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Happiness is a rope dance, walking a thin line. No wonder you are not happy… or how lack of humility is the big issue
Little more about humility… the cog in the wheel
One detrimental functions of ‘lack of humility’ as a capacity, is that you can’t change your mind about your past. Continue reading “Happiness is a rope dance, walking a thin line”
Why am I pushing humility, the capacity?
Humility is one of those words that mainstream says it means something other than it actually means.
Humility simply means: you are willing to not take it personally. You are willing to not have it mean anything about you.
Why is this important?
When anything, and I mean any thing means anything about you, you are hooked. Your ego is hooked. It becomes a survival game… and in survival it is an either you or me game.
So, simply put humility means putting ego on pause.
Continue reading “What does humility mean?”
I found this article today… I wrote it 18 months ago.
Of course at the time I had no idea that there are spiritual capacities, that they are encoded in the DNA, that they can be turned on, that I can turn them on… none of that.
So the article is a little outdated, and yet… many of the principles apply, they are timeless. Good reading.
One of the typical mistakes I see comes from the “culture” of instant, quick, magic buttons, magic bullets.
It’s not true, or it is not that simple.
We all understand that things take time to get up to speed, your car, an airplane, your computer, but we don’t think that the same rule applies to us. We actually really think, really hope, that someone can touch us, a holy man or woman, and we will be healed, and throw away our cane, walker, and run away dancing, laughing, victorious.
This is what the fake gurus (i.e. the associates of the Dark Side) want us to believe.
But why are they selling us a bill of goods if it is not true? The answer is simple: because what they sell matches your desire, that’s why you will buy it.
Continue reading “Updated: How to go from lazy, procrastinating never do well to someone who gets things done? This also applies to raising your vibration…”
There is no secret, no secret ingredient to raising your vibration, to become an expanding human being.
For those of you who have been making ever tightening circles around the secret, you may call it the Truth, this article will be first a big let-down. A disappointment. Continue reading “There is no secret to raising your vibration”
What else do you need to know about the capacity: flexibility?
In a recent article I pit reed-mode against oak-mode.
I call one flexible and the other inflexible or stuck.
But there is more to it.
Reed
Sometimes you think you are a reed, because you are blown, in one direction: misery. But you are mistaken.
Continue reading “What else you need to know about the capacity: flexibility?”
Most people are stuck… movement is not possible. It can be total or it can be partial.
To see where you are stuck is difficult, because the cause, the stuck part can be several layers deep.
A skilled coach or therapist may fail to find the linchpin issue, because in the normal course of a therapy, it is talking, the words, that are masking it.
One of my students in the Reclaim program has chosen to work with the idea of inspiring movies. Using movies to unstuck people is a brilliant method, and also fun. And even if the first movie doesn’t do the trick, time wasn’t wasted, because a good movie is also a great experience.
Reading people’s responses of where their Dark Side is, looking through the idea of using movies to get them moving again, or maybe moving for the first time, is very appealing.
All movies have an element of “healing by proxy”…
Continue reading “As long as you are stuck … Cinematherapy anyone?”
One thing the book Flowers for Algernon did not prepare me for is how scary it is to get too smart too quickly.
I have been experimenting with different capacities… what they do, what behavior, what insight they possible.
One of these capacities increased my capacity (it had been turned on, but not fully utilized by me) to see many steps ahead and act accordingly.
And for the first time since I started this work, I got scared.
Continue reading “Getting really smart is scary”
If you had a childhood trauma… what is the best way to deal with it now, so you can grow?
Some of you were abused as a child.
Now, strictly speaking, there is no such thing as abuse in reality. Abuse is a particular interpretation of something that happened. If I asked a visiting Martian what happened, he would say things like one person hit the other, or one person yelled at another, or one person tied up another, pushed them down, maybe even put one part of their anatomy into the other… but not abuse.
Abuse never happened… or it happened only if you said so… for you. In your mouth. In your interpretation.
Some things don’t exist outside of language… they don’t exist in reality. Abuse is just one of these. One other “thing” that doesn’t exist in reality is lack… In reality only things that are there exist.
New age gurus talk about the importance of the words you use. Of course, either because you are dumb or they are dumb, this gets generalized.
Continue reading “How words really effect you? And how positive thinkers are stupid”
OK, if you have found yourself not being willing, or not being able to do the practices, or keep doing them: this article is for you.
I have been studying learning styles, thinking styles, teaching methods to make my teaching more effective. And while it wasn’t a waste of time, because it brought me to this day and this knowledge, it was putting the cart in front of the horse.
Today I recounted some effective teaching methods to a friend… They were effective to me. But when I looked at all the people who were exposed to the same teaching, same teaching method, same teacher, at the same time as myself, I found that those other people didn’t get the same results I got, in fact, most of them got no results at all. 1
Continue reading “I am now clear why you are not doing your spiritual work”
The path to beauty, goodness, and truth is through the ugly, the bad, maybe even the horrible, not around them
We all bow to a deity, the god of respectability. Looking good, being well thought of, getting respect.
Even animals pretend, just watch your cat… their survival depends on looking good to you… so they pretend…
…to have no need to pretend, being willing to be seen, warts an all, is more human, it is in the direction of the evolution of the species.
While you give your life to respectability, your life sours, your dreams die, you stop knowing who you are, where you are, what YOU want, what YOU want to do with your life. You don’t know who you are.
Very unpleasant and troubling feeling.
Most are stuck there, but some (you?) yearn to know and live in harmony with who they are… love themselves, but how do you go about it?
…that unless you can face it, without running from it, without judging it, without trying to unsee it, it is going to stay and multiply. and keep you in the world of pretense, where who you are is not who you pretend to be.
Now, I know it is a mouthful, but
The help I can give, is to give you pointers, give you beacons so you will see the ugly by their light. And, of course, the Unconditional Love Activator, will make it a lot easier…
If you stop for a moment and look behind that urge to justify your actions, you’ll see ugly. You’ll see that either you don’t trust yourself, or you don’t trust the other person to like you after you did what you believe is the right thing while you knew it wasn’t.
Don’t just stop explaining or justifying… no value there. Look. See the ugly in you. Own it.
The ego is the part of you that you’ve been quietly and secretly in cahoots with… but, unfortunately, it is also the ego that could give you strength to accomplish.
But you limit what the ego can do for you by having more and more to hide, more and more falsehood to prove every day.
You look at every program with suspicion. Will this want me to change? Will this want me to look at what I have been hiding?
You can’t have the rose without the thorns, you can’t have night without day… Life has a certain order to it, but you want, with all your might, to go around it.
You want respect without giving respect, you want love without giving love, you want something for nothing, you want beauty without the ugly.
You invent religions, you invent gods, afterlife, karma, just to avoid having to face the truth about you.
You rearrange the furniture, do feng shui, invite a shaman in your home to get rid of evil spirit… but you go back, and there it is again: evil spirit. In you… The ugly that you have been hiding.
Beacon #2:
You can see the ugly in others that means you are good or at least better. Nice. High minded.
Exactly the opposite is true.
All the nasty stuff you see in others is something you recognize because you have it.
They hold up a mirror for you to see it. But you run, but you hide, but you blame, smear, get angry.
You miss the lesson.
I am not saying it’s pleasant. But it is possible to bring a sober eye to the things you see and say: Hm… I see that. Hm, that’s ugly. or nasty. However you express yourself. Sober. Matter of fact. Flat.
Beacon 3: Apologizing
Husband cheated on you? Notice the nastiness that comes up… it is choking you. Notice that you want to be nice… then the nastiness comes out… and you apologize.
Don’t apologize. Actually have it a goal to never have a reason to apologize.
If it comes out… then instead of pushing it back, and feeling shame, fear, rejoice. You got a chance to see the poison you carry around. And own it as yours.
Sit down and watch it simmer. Accept it for what it is. Embrace it. Do NOT justify, do NOT explain, just allow.
The longer you can watch it the less power it will have… Half done work (looking away, justifying) will bite your ass.
The beautiful you is behind the ugliness… it is not next to it, not in front of it, it is behind it.
As long as you have the ugly, all beautiful is a pretense… ugh, that hurts, right?
Now get to work. And let me know if and when you are ready for the Playground. Or Reclaim. Or both…
Oh, and don’t forget to stock up on the Unconditional Love Activator. You’ll need it.
