Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
Fighting windmills? No time to do good stuff, let alone great stuff?I just learned something terrible about myself. A lot of people hear me as if I were their father.
You see, in my family I was the dunce… meaning stupid. And even though I had straight A grades, and I was good at everything I tried, I remained stupid to my family. Continue reading “No time to do good stuff, let alone great stuff?”
This week has been a success for Life, and a disaster financially. Everyone was spending their money on turkey, I guess.
So I am going to announce some sales for this coming week. I’ll make them good… so you’ll buy.
Now, about the successes that lead me to a huge insight.
Everything that people do is guided by memes, and they think they decided to do it. And you think they decided to do it from the goodness of their heart, from the badness of their heart, whatever seem to be the case. But in fact they never decided anything… It is the memes that are doing the deciding. Continue reading “Be the one who is making the decisions in your life?”
Most people will never become truly successful.“It’s lonely at the top. 99% of people are convinced they are incapable of achieving great things, so they aim for mediocre. The level of competition is thus fiercest for ‘realistic’ goals, paradoxically making them the most competitive.”
-Tim Ferriss
Most people will never be truly successful.
The pull towards mediocrity is too strong. As David Schwartz once penned, “All around you is an environment that is trying to pull you down to Second-Class Street.”
Most people will never escape the pull. Continue reading “Why Most People Will Remain in Mediocrity”
I had an interesting unintended experiment this afternoon.
I have a loud burr coffee grinding machine.
I was ready to make some coffee (I drink cold dripped coffee) and ground the coffee beans while I was doing something else.
I found out that I am much better ignoring memes than ignoring loud noises. I could not hear myself thinking. I was making mistakes… I pondered what I was doing…
This gave me an opportunity to put myself in your shoes. What it must be like to be living in the constant jarring noise of the memes…
Here is what I have seen so far: Continue reading “The art of being well, being unphased, and impervious… for real.”
I woke up with a question: how do you build a latticework to hang all your knowledge on?
I have built a latticework, but I did not do it consciously. I just noticed that I had it and others didn’t.
As usual I wrote down the question before i went to sleep last night, but the answer wasn’t there this morning. Only the question. Urgently.
So I came to my computer, and the first link I clicked took me to an answer. Maybe THE answer. No accidents there… I clicked on a link on a website I normally don’t click on anything. Continue reading “How to start preparing your brain to build a latticework to hang new knowledge on?”
No one asks how I have overcome the propensity, the natural inclination, tendency, predisposition, proneness, to only remember what I already knew when I first did Landmark Education programs back in 1986.
The fixed mindset thinks that I was special… that I was born special, or something like that. But the truth is that I was ordinary like everyone else, and besides that, English is my second language.
I remember when they used jargon, i had no idea what they were talking about… So I started in many ways behind everyone else. I had a lower vibration, a total sob story for a life, a victim mentality.
What was maybe special about me, is that I saw that if I wanted to get to the same place where I saw everyone else to be, I had to work twice as hard. And the rest is history.
I, like everyone else, took notes. For the most part notes are worthless. They actually keep you from hearing…
But… Continue reading “How did I build a latticework to hang on new knowledge?”
All mischief and all power comes from the invisible. Invisible to you, and maybe invisible to society.
It’s not hidden. It is just not obvious to the untrained eyes. What your eyes need is training and guidance.
My methodology, observing life through many distinctions, is a winning one.
It drives up, and makes visible what has thus far been invisible.
Racket, frame, memes, voices, states… the distinctions are all opportunities to see another aspect of the invisible, and gain control over yourself, so you can start moving in the direction of the good life, whatever good life is for you.
For example, your soul correction. It is a distinction to look through and see some formerly invisible stuff. Continue reading “The methodology of making the invisible visible”
This morning I received an email from a young man who paid me to measure his starting point measurements.
He could be speaking for you.
I need to take better care to my physical body. Like you said, drinking more water is the first step.
I don’t take care of my body, and I can’t understand why.
I feel like I’m missing gratitude. I hate to say it but I don’t feel grateful, and I don’t understand why.
Gratitude probably will come up to everyone, at least in the United States, where this week is Thanksgiving week… and you are supposed to be grateful. Or pretend that you are.
If you haven’t read the articles, here are the links: your success score article and the modeling article from earlier today
I watched the 1995 movie Babe again this afternoon. I wept… again. I was deeply moved. By what, you ask?
Question: did you watch this movie? Did you stop to learn something? Continue reading “How to model yourself after successful people Part 2”
I wrote this article in 2017. It has some truth, but not all that much… I am fat again, and the weight, this time, doesn’t want to move. I don’t walk… so take it with a grain of salt… Please.
I went grocery shopping today on my own. I was carrying some 20 lbs of groceries up the steps to get home.
This was the first time in maybe 6-7 years. I don’t drive. So I walked and took the bus and walked some more.
Why am I doing this?Life tends to make us soft, complacent, comfortable, and comfortable people don’t grow, don’t evolve. In fact they devolve, they shrink.
So when I first had this brought to my attention, in one of the steps of the 67 steps, I set out to make life and myself comfortable with nob being comfortable… and I started to devise new and newer ways to toughen up.
