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How to get out of the rut you are in? Get unstuck…

Simple answer: You lack skills and capacities…

You can boil water, make coffee in the coffee maker. Drive a car, open your smartphone… You are not quite hopeless… or are you? Not quite hapless either… or are you?

One of the measurements in the Starting Point Measurements is your vocabulary: how well do you actually know, how accurately know what words mean…

Here we look into words (distinctions) that define your ability to live a good life… skills, competencies, abilities and such. Continue reading “How to get out of the rut you are in? Get unstuck…”

Can you turn life into a party? At a moment’s notice?

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I experienced a few weeks ago that I can bring party to life.

It was at my weekly exercise class. The teacher has 600 songs on his tablet… and we do everything to the music and the rhythm of the songs.

You can use that to do the movements normally, or the way I do it: like a crazy breakdancer… not the moves, just the temperament… I am getting old. But I used to dance like a breakdancer… no kidding.

How you dance expresses who you are the most accurately… of course within the boundaries of your physical intelligence.

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Acquiring the capacities of caring, respect, and regard

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This is a somewhat edited article from 2011. In 2011 I still thought that I can upgrade the DNA of every person on the planet.

The capacity of caring is new to humanity. On September 4 less than a handful of people had it.

So what is this capacity ‘caring’ that we give lip service to, but we lie when we do that?

Let me tell you how I came to have it some 10 years ago:

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How to turn your life around under any circumstances

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…or how should you go from where you are to where you want to be, emotionally, in your health, wealth, love, and happiness.

I just ended my core group training, and as it seems I now have some energy to coach.

Instantly three ‘associates’ called, on the same day, and I accepted all three for some friendly coaching: just for the fun of it.

Who or what kind of people are people I like to coach: Continue reading “How to turn your life around under any circumstances”

That sinking feeling in your stomach. Is it real?

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That sinking feeling… the feeling that you don’t measure up. The feeling of impending doom. Of being found out… The fear of death…

I just read an article in the New York Times, and ended up having that sinking feeling in my stomach.

I don’t often have it myself, that sinking feeling in my stomach. but I experience it from students on the calls, so I decided to investigate. Continue reading “That sinking feeling in your stomach. Is it real?”

Let’s do a community project that teaches you something!

Life, and all its conversations happen in different fields of relationships.

Make sure you scroll down to the comments… tens of great pictures, jokes… that you’ll love.

Father/child,
mother-child,
playmate-sibling,
admirer-admired and the all elusive
partnership.

Here are a few pictures to get you started.

The assignment is to gather funny memes to illustrate the different fields. Please send them to me… although if you can post a link to them in the comments that would be even better. Go for it. It’s fun and very enlightening.

Here are a few I just collected in five minutes. Continue reading “Let’s do a community project that teaches you something!”

Does thinking about something brings that thing about?

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Does thinking about something bring that thing about? Or what mistake the Law of Attraction people make that makes what they do fraud?

The simple answer to the question: ‘Does thinking about something bring that thing about?‘ is no it doesn’t. But it is not for the reason you think. It is because thinking about does not connect you to what you are thinking about.

Attention does. Continue reading “Does thinking about something brings that thing about?”

Sell dreams, not products. said Steve Jobs.

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Most purchases stay a dream only, a disappointing one at that… because…

If you are like me, if you understand the title of this article, you are terrified, dismayed, disgusted… Feel cheated, duped, bamboozled… But chances are you have no idea what the title says. You keep buying the stuff and get no results whatsoever. This article may change it for you forever.
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What makes you so angry that you can’t control yourself?

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What pulls you out of your equilibrium? What makes you so angry that you can’t control yourself?

One of my students has fits of anger. Her life is going from anger to anger, with no chance for a break.

Now, I could be condescending, I could be unsympathetic, or helpful and compassionate. But I find it more beneficial for everyone involved, including you, if I share with you what I have done.

As a rule, I use my own life, my own experiences, as a laboratory, a test laboratory, to shed light to what happens to people when they are angry, resistant, unwilling, or any one of the frequent ways of being. Continue reading “What makes you so angry that you can’t control yourself?”

You Can’t Get Enough Of What You Don’t Want

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You Can’t Get Enough Of What You Don’t Want

Warning: this is a very advanced article. You should probably start with the easier ones if you are here for the first time. OK?

An interesting glitch in the nature of reality is that our driving desire, the answer to our dreams, the one thing that would seem to fix our complaints doesn’t fix anything.

We could say that you can’t fix what’s not broken. and actually it would be a very astute remark.

But if that is the case, that the thing we are trying to fix isn’t broken, why does it seem that, what we most complain about not having, would fix it?
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