Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
There is no secret, no secret ingredient to raising your vibration, to become an expanding human being.
For those of you who have been making ever tightening circles around the secret, you may call it the Truth, this article will be first a big let-down. A disappointment. Continue reading “There is no secret to raising your vibration”
Why don’t you use the new stuff you buy, your new course, your new capacity?
What happens when you get anything new?
Is it always good news?
After all it’s shiny, after all it’s new… and yet… you are not using it.
Why? Are you crazy?
No, actually you may be intelligent.
New things, a new relationship, a new baby, a new job are disruptive to your current life… disruptive is a good word to use here.
And you are not ready to disrupt, you are not willing to be disrupted.
Why fix something that is not broken?
Continue reading “Why don’t you use the new stuff you buy to better yourself?”
Most people are stuck… movement is not possible. It can be total or it can be partial.
To see where you are stuck is difficult, because the cause, the stuck part can be several layers deep.
A skilled coach or therapist may fail to find the linchpin issue, because in the normal course of a therapy, it is talking, the words, that are masking it.
One of my students in the Reclaim program has chosen to work with the idea of inspiring movies. Using movies to unstuck people is a brilliant method, and also fun. And even if the first movie doesn’t do the trick, time wasn’t wasted, because a good movie is also a great experience.
Reading people’s responses of where their Dark Side is, looking through the idea of using movies to get them moving again, or maybe moving for the first time, is very appealing.
All movies have an element of “healing by proxy”…
Continue reading “As long as you are stuck … Cinematherapy anyone?”
Activism, campaigning
We all want change. The circumstances to change, others to change… We want people to change to what we deem the correct or good way to be.
We want reality to be different.
We put our attention to what’s wrong, in our view, what is missing, in our view.
In essence, we want the world to conform to our norms.
I am describing, to a more or less degree, humanity… though a segment of the population is very loud about it, very verbal about it: activists and campaigners.
The number one ingredient to become an activist, whether it is in your marriage, trying to change your husband and the kids, in school, in industry, in the world, is to have your fingers point, in blame, outward.
Continue reading “It is all about where the finger is pointing.”
In my efforts of activating DNA capacities, I have seen that I cannot get away from teaching you stuff: having a lot of wrong beliefs will prevent you from holding onto the new capacities long enough to benefit from them.
This is one of the things I haven’t seen anyone teach… So here you go.
I have taught it on live webinars but this is the first time I am attempting to do it in writing: it may not go well… Let’s see…
Many people are in search of truth. Many are activists. Many are into self-improvement.
What is in common with all of us, humans, living in society, is that everything we do is to fill in a void, to fix what’s wrong, and get away from what’s bad.
Prescription for unhappiness: deny, resist what is, and strive to get to something that isn’t.
This is rich, so please don’t nod: it will be a pretense if you do. There is no way you actually got what I said… no way.
Continue reading “Happiness is wanting what you have”
In search of the linchpin DNA capacity that is blocking your evolution
In this article I will talk about DNA capacities activation.
Let’s talk about the failures, people where in spite of my effort, the capacities did not activate…
Let me start with the accusations a commenter threw at me/us: that the positive results may be due to time spent with me, instead of DNA capacities getting active in you.
I would ask the same question, and have.
Continue reading “In search of the linchpin DNA capacity that is…”
Your smarts don’t live in your brain. Comparing brains is a favorite job of scientist, but they are on the wrong track.
Instead they should ask questions that relevant… I wonder why they don’t think to answer relevant questions.
Questions like what happens when a really smart man has a daughter? How come that women, in general, are less capable, less able to make it in the world?
And the answer doesn’t live in the brain: it lives in the DNA.
Children inherit a combination of their parents’ DNA. A child can be smart, even brilliant as a potential, socialization will force a female child to shut down their capacities to please the parent, especially the mother, and dumb herself down.
Continue reading “Your smarts don’t live in your brain… or only your brain”
Superiority… The word comes up a lot in my coaching. Mostly in the context of your soul correction.
But in reality, some things are superior to other things… because all exists on many scales.
On the DNA capacities “scale” someone with 30 capacities is superior to someone who has 29, 20, 10, 7.
I haven’t found anyone with less than seven capacities, though I am sure there are.
So superior is not the issue. Acting superior is the issue.
It attacks people’s egos, the part of a human that makes sure the person survives. And as in any competition, it can get ugly. 1
People tend to cultivate the capacities that they consider an unfair advantage in the competition for survival.
In politics, it is mostly lying convincingly, trashing the other, promising, and such. In many areas that is physical strength.
Continue reading “Does having more capacities raise your vibration too?”
Teachers, and coaches, who themselves are high vibration and high achievers, I know a few, see you better than you are, and tell you that with a little, or a lot of coaching you can achieve the life you want.
But, unfortunately, we desire things we are not equipped to achieve, or are not willing to move towards.
Why is this?
Because it takes active, working capacities to do things. DNA capacities… capacities that you cannot learn… Capacities are not like knowledge. Capacities are not like skills. Capacities are either open or not open. If they aren’t open, they need to be opened, either by being in a do or die situation, where unless you use a capacity you don’t have, or you die… or by me… at this point I don’t know anyone else who can open a capacity.
There are 160 capacities in the human DNA, and most of them are dormant, inactive, not available to you.
Moreover, you don’t even know they are missing.
Remember the missing item exercises? Where we are trying to activate a capacity that is missing, by lying authentically?
Continue reading “High vibration, high achiever people err on the side of judging you more capable than you are.”
This question is coming up with increasing frequency.
You should ONLY activate a capacity if and when you need it, when you have a use for it, and it’s missing. Otherwise you won’t know what to do with it, and won’t use it.
Ego will declare it a ballast… and turn it off.
What is the most important ingredient that you need to grow and need new capacities turned on?
It’s ambition.
Ambition is an inner force that propels you towards growth, upwards, onwards. It only has direction, and not a goal. If you have a goal, it is not ambition, it is desire… aka greed. All ego. Wanting to have.
Continue reading “DNA capacities… how many should you get activated?”
