Healing… is that a negative word? Is that a sign of negativity?

negative-positiveDid you know that if you say: I need healing, what you are saying is that you are sick?

This includes inner healing, faith healing, etc…

And when you start from something wrong… like “I am sick”, you are on your way to create a context that is misery every step of the way.

If I needed to define what negativity is, it’s that “what is is wrong, and it needs to be fixed.”

Yesterday I was leading my Theta State training webinar, and I felt horrible. Partially, because I wasn’t feeling well myself. Partially because my students didn’t feel well. And yet partially because one of my students wrote to me, and I needed to feel their feelings stronger than they felt them… because I am an empath.
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break out of the life the selfish gene allows you to live?

god-manHow does mind serve the ego, and ego serves the selfish gene… Evolutionary view of ‘team you’

Tuesdays are my days to interface with people who are neither my readers, nor my clients.

Ordinary people. And although it is very frustrating to me, and maybe even them, I learn a lot from these unpleasant interactions.

Ever since I read The Selfish Gene, a book, and even more since I read the book ‘Why beautiful people have daughters’ a look on life through evolutionary psychology, I am trying to match what I read with what I see, hear, and feel.


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If you want the good life, you’ll need to “do” life differently

red-rock-coulee-c2a9-2012-christopher-martin-2406If you want the good life, you’ll need to learn some stuff, and unlearn some stuff… but most importantly you’ll have to learn how to and how not to… Remember the how? How you do anything is how you do everything… it is the approach, the attitude, the beingness.

There are a great many ways you can remain unaccomplished, and left behind in life.

Almost as many ways as many people. This is the Anna Karenina Principle.

As with everything, the strait and narrow works.

Most people don’t know that what keeps them off the strait and narrow is ideas they invented, made up, and now consider the truth.

One such idea is that unless you can jump tall buildings in one leap, you should just think about it, grieve about it, and do nothing.
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Making choices: are you a rank amateur? A professional?

This may be the most important article you read this year, this decade… because this article may inspire you to become a professional at living, instead of remaining a rank amateur… aka a bumbling idiot.

Risk Management

You have two options. You need to choose. You need to choose the option that has the lower cost to your reproductive success if it turns out to be wrong. Continue reading “Making choices: are you a rank amateur? A professional?”

It’s hard to be silently brilliant. Lots of thoughts…

eb3bf6d2bcf2ecaf1ee944306d115dd2It’s hard to be silently brilliant. Lots of thoughts occur when you open your mouth.

Some days I have nothing to say. It doesn’t feel like there is anything to say that needs to be said.

Some people never have anything to say and they talk all the time. Others think that they have to first formulate it in their heads to say it, and it never comes together. Continue reading “It’s hard to be silently brilliant. Lots of thoughts…”

Self-Discipline and Brilliance: what is the connection?

I wrote this article in 2013… My self-discipline/attention was 10% then. I have grown since then, but what I write here is still OK… although I have found conation not being innate…

It is still worth reading.

Brilliance: what is it, and how is it connected to the Original Design, your vibration, and your worldview?

If you have been borderline a failure, but you think you are smart, this may be the article that you need to find your brilliance and your power to act on it.

I play the Self-Discipline Avatar State audio in the background. 24/7.

I am dealing with several issues, among others I eat the way a chain smoker smokes: from the moment I get up till the moment I go go bed. There is always something in my mouth, food, or tea, or water. It is a defense mechanism to the onslaught of feelings I have difficulty dealing with, given that they have nothing to do with me, they come from other people.

I would like to restrict my eating to a few hours a day. Why? To demonstrate my power over my behavior. And I could use dropping a few pounds, eh, about 10 or so. I am having the hardest time, though with the self-discipline audio it is a tad easier. I have already dropped 10 lbs, that’s why I have only 10 more to go.

Yesterday I had an insight:

conative_peoplethe self-discipline audio activates the self first, and then it activates your ability to learn new things, new ways of being, new ways of doing thing. I have no idea what that means to you, but I’ll tell you what I have been noticing.

I am a quick-start by nature, shoot first, no thinking.

A jumping jack. I have been taming it, or better said, I have been trying to tame it. It cuts an awful lot of work out when I take a moment or two to look first. Not look and look and think and think, just look. Much like in PhotoReading, you don’t quite look at the pages, you look behind them, and make your eyes fuzzy.

What sees the pages is not your conscious mind, it is your ‘other than conscious mind‘ and it is faster than your conscious mind by far. It is very different from what you call ‘mind’, the other than conscious mind doesn’t try to understand or evaluate, or compare, or opinionate about what it sees, it just gets it, it just sees it and that’s it. This is what I always ask you to use on my live calls, so far to no avail 🙁

When I can successfully nudge myself to look at what’s in front of me that way, the inner guidance, the inner knowing gets really strong, and I can do no wrong…

But my soul correction is trust based, specifically: I have no trust  🙁

So I need to nudge myself to look before I leap.

