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The real causes of success and the real causes of no success

The majority of people, in fact about 99% of all people, live a life of quiet or not so quiet desperation.
80% of my readers also belong to that majority.

I’d like to address this article to the 20% that is not willing to live a life of quiet or not so quiet desperation, the 20% that is willing to put themselves on the hook for a better life, for growing, for taking risks, for a life worth living.

The theories of success, the books on success, the psychology of success, the technology of success you come across on the internet, in seminars, in books is totally ineffective, useless, and will never and has never changed anyone’s life, anyone’s behavior.
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It’s in your DNA… but it’s not working. But why?

You’ll get the most out of this article, if you map it on yourself, on your life… Everything I write about you can find in your own life, in one form or another.

On Tuesdays I do my grocery shopping. Oftentimes I buy something chocolate, not a whole lot, a few bites I can finish before I get home. Other times I buy more…

I always know I did something really stupid within a few hours… Sugar doesn’t agree with me. Continue reading “It’s in your DNA… but it’s not working. But why?”

Taking things personally

The hardest thing to navigate, at least for me, is to take myself out of the center… Maybe because of my soul correction “Forget Thyself” but it comes back to make me miserable periodically.

I have been testy lately.

I have always wanted to be significant. Do significant things. Be admired… blah blah blah.

What I didn’t realize that like everything ego desire based, desire to receive for the self alone, it has a shadow side.

When you are significant, and someone doesn’t give you what you think they are supposed to… you are angry and miserable.

So this is what has been going on…

Please listen with compassion… or not… it’s really up to you. But if you can listen with compassion, you may learn something that can make a difference for you… If you listen with judgment, your misery will deepen… I will be fine either way.
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Your smarts don’t live in your brain… or only your brain

Your smarts don’t live in your brain. Comparing brains is a favorite job of scientist, but they are on the wrong track.

Instead they should ask questions that relevant… I wonder why they don’t think to answer relevant questions.

Questions like what happens when a really smart man has a daughter? How come that women, in general, are less capable, less able to make it in the world?

And the answer doesn’t live in the brain: it lives in the DNA.

Children inherit a combination of their parents’ DNA. A child can be smart, even brilliant as a potential, socialization will force a female child to shut down their capacities to please the parent, especially the mother, and dumb herself down.
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High vibration, high achiever people err on the side of judging you more capable than you are.

Teachers, and coaches, who themselves are high vibration and high achievers, I know a few, see you better than you are, and tell you that with a little, or a lot of coaching you can achieve the life you want.

But, unfortunately, we desire things we are not equipped to achieve, or are not willing to move towards.

Why is this?

Because it takes active, working capacities to do things. DNA capacities… capacities that you cannot learn… Capacities are not like knowledge. Capacities are not like skills. Capacities are either open or not open. If they aren’t open, they need to be opened, either by being in a do or die situation, where unless you use a capacity you don’t have, or you die… or by me… at this point I don’t know anyone else who can open a capacity.

There are 160 capacities in the human DNA, and most of them are dormant, inactive, not available to you.

Moreover, you don’t even know they are missing.

Remember the missing item exercises? Where we are trying to activate a capacity that is missing, by lying authentically?
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The Dark Side suggestion that love heals the world

There are many approaches to fix a problem, but all fixes are more harmful than the original problem.

Why?

Because fix come from the same level of consciousness as the problem…

and ultimately that kind of solution: a fix, is the root of the next problem. Like marriage: a fix for loneliness, and the start of more and bigger problems… yet it doesn’t stop loneliness… (Marriage is two people combining efforts to solve problems that would not exist without the marriage…) Continue reading “The Dark Side suggestion that love heals the world”

The quality of your life, whether you grow or not, will depend on…

The quality of your life, whether you grow or not will depend on the quality of the projects you work on… not plan, not dream about, but work on.

“If you want to live a middle-class life, solve a middle-class problem. If you want to live a world-class life, solve a world-class problem.” -Steve Siebold, CSP

In terms of what we do here, middle class in the quote means low vibration… world-class means expanding.

When you look at your life, you can tell (unless you are lying to yourself) what kind of projects you are working on.

You use your life for your projects… and if your biggest project is shopping and cooking for Thanksgiving… well, that is the size of your life.

Your projects are either about you, or about something bigger than you.
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Thanksgiving… if you want to be honest, it is just a meal.

Why would I say something sacra-religious like this?

Because saying what you are grateful only includes what you like.

What about the 99% of your life, of people, of things, that you don’t like, or just barely tolerate?

Can you say: I am grateful for that?

When it is a dark day: can you be grateful for that? When your friend is pushing your buttons: can you be grateful for that? When you feel bad, tired, nauseated, can you be grateful for that?

Yeah, I know, you can say you are, but are you?

You are lying.

Because you only see value where you see value, not everywhere.
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Want to become a nice person? Here is a clue that you aren’t

Every soul correction is about correcting the desire to receive (Light) for the self alone.

If you were born, you have a soul correction.

There is no jumping into “desire to receive for the sake of sharing”, which selfless, charitable, do gooders try to do.

Being charitable, giving, do-gooding, selfless is NOT desire to receive for the sake of sharing, it is just more “desire to receive for the self alone.”

Bummer, eh?

As I am sitting here pondering one of my favorite students’ Reclaim share where she is proudly telling me that her husband walked in during the webinar, evidently hungry, she could courageously ignore him and not be interrupted.

My, my…

You may not hear anything: I hear “nasty piece of work”, or simply: “desire to receive for the self alone.”
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When you feel accused… DNA capacity activation learnings

“It’s easier to evaluate your results through drunken delusion than to gaze soberly in the mirror and face the truth.”

I had another DNA capacity activation session today.

It was different. Some people had already had the same capacities activated before.

I found two big surprises… both strong enough to kick me in the gut:

When I first download the energy to you that activates the capacity, it does what it does, goes through the phases, and when I check the muscletest says: it is turned on. When I come back to you, because you are on a webinar, it seems that there is a lot more work to do: especially on the level of ancestors.A lot lot lot more. It seems that until I open it all up, until the activation goes through your entire ancestry: millions of people, you will only have the capacity available to you… partially or not at all
And in these cases, your ego turned the capacity off entirely.
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