woodwork.
But people do it in their inimitable way.
Self-expression… or maybe self-expression?
Some act as if they were the one stirring the soup of the Universe, and therefore had the right to tell me how to be, who to be… I have removed them from my mailing list. Unless I hired you to be my coach, your coaching is not welcome.
Yet others, who are stingy… your stinginess is expressed in everything you do and say. Especially in the “you are welcome” part… That “you are welcome” shows that they think more than 90% of the time about themselves… and nothing else. Continue reading “Birthday musings… are you ready to come out and play?”
True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less. Wrote Rick Warren in The Purpose-Driven Life, where it appears as part of Day 19, “Cultivating Community.” 1
When you have “thinking of yourself” block or filter what you are looking at, you end up in a small box that is all about you.
There is no joy there.
I just finished my Sunday call… unfortunately I forgot to turn on the recorder… it was all about this principle, about how different people have a different amount of time spent thinking of themselves, and how the amount of misery they experience differs, very consistently, accordingly.
Different soul corrections place different amount of emphasis on “it is all about you”, so each of us gets a different start in life… some are more about it than others.
Want to know yours? 
Lack of humility and fixed mindset are also synonymous.
From time to time I run experiments where I work with one student beyond what they pay for, to test out a methodology I hope will be instructive and will work for most students.
Most people have a fixed mindset.
What does fixed mindset have to do with skills?
Unfortunately a whole lot. Why unfortunately? Because if you have fixed mindset, you somehow, magically, think that skills are innate and you don’t have to learn them.
But neither knowledge, nor skills are innate: humans were designed to be shaped by their own actions primarily. That means: your genetic heritage counts about 10% of who you are, and 90% comes from environmental influences, including your own efforts, attitudes, and actions.
One will say: bummer. Another will say: thank god.
And both will be right…
Continue reading “I just distinguished something about humility: Humility and growth mindset are synonymous.”
This article is 15 months old. I can track how far I have come in 15 months… And can celebrate… it’s new freedom day for me…
Few people are intelligent.
Intelligence is a state where you can see the sameness, where you see that life has no boundaries.
Of course it seems as if there were boundaries, but it’s an illusion… cells have walls, but it is permeable, you have skin, but it is permeable, you are a human, but you are just like everything else, built of cells, like most every living being, have genes, like every living being, and your body performs chemical miracles, every living moment.
All your fears are a result of living as if you were threatened, the I.
You don’t want your carefully preserved separateness upset, and you know that the work I ask you to do will. Why? because you are NOT intelligent.
Continue reading “Spiritual Practices to get you out of your prison”
The Mindset book is the perfect accompaniment to the Reclaim coaching program, and the From Upset To Communication course where we learn the fields inside which all of life plays out.
I have questions coming at me that shed light to misunderstanding of what this work is about. What the course is about. What the program is about.
I have asked for this type of questions. I have asked my student to share with me what they are getting, so I can see where they are off… where I was off… what it is that is misconstrued, misunderstood, or not understood in what I teach… It was a great idea, because unless I know what you got, I can’t help you.
It won’t be easy to share it, so please advance to me some compassion: I am walking on some uncharted territories.
Hi Sophie,
I’ve re-listened the call and here’s what I got up to now about fields (if I got it 🙂 :
Fields are an energetic, dynamic space where you (need to) move/go intentionally-consciously so that you can communicate with someone who is already there so that communication flows/leads to a win-win outcome.In other words, you adjust yourself and ‘switch’ fields according to ‘needs’/situation/circumstance no matter what your usual/’default’ field is (does something like default field exist)
And all that you can do when and if you develop such skills first? And these skills is what we learn in the course?
English is her second language, but here is my translation:
She is asking if the course is to teach you to manipulate yourself, until you can get to a place where your can have no strife… where you please the other person, so they don’t kill you… lol.
No. None of my work is about manipulating, or even changing yourself.
That is the forceful approach to life… the approach that cause wars, fracking, and presidents like Trump.
Strong-arming things, people, yourself.
What is underneath is this: There is something wrong. Something wrong with you, something wrong with me, something wrong with it.
So it is a fixing modality.
Whenever you fix something, the wrongness doesn’t go away, it is there, because it is the core of your being.
The action that takes you to Expanding Human Being is becoming.
The reason we use the worm to butterfly analogy, because no traces of the worm can be found in the butterfly, not physically, not emotionally, not spiritually.
Arrogance cannot be fixed: it will remain in every fixed form.
Forcefulness cannot be fixed: it will remain the core of every fixed form.
Becoming is like the seed needs to die to become a plant.
You cannot wrap your mind around it. It is beyond the mind.
I know people with a ton of knowledge but no distinctions.
Distinction is a new way of seeing the world. A becoming.