The interesting thing I see is that I don’t need to change myself, I only need to sneak in that brief moment of not-looking-type-looking, the other than conscious mind looking, so I don’t jump into the rocks or an empty swimming pool.

What does this have to do with brilliance? A whole lot.

In my definition, brilliance is being guided by that ‘other than conscious’ that knows it all. But it can only do its work when you know and honor your base nature.

Kathy Kolbe calls your base nature your conation. Conation is your motive power. It just works differently in all of us.

Your conative energy, your native and unchangable nature of how you get things done, how you solve problems, is largely ignored in today’s science, behavioral psychology, business training, everywhere.

Every person thinks that every other person on the planet is like them, from the point of view of how to solve things. Big mistake.

Education, formal education forces you to use a conative energy, a strength that you may not have. Your family, your workplace, they all force you to be differently than you are. That includes your coaches, your guidance counselor, your psychiatris, your case worker.

Kathy Kolbe created four clear classes for this innate energy. These are the classes:

conativeconnection1. Fact Finder
2. Follow Through
3. Quick Start
4. Implementer

Inside these classes you can be
a. Insistent
b. Accommodating
c. Resistant

You can be anywhere on this insistent-resistant continuum in any of the four classes… not the same in all four classes.

If we said that you have 20 units of creative energy, that is what you have to work with, you distribute that 20 units of energy according to your conative nature… and you are best performing when you are allowed to chose tasks and jobs and methods that closely match your nature.

I am a quick-start by nature, and I have a mild resistance/I am barely accommodating in most other modes: I can use them, but I don’t enjoy using them. I don’t enjoy research, I don’t enjoy follow up and systematization, and definitely don’t enjoy creating stuff, including videos, models, charts, etc. That’s why I hated architecture, by the way. For 22 years… lol.

Now, if you are having difficulty getting started in any new thing, if you think fear is stopping you, if you live a life of quiet desperation, then just knowing how you roll, so to say, knowing your Kolbe index, is a lifesaver and a potential turning point.

I have a lot of students who think that they are procrastinators. When you think of yourself as a procrastinator, you hate yourself. You despise yourself, You can’t have high self-esteem, self-respect. You think you should be different, that you are all wrong, and you despair.

If you are one of these people, I recommend two things: start using the self-discipline activator, and after a while you will feel the pull of the self, to start doing things your way. Because your way works for you. Because your way is where there is the most harmony between your nature and your actions.

And if you want an even faster path, to know what is your nature, order your Kolbe Conative Index, the A index. The site, kolbe.com has a ton of information.

Once you buy it, book a 15-minute session with me… I’ll help you understand it… to the best of my knowledge.

It’s hard to be silently brilliant, lots of thought occur when you open your mouth…

Make sure you send me the four digit konan number you got, example 4493. That is mine…

Why is awareness the predictor of future success, why not skills or knowledge?

shearling-coat-2The first few steps in the 67 steps are long, rich, convoluted audios. Why? Because no matter how long the audio, you’ll only get one little thing, if that, because the cone of vision of your awareness is as wide as a pencil.

Did I notice, did I take in all he spoke about my first time around doing the 67 steps? No. I didn’t.

It is like traveling in a car. If you look out the window, you miss the conversation in the car. If you take part in the conversation in the car, you miss the whole trip. If you read, if you are hungry…

The goal is to expand the cone of awareness so it’s wide. So you can see the view, partake in the conversation, and maybe even be hungry…

Now, that is, increasing your awareness is the goal… but how does it effect success?

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Theta Mode training… first take

2009I have been under the weather… mainly because of withdrawal symptoms after I stopped drinking milk. Lost my voice…

But I promised to make a video, so made a first take… not very good, but it will hold you over until I feel better and record the real training.

I am also planning on doing a webinar or two, to check if the instructions are working for you… so wait for the announcement, probably will do the first this coming weekend.

OK, here comes the video
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The Pleasure Principle and winning in life

tumblr_ni0hxucPbU1u23a8fo1_1280Psychology, as a science and as a practice has some tools: Observation and brain scans.

But the problem with either is that the human element, the interpreter between what is being seen, their mindset, their attitude, their approach, is crucial.

But, of course, this is true everywhere, except with psychologists, we expect them to interpret what they observe accurately… except they don’t. As a rule.

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No One Is A Prophet In Their Own Land, in their family

Passover and Easter around, you’ll spend time with family. You’ll see examples of “No One Is A Prophet In Their Own Land.”

You’ll be on both sides… by the way. But if you are one of my students, you will feel that you have something to teach your family: and no one will be interested. Get prepared!

In fact they will try to discourage you from continuing to pursue what you pursue when you spend time with me or my writing.

I’ve been teaching the Original Design for five years.

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