“need to meet others’ expectation” is important, but why?

“need to meet others’ expectation” is important, but why?

And how it doesn’t mean to please everybody, or even one person. You’ll see…

Our language is so corrupt, it is hard to find a person who means what they say… I mean the words. You’ll see what meeting others’ expectation is… Not what’s on the illustrations… 🙁

The most willfully ignored need, in my experience, is the need to meet others’ expectation.

What prevents you from honoring that need is a misunderstanding. Or we could say: the mis-weighing bias. All biases are misunderstanding how things work, shortcuts that give you a different result than what you expected.

In not honoring but ignoring this need, your chances for success, your chances for love, for self-expression, for happiness are so greatly diminished, it’s not even funny. Continue reading ““need to meet others’ expectation” is important, but why?”

Misweighting Bias… are you penny wise and dollar foolish?

Misweighting Bias… are you penny wise and dollar foolish?

It’s Tuesday and I just got back from my exercise class.

It was full today. Everyone was in post-holiday mode, except a few people.

I had a conversation with a woman, and had a chance to see how certain words, how certain way of saying what I have been saying lands.

I shared my story, how I escaped becoming mediocre like most people. I said no to coasting with people in my life.
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Energy you need to create the good life and maintain it?

Energy you need to create the good life and maintain it?

how much energy do you need to create the good life and maintain it?If you want to grow as a person, or grow anything worth growing, you need energy. Lots of it. Continuously.

Physical law says that systems, unless they are very highly organized closed systems, like the brain, will fall apart with time (entropy)… Your life is NOT highly organized, because it is not a closed system. So in order for it to stay organized and effective, it needs a ton of energy to be injected, continually.

Left alone, your life starts falling apart. This is what happens during holidays and vacations.

Injecting energy into your life is going to be a crucial distinction you need to learn.

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Success leaves traces… as in footprints in the sand

Success leaves traces… as in footprints in the sand

Success literature, books, articles, movies about success… are they worth following?

Success leaves traces… as in footprints in the sand

If you look at what people did, how they did it, the tracks converge and become the “strait and narrow’, exactly the way Leo Tolstoy says it in the Anna Karenina Principle.

So there is no wonder that I am finding articles nowadays that I could have written myself, if I were a success writer.

There are three types of success writers and success coaches.

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Check yourself before you wreck yourself

Check yourself before you wreck yourself

Can you game the system?

Some of you think you can.

The system is the physical reality with its laws of physics.

How do I know?

We had the Days of Power meditation on December 30th. The “sky” opened at 4:07 pm.

It stays open for 24 hours.

I say it plainly on the call… every time.

If you went to use the recording of the call: your whole life, your how of life is “wanting to game the system”. Continue reading “Check yourself before you wreck yourself”

How will you have the energy to grow? How I did it…

How will you have the energy to grow? How I did it…

I saw something today I hadn’t seen before. But before I say what I saw, let me dispel some myth: there is no such thing as bad energy. Energy is energy. It is good if you use it for good. And bad if you use it for bad. I’ll write another article on this: but I have the urge to state it here and now: there is no such thing as bad energy.

All energy is good… and some meets you and triggers something bad… But it’s you… sorry. Oops.

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When will you experience life as good? Worth living?

When will you experience life as good? Worth living?

When you experience life as good, harmonious, nurturing: what is it that makes you experience it like that? What you have? What you do? Who you are with? What you have accomplished?

This is a question I bet you never asked.

You have asked different questions:

Non-physical pain explains nearly everything you do

Non-physical pain explains nearly everything you do
This article is dangerously personal…

Last night I watched a movie, Children of Men.

I remember seeing the trailer 10 years ago when it was a new movie. Then I never heard of it again until yesterday. That it is an accurate showing of where we are heading and where we already are. Continue reading “Non-physical pain explains nearly everything you do”

Is antisemitism, racism, prejudice OK?

Is antisemitism, racism, prejudice OK?

I am having an interesting issue to ponder. Maybe you can ponder with me?

The guy whose writing I am so taken with, his books, the Hungarian guy, according to my muscletest has a prejudice against Jews.

In common parlance, he is antisemitic.

Nothing special there, a full 30% of the developed countries’ population is antisemitic and 70% of the Hungarian population. 1.4% of Hungary’s population is Jewish. A total of about 140,000 people. Before the Holocaust the number was 900,000. 14.31 million worldwide, or 0.2 percent. Or two people in every thousand people.

If you are part of a minority against whom there can be or are negative prejudices, a Jew, Black, Moslem, Indian, Chinese… you’ll have this issue as a daily, in the background and maybe even in the foreground conversation.
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