My job is to cause becoming through seeing the world differently. Through distinctions.
It is like balance: once you get it no one can take it away from you. But if you haven’t gotten it, you can’t get it through explanation, through reading; you have to go through the process of falling and stumbling until you get it.
This is the main reason that humility is the human capacity to all becoming. Humility means: willing to go through what it takes. And experience what there is to experience while going through it.
No jumps in becoming. The mind doesn’t help. Reading doesn’t help. Only going through does it.
Here is a post inside our Reclaim program, that may help you to see if you belong to this second group:
I am really in an unfamiliar place. A place where the majority of my conscious time is going towards my plans. I honestly feel like I’m in school again. I’m saying this because I hope that my behavior is a reflection of a greater degree of humility.
Where Tai refers to some guy who says we have about 50,000 hours to get it all done, I pause. Now, I realize the number is relative, but it highlights the importance of staying with the pursuit. I surely don’t know how much time I have.
On another note, there’s something that is bugging me. Forgive me if I mess this up, but if humility is about the seeking of knowledge and not the getting of it, could it be that I and others are lacking the foundation for seeking? It occurred to me that I may not possess something necessary to be a great student. When you said to those of us in the Upset webinar that ‘you are not in the class,’ I was dumbfounded.
Then later, I got more of what you meant, but giving myself to something is mostly a foreign approach. Even as I am taking on about as much as I can, at this moment, I feel scarcity saying: hey, there’s only so much you can do in a day so…. I guess what I’m getting at is: maybe there are levels in the depth of humility that I can take on as I learn to manage my life better.
I even realized that sometimes I ask you questions that you refuse to answer, and rightfully so. However, I didn’t know that I was avoiding doing my own work. I’m not sure I know what questions are appropriate to ask you. Is there a guideline I can use so that I don’t ask you questions that are not for you to answer?
This second way of being off… is fear based.
Actually, even the first way is fear based, but the reaction to fear was different there: it was aggression. Here is hiding, cowering, trying, whimpering, backing away from what feels threatening, unpleasant, or a waste of time.
Intellect can be actually in the way.
I had the moment clearly when I got my first distinction. It was taught by Werner Erhard himself, and you could hear that he was struggling, intellectually, himself. You could hear that intellect was trying to take him off.
He was attempting to distinguish two. The number two.
The first distinction that alters the rest of life…
For Helen Keller, it was “Water” that created the birth of the paradigm: words. That words are a symbol, a stand-in, for a thing real, a piece of reality.
The moment she got that, she wanted to know the word that was saying: tree, house, me, you.
The movie “The Miracle Worker” (1962) does a great job at capturing the process, capturing the moment.
For me, the distinction “Two” became my “Water” when Werner held up one hand and said “Two”.
It was one hand. One hand. One hand and no second. One hand and in all around there was no hand… no second…
And when I got, hand and no hand make two. hand and everything else make two… I got distinction.
Now, was it easy to “get it”?
I don’t think so. I had to be there to have my mind blown. There was one other guy and myself who got it.
But that doesn’t mean YOU can’t get it. But you have to let your mind be blown.
That is humility in action. That is growth mindset in action. Becoming. Growing a set of new eyes.
Everything else is hoarding, fixing, explaining.
Change.
The more things change the more they stay the same…
Humans’ imagination in inventing false, fake becoming is inexhaustible.
And because people really would like to become, the fake becoming paths sell like hotcake. This is the secret the gurus, spiritual teachers, more money teachers, more love teachers, more time teachers capitalize on.
None of them teach you how to become, in fact they haven’t done the work themselves, they use the tone of voice, the right words that sound like they have become, but they are fooling you, fooling themselves.
And that’s why you feel like you should get a magic potion to turn your beggar into a prince or a princess. With no work.
If enlightenment is the way they describe, then it should descend on you…
But, between you and me, the “water” experience or my “two” experience could be called the real enlightenment… the starting point of an arduous and long journey, climbing up on the Tree of Life.
The Buddha didn’t do it. Osho didn’t do it. “Jesus” didn’t do it.
Enlightenment not considered the starting point is false gold. An insight.
And insights are worth a dime a dozen.
In this article we’ll go deep into what’s going on, inside you, that fails you… We’ll look at different schools of thought to do that. Understanding the inner dynamic is the first step towards success.
That, and knowing that every number in your Starting Point Measurements can be changed… Nothing is fixed. Not even your DNA.
If you look at yourself and your behavior, and then compare it with what you say, what you’ve said, there is rarely any similarity between the person who spoke and the person who acts.
It’s quite confusing.
If the mindpower people were correct, if their model were accurate, your actions would come from your thoughts.
But they don’t… Continue reading “Can you conquer your laziness, your lack of action, your slacker nature… Your sissy nature?”
