Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

Republished: The Juice Exercise: what gives you “juice” in life?

I have been coaching people for many years now. The goal was always to take people on a journey to become their best Self.

Now, the task is easier when someone knows who they are. When someone has a Self.

Most people don’t. They have a persona for each group they interact with, the family persona, the student persona, the friend, the gossiper, the entertainer, the this and the that.

Those personas (roles you play) are not you. They were created by a perceived demand in the circumstances, a perceived demand in the environment.

They leave you empty, they leave you being jerked by the shoulds, and have to’s and the wants… like a puppet on a string.

You sense that you have no control, you sense that you are not you… a vague sense.

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Unless you like yourself, you won’t like your life either…

Unless you like yourself, unless you feel good about yourself, you won’t like your life either.

Happiness is liking yourself and your life.

Not the Smokescreen…

What the smoke screen you set up hides about you… the nasty stuff… or how to learn to like yourself

There is a very important knowledge that seems to be missing for people:

Unless you like yourself, unless you feel good about yourself, you won’t like your life either.

And it is not so easy to like yourself, to feel good about yourself. Why?

Because you, internally, are well aware of the dual nature you have, and it’s disturbing.
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Witness a “measure my vibration” conversation… very educational

This is a conversation between a person who sent me a donation to find out his vibration.

The conversation worth quoting: I say a lot of important things there… so please read and heed.

Please measure my vibration. Here is my $15 donation….

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The synergy of well-being and coaching…

The arrogant me would say: I had a breakthrough in teaching the most important thing anyone can learn: getting what they want in life as a side-effect, not their whole and only intention.

I have been attempting to teach this for about 30 years.

The truth is that people got there with my help, but did not learn it from me.

I am filled with gratitude… to Tai’s program and to my students.

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Self-image… the lies, the misunderstanding, the delusions… Can you change it?

Let us not confuse ourselves by failing to recognize that there are two kinds of self-confidence — one: a trait of personality and another: that comes from knowledge of a subject. It is no particular credit to the educator to help build the first without building the second. The objective of education is not the production of self-confident fools.” ~ Albert Bandura, Self Efficacy: The Exercise of Control, p.65

When I ask a person about their self-image, they have a different image of themselves consciously than on the first brain unconscious level.

Here are a few examples:Back in 1987 my conscious self-image, the one I promoted, was that I was very smart. My unconscious, automatic self-image was that I was a failure, or more precisely, a failure waiting to happen.

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Tell me your problems and I’ll know the size of your life…

When your life is about you… when your life is about others… when your life is about ideas.. these are different sizes of a life you can have. In this article we’ll examine the effects of these levels on your peace of mind, level of fulfillment, the quality of your life.

We’ll start with me… and my experience.

In 1988 January 1, around 3 minutes after the ball dropped on Times Square, I declared something that ultimately turned my life around.

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One aspect of awareness is recognizing patterns, recognizing distinctions

The more things, patterns, behaviors, laws you recognize quickly, the more power you have in life… An success is largely dependent on your power to navigate the treacherous waters of life.

So this article is about distinctions… patterns, behaviors, laws… whatever you call them, they are essential if you want to live life on a higher level.

One demands two things of a poem. Firstly, it must be a well-made verbal object that does honor to the language in which it is written. Secondly, it must say something significant about a reality common to us all, but perceived from a unique perspective. What the poet says has never been said before, but, once he has said it, his readers recognize its validity for themselves.
~ W. H. Auden

I have been teaching what a distinction is for years now, and to my chagrin the teaching never landed… people don’t understand what I am talking about.

Here is a quote that says it better than I can say it.

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Energy healing, coaching, nutritional consulting

Yesterday I had an “energy healer” type of person on the Open Mic aka Talk to Me webinar.

Normally these webinars are really fun: we talk. Students ask questions, some great, some simple and to the point… they have fun, I have fun, and our relationship deepens.

Yesterday was a different kind of session: there was this “energy healer” guy… and he was into arguing, debating, talking about what he thinks, what he learned, blah blah blah.

He considered my webinar his forum to disseminate his wisdom. His learning. His take on the world.

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Pleasure seeking, avoiding pain behavior…

There are two kinds of pleasure.

Pleasure that is immediate, impulsive, and requires no or little sustained effort and
Pleasure that is the result of work… sustained effort.

No matter what pleasure you seek, what makes it pleasure is the contrast:

there needs to be pain for pleasure to exist. ¹

Although I could write about pleasure that you earn through hard and sustained work, and I have written hundreds of articles about it, people with too small capacity for pain (TLB) rarely turn around and become people who want to earn their pleasure.

So in this article I’ll address the pleasure seeking behavior of people, you? whose pain threshold is very low.

Pain is a discomfort. Most pain is emotional or intellectual, only some are physical.
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Donald Trump: the other side of The Donald

Soul correction… if it is accurate and really something recognizable, then you should be able to tell someone’s soul correction without knowing their birth date.

Of course you need to know the person well.

This is exactly what happened this morning.

I found an email in my inbox recommending an article on what Tony Schwartz, Donald Trump’s “The Art of The Deal” book’s ghostwriter has to say now that the Republicans make Donald Trump their presidential candidate. Donald Trump: personal vibration: 70. Number of spiritual capacities: 4, overall intelligence, including emotional and spiritual intelligence: 30. For contrast: Adolph Hitler: personal vibration: 100. spiritual capacities: 4. overall intelligence: 50.

I am only halfway in the article, and it is already clear: Donald Trump is the archetype of a bombastic liar, a delusional self-aggrandizing sociopath… The soul correction of “Finish What You Start”.

Obviously each soul correction is a scale… where the correction is done to one degree or another.

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What the smoke screen you set up hides about you… the nasty stuff… or how to learn to like yourself

there needs to be pain for pleasure to exist. 1

there needs to be pain for pleasure to exist. ¹