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I just learned a new word. Mentality. and social attitudes

This article was designed to make you look… to be interactive, co-creative.

Even the pictures are a question: what is the mentality, what is the attitude, the social attitude, that it represents? Please work with me: you’ll get insight from it, Guaranteed.

And I will need your help with mining all the gold that can be found in that new word.

Can you tell what someone’s mentality is? I bet you have never asked this question, am I right? I don’t think I have, at least not this word. Maybe I used mindset. Maybe I used attitude… but I don’t think I have ever used the word: mentality.

Now, why is mentality a brilliant word?

Because it is the “characteristic attitude” one has.

I saw this word this morning as I was looking for an article I read yesterday on playing the lottery. I’ll talk about it later… let me just stay with the word, for now.

Your mentality, I say, is invisible to you. You see the results of it, but you don’t see it. You need a person outside of you to see it.

Characteristic attitude can be about anything… but here are a few ways to look at attitude

something is more important than others (morals/winning, freedom/comfort, etc. this is hard to see, at least seeing yours is near impossible)
Something is better than other things (pairs of things come here, like alone/companionship, poor/rich, smart/stupid, etc.)
I and you… our relationship to each other (you are above me, I am smarter, you are smarter…)
who or what has the power… and where do I stand in this?
who deserves and who doesn’t (religious people deserve, nice people deserve, I was bad: I don’t deserve, etc.)
where do I stand on the totem pole… (hierarchy) in this dog eat dog world? (I am the scum of the earth, worthless, I am the best, etc.)

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Spiritual capacities: Abundance, and my barriers to it

I have had a few skype calls with friends in Hungary recently. I had a hard time expressing myself when the conversation came to my work. It seems that I have been trapped in one way of saying things, naming thing, untranslatable to another culture, no words, just stammers. Result: they don’t quite get it.

I saw that I could use phrases similar to what other “spiritual teachers”, the popular ones, the ones that sold out to the mainstream, use to success, like the gurus of Mindvalley…

They go for the hungry crowd, and rake it in… I mean the money…

Millions of people search for the stuff these gurus sell… none of it works, because the stuff they teach isn’t true, therefore it can’t work. And, or course, millions of people are ALWAYS wrong. If it appeals to millions then it’s crap… Because that is what appeals to the majority that is always wrong…

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Only failures, only mistakes teach you anything useful

I have been leading a webinar for quite a while, and it has always been brilliant, both to participate in and to lead.

It has always delivered on the promise:

show you what’s missing in an area of life, something that you can do something about so you can get unstuck and have that area of life be a lot better… and consequently all of your life.
Effect you so strong that it would get you, or a lot of you, finally get off your ass, and into action.

It’s worked for years… and this past weekend it didn’t.

I have now spent hours looking, and finally I see it. I see what happened. I see what I did differently. I missed the most important job of the workshop… Continue reading “Only failures, only mistakes teach you anything useful”

One step of the what’s missing workshop is sobering. As in a horrible wake up call…

While writing this article, unexpectedly, I managed to break through a self-imposