One of my favorite movies is a Coen brothers movie, True Grit
It comes up for me 4-5 times a year, to ponder who had the true grit… the little girl or the big drunkard marshal? 1
Tag: distinctions
What is the difference: I get to shovel the 10 inch snow… and I have to shovel show?
In my weekly coaching call with my only business/marketing student last night, I went deep into the causes of why someone with a degree, why someone who is making a living, cannot move further up the life-satisfaction, life effectiveness scale.
I have found two blatant holes in him, that my guess is shared by all of you, or most of you.
- 1. a total blindness of what gives meaning and therefore the mood for life.
- 2. a total inability to see what is cause and what is effect.
So how do you fix that? You don’t.
When you find something that isn’t working or isn’t working as well as you’d like it to, your knee jerk reaction is to fix it. Or change it. Or stop doing it.
But unless what you found is seed level, you can work till the cows come home, and you will only produce pretense, but not a change.
Your world is dominated by the invisible. Get to know it… or else…
Your world is dominated by the invisible. And the invisible is like muddy water, every shyster has their hand in it, stirring it. 2
But this article will be about you. About your chances of being able to live a life worth living. Largely. I mean worth living most of the time.
Why not all the time? And why not gloriously?
It is too much to ask. But compared to the tasteless, joyless, have-to life you now live, a life worth living, for most of the time, is an amazing thing…
So what is the invisible part, the muddy water, that dominates your life? That makes you not enjoy life, that makes you want to go to sleepwalk, to not feel, to not be present?
It is the memes, partially, and it is you, partially.
You have no distinctions…
Let me give you an example that will shed light to what distinctions are, and why they are important.
Let’s imagine that you prepare for heart surgery. Continue reading “Your world is dominated by the invisible. Get to know it… or else…”
Your behavior is always consistent with what you see… All your mistakes come from here…
Your behavior is always consistent with what you see.
And what you see depends 100% of your available capacities.
You don’t even look… because you know what is there… you know there is nothing to see.
The difference between a blind person and you is that the blind person knows she cannot see.
Why can’t you see? For two reasons: Continue reading “Your behavior is always consistent with what you see… All your mistakes come from here…”
Should you become a client? Would I even accept you as a client?
For decades one of my sore spots was that people refused to serve me, even though I paid them.
I remember saying to myself: my money is not good enough for you? and wept.
I had no idea how I “accomplished” that… in 20/20 hindsight it is still a little spotty.
What wasn’t clear to me, never even occurred to me, how my attitude effected the service provider. My “To what degree you think of yourself:” starting point measure was, at the time, 70%. From my behavior I would have guessed it was higher.
Mainly I overrode what they said. I argued, I knew better, I acted with contempt…
What I didn’t know then is that being a service provider needs to be a win, or no service.
A customer who is not happy is a drag on an provider, and not worth the little (or even a lot of) money they pay.
I was that kind of customer…
Continue reading “Should you become a client? Would I even accept you as a client?”
Create a life you love
Oh no! This video software that used to work doesn’t work any more. I cried out… This can happen to anyone. Technology changes so rapidly, keeping pace with it is both expensive and time consuming.
Sometimes there is an upgrade. Nowadays upgrades cost money… or the software developer simply abandoned you… and you are stranded with a software that doesn’t work any more.
I have been teaching what I teach for seven years. Teach people a worldview that has been tested and true, and includes the invisible. This worldview is sharply different from the accepted norms… but it works, instead of just being a nice theory like what psychologists and philosophers teach. Or even Landmark Education… or the Kabbalah Centre… or any of the gurus. Continue reading “Create a life you love”
The art of being well, being unphased, and impervious… for real.
I had an interesting unintended experiment this afternoon.
I have a loud burr coffee grinding machine.
I was ready to make some coffee (I drink cold dripped coffee) and ground the coffee beans while I was doing something else.
I found out that I am much better ignoring memes than ignoring loud noises. I could not hear myself thinking. I was making mistakes… I pondered what I was doing…
This gave me an opportunity to put myself in your shoes. What it must be like to be living in the constant jarring noise of the memes…
Here is what I have seen so far: Continue reading “The art of being well, being unphased, and impervious… for real.”
How did I build a latticework to hang on new knowledge?
No one asks how I have overcome the propensity, the natural inclination, tendency, predisposition, proneness, to only remember what I already knew when I first did Landmark Education programs back in 1986.
The fixed mindset thinks that I was special… that I was born special, or something like that. But the truth is that I was ordinary like everyone else, and besides that, English is my second language.
I remember when they used jargon, i had no idea what they were talking about… So I started in many ways behind everyone else. I had a lower vibration, a total sob story for a life, a victim mentality.
What was maybe special about me, is that I saw that if I wanted to get to the same place where I saw everyone else to be, I had to work twice as hard. And the rest is history.
I, like everyone else, took notes. For the most part notes are worthless. They actually keep you from hearing…
But… Continue reading “How did I build a latticework to hang on new knowledge?”
The methodology of making the invisible visible
All mischief and all power comes from the invisible. Invisible to you, and maybe invisible to society.
It’s not hidden. It is just not obvious to the untrained eyes. What your eyes need is training and guidance.
My methodology, observing life through many distinctions, is a winning one.
It drives up, and makes visible what has thus far been invisible.
Racket, frame, memes, voices, states… the distinctions are all opportunities to see another aspect of the invisible, and gain control over yourself, so you can start moving in the direction of the good life, whatever good life is for you.
For example, your soul correction. It is a distinction to look through and see some formerly invisible stuff. Continue reading “The methodology of making the invisible visible”
Reframing: our tool for creating
You’ve heard of the expression: like a deer caught in the headlights syndrome: frozen, seeing the world one way with no escape route.
Most people live their whole lives in that state: see the world in a fixed way.
To one degree or another we are all are like that.
The more of your life is lived in that state, the more powerless you feel, the less options, the less choices you see.
You can examine any two people with different results in life and you’ll see that they are stuck in one view of the world, but their view is different.
Obviously, having new choices, having new options, having different actions available to you is a good thing if you want to have a life worth living.
