Category: Feelings: the 13th Floor

What can you do to finally become worth a damn?

I am continuing the “fire in the belly” concept from the previous article

I am what you would call a “quickstart”…
Although conation (Kathy Kolbe’s testing method, most interested in how you do things) measures something innate, like it’s your nature, it can also give you indication about where you are leaking fire. When I look at people and their conation chart, the Kolbe index, I can see how they stay the same, how they avoid discomfort, how they dampen their fire.

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How you dampen the fire that motivates you to grow

I came up with the expression “top 10% of your mind” many years ago, when I was teaching the What Color is Your Parachute workshop.

It is said that you only use 5% of your brain. But, of course, you use  your brain most of the time, but not for something worth using a precision instrument even the stupidest person possesses. Continue reading “How you dampen the fire that motivates you to grow”

The most frequent energy leak that holds you back

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I just realized that I left out one of the most frequent energy leaks, need leaks from the last article.

And that is the minuscule pleasure you gain when you feel clever, when you feel you got one over someone, when you are told you are clever.

Or maybe that you are pretty. Maybe some other compliment, that you are put together. Or that you do a good job. Or that someone pays attention to you. It is all the same bait.

Any compliment that you find important.

You are the guy/gal who, when you do the five questions exercise, you pay attention to the positive feedback. When you listen to me: you are waiting for the positive feedback… and hear none of the negative, or if you do, you grieve about it, but won’t change a thing.

You are a whore for little pleasures, ego boost, ego gratification, ego stroking.

You sold who you could be for a bowl of lentils. Bowl of lentils or whatever it was that Esau sold his firstborn right to Jacob for.

You always thought he was stupid, he was greedy… but he was you.

As long as you are hooked on this pleasure/release, you’ll never amount to anything… guaranteed. Because anything worth achieving requires you to control the release… to bear with discomfort, to hold your peepee, so to say.

To be someone who can handle it.

I am lucky. My parents never complimented me, so I never thought I was clever and I never thought that I don’t have to work for things.

They did tell my two brothers, though. And both of them suffered because of it.

One married someone who pushed him, the other one married someone who didn’t.

Their lives turned out as different as their wives…

And me? I worked my ass off, got into trouble, got thrown out, was rich, was poor, went from country to country, learned seven languages, and here I am, attempting to teach you something that can change your life, that can return you to the path of becoming a person, to fulfill the Original Design.

Obviously my chances are between slim and none.

Because to change, you need to make a huge and consistent effort to take more and more discomfort, more and more pain, without trying to fix it.

Do you want to? I don’t feel that you are… but I am willing to be surprised.

Some of you are… to some degree.

One of the tests is what you do with the guidance you get from me about your health.

If you do well with it, then you probably will do well with everything.

If you don’t… well, we know that how you do anything is how you do everything.

One good sign I have: the new clients are a whole new breed. And with them I think I can start a revolution.

The old clients, nearly all came at the time when it seemed that what I am about is doing it for you… energy healing and such.

Or: just connect to Source and get everything you wanted.

Laughable. But you see I had to get clearer myself… and I have to admit it to you and to myself that I didn’t know how to take you to the promised land, to Heaven on Earth, because a lot of knowledge was still missing.

And my hunch is there is still a lot missing. But the truth value of what I am teaching is climbing steadily.

And it’s a journey. If you are waiting for someone who knows everything you’ll get someone who pretends that they know everything… just like you have.

You have uncomfortable feelings? The why will surprise you

This is a very important article. If you just read one article, this is it. Without getting this, what I am showing here, you can’t and won’t be able to fulfill your destiny as a human.
This morning I looked up the expression ‘eager beaver’ in Hungarian. And cried again. This time without tears. This time, not for myself. This time for humanity.
This article is what you can get when you cry with your eyes open…

To belong to the cool guys, you needed to, at least, pretend, that work, school work, reading, learning, achieving are not important to you.

It is pretending that you don’t care.