I keep the house at a steady 47 degrees. I walk. I now walk to get my grocery. I walked this week to get a haircut. I refrain from palliative remedies.
It is a great idea to read Freud’s ‘Civilization and its discontents’ to see what you, humans do to deal with the fact that life is hard.
He says: Life, as we find it, is too hard for us; it brings us too many pains, disappointments and impossible tasks. In order to bear it we cannot dispense with palliative measures
The benefits are immeasurable, whereas the palliative measures benefits are tiny.
One benefit is developing, opening up new spiritual capacities. The ones that will, eventually, lift you to the next evolutionary stage: human being.
When you start directing and controlling your epigenetic shifts where you actually cause your genetics change, its exhilarating. And change you to in ways you have always hoped you would change.
I ran into Leo, my musician friend. I explained to him that carrying those 20 lbs of groceries illustrated to me what it was like to climb the steps a year ago, when I was about 20 lbs heavier. In 18 months I shed 40 lbs.
I said ‘no it isn’t…’ He wanted to know how, and I told him that is what I get paid the big bucks for. He laughed, but it got me thinking.
There is a secret that is worth a lot of money:
As long as you eat food that isn’t compatible with your body and wants more of itself… and as long as you eat in a way that isn’t working for your body, you are going to suffer from deprivation… And although that is not work, not in the strict sense of the word, losing weight while you are dealing with a sense of deprivation, hunger, cravings is hard.
The two components of a successful and easy eating regimen, 1. what you eat, and 2. how you eat are equally important.
I haven’t written about the eating styles lately, even though, I see that eating according to your eating style is about 50% of success.
I am still not 100% adhering to mine, by the way. It’s taking me forever to surrender. I am now at 90% doing it… 1
I am lucky, I get instant heartburn from not adhering to my particular eating style. So I get a kick in the stomach as a feedback. 2
The distinction comes from the Human Design people, and some of it is b.s. but some of it has been tested and has proven very accurate.
Depending on your mutt factor, your eating style is closer or further from how our ancestors ate about 20-30 thousand years ago.
I am closer to the ancestors in my mutt factor, and my eating style is the closest to how they ate.
When I work with people, I muscletest their eating style… instead of muscletesting their mutt factor.
Factor 1: Some people need to smell their food and that starts the appetite… Appetite is the body’s message that it is able to receive and digest the food you consider. I call this type ‘cat’.
Some people need to taste their food to start the digestive juices working.
Hunger is not the same as appetite. Hunger is not necessary for appetite, in fact I haven’t been hungry for months now.
Salivation is an indicator that you are ready to eat.
Factor 2: Many people won’t get well if they cook and eat the way their mom prepared the big meals.
I, and many of my clients/students need to eat one food-thing per meal. I consider fat, salt, water, not a food-thing in this regard. I might be wrong. Too early to know.
I can eat fried eggs, but not a cheese omelet. Not even goat cheese omelet, even though goat cheese is on my allowed food list. And so are eggs. My type is called separator. Or a newer word: Alternator.
Some people are allowed to eat more than one thing per meal, if they don’t eat them in the same mouthful. The type is called Consecutive eating style.
I call the Consecutive eaters lucky… They are usually younger, as young as children.
And then some people are allowed to eat ‘normal’, to eat proper meals.
It’s quite a challenge for me to find out what eating style will work for people… Often I need to experiment. Often the style changes… like everything.
One thing is certain: if you eat only the foods in the combination that the style allows, you’ll have an easy time to be well, have lots of energy, sleep well, and never be hungry or crave foods that are not on your list.Our bodies haven’t changed much in the past 30,000 years… and the further away you go from how we used to eat, the less health you’ll have.
OK… a little shift in topic:
His truth value is 30%.
Whenever he talks about the things he first hand experienced, he is right on… or close enough.
But whenever he falls victim to the certainty bias, where causation and correlation are confused, he is wrong.
Dr Wallach says that the reason people in the Southern states die earlier is because of the fried food they eat.
So today when I was frying my catfish (yumm!) I asked Source, and the result I got is that that is bull…
Vegetable oils block most essential nutrients from being absorbed. That is the likely cause of the lower life expectancy of anyone who uses vegetable oils, not the frying.In my family my mother switched to vegetable oils in the 1950’s… I think, and with that she effectively killed my father, killed herself, and is killing her two sons.
I don’t use vegetable oils, and haven’t since I listened to Dr. Wallach’s expose Dead Doctors Don’t Die.
There are other likely reasons for early death… Milk and milk products.The A1 protein that causes plaque, diabetes, and whatever else that’s horrible… like addiction to morphine.
I was hooked on milk for most of my life, even though I felt it was really bad for me.
More than half of the 18 months were spent trying to kick the milk habit. It is an addiction that is really hard to break.
And here is an aside:
The French Paradox is b.s.The French is thinner, and has less heart trouble deaths.
They eat tons of cheese and butter. Yum.
The difference is the breed of cow that gives the milk.
Dieters in France are getting fat… they replaced butter with oils… We, Americans, dumb down the world.
But I did it, and my weight is still going down. I now weigh what I weighed 30 years ago.
Even though I am only 90% adherent to my preferred style of eating.
Was it hard? It has been, actually both interesting, and uplifting. To me.