The cool guys are losers. In life. But they look good. Continue reading “You have uncomfortable feelings? The why will surprise you”

Out of sight, out of mind… the death of all intentions

A lot of years ago a guy, another participant stood up in a Landmark Education seminar and shared something that has impacted my life to this day.

Here is what he said:

“The other day I was lying on the couch, working on a report for my workplace.

I didn’t like what I wrote, so I crumpled the paper and pitched it to the waste basket that was on the other side of the room. After missing it several times, my wife picked up the waste basket and put it right next to me.”

That was all he said. I was shaken to the core. Move the things you need close to where you need them… Hah.

Because we don’t live that way. We hope to get everything done. We make to-do lists, but something always falls by the wayside.

If and when you add a new thing to do, which happens all the time, something else falls off, or you forget to do it.

You live a life that is set up to remain the same. No matter what you want… no matter what you say.
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Love is not a feeling. Love is generosity. Allowing

love is generosity. love is allowing the other to fulfill their need while we are fulfilling ours.Love is not a feeling. Love is generosity. Allowing the other to fulfill their needs while you are fulfilling your own

This article is not about the “love” you, or Wikipedia call love… it’s about another love… What we customarily call love is a “hardware-based need”, the need to make our genes to survive in some offspring. And some of us may call the need for pleasure, the need to get rid of the unpleasant guiding feeling of “horniness” love. Those are misnomers, dressing something as something else… prettier.

Most people have plenty of sex, no love. Some people have no sex, and plenty of love.

The two needs are not connected. Continue reading “Love is not a feeling. Love is generosity. Allowing”

How the left brain blocks all your attempts to evolve as a person…

I am reading a book 1 that says that humans used to be able to live from their right-brain, meaning they were a lot more intelligent.

The book says that people with damage to their left brain can become savants, exceptional in one or two abilities, or vegetables… lol, maybe not so funny.

Then the book doesn’t talk about me, who did have damage to my left brain hemisphere, and when the brain was knocked self-conscious, the two hemispheres connected and became one.

The good news: I only have some troubles with my left-brain capacities, adding numbers wrong, confusing left and right, and dyslexia: reading what isn’t there, or when it’s bad: not being able to read at all.

The bad news: Your left brain works well, and it suppresses your right brain, the abilities that are beyond words… like being, feeling, knowing, seeing, patterns… all the things I am trying to teach you. My hunch that everything gurus, religions etc. say about the heart, it is really the right brain… And what they call the subconscious is also the right brain. Suppressed, of course, showing itself only occasionally on for a brief second…

Your left brain gets the words, filters out everything it considers garbage, and you are left with what you already knew.

That is the bad news.
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“need to meet others’ expectation” is important, but why?

And how it doesn’t mean to please everybody, or even one person. You’ll see…

Our language is so corrupt, it is hard to find a person who means what they say… I mean the words. You’ll see what meeting others’ expectation is… Not what’s on the illustrations… 🙁

The most willfully ignored need, in my experience, is the need to meet others’ expectation.

What prevents you from honoring that need is a misunderstanding. Or we could say: the mis-weighing bias. All biases are misunderstanding how things work, shortcuts that give you a different result than what you expected.

In not honoring but ignoring this need, your chances for success, your chances for love, for self-expression, for happiness are so greatly diminished, it’s not even funny. Continue reading ““need to meet others’ expectation” is important, but why?”

Success leaves traces… as in footprints in the sand

Success literature, books, articles, movies about success… are they worth following?

Success leaves traces… as in footprints in the sand

If you look at what people did, how they did it, the tracks converge and become the “strait and narrow’, exactly the way Leo Tolstoy says it in the Anna Karenina Principle.

So there is no wonder that I am finding articles nowadays that I could have written myself, if I were a success writer.

There are three types of success writers and success coaches.

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When will you experience life as good? Worth living?

When you experience life as good, harmonious, nurturing: what is it that makes you experience it like that? What you have? What you do? Who you are with? What you have accomplished?

This is a question I bet you never asked.

You have asked different questions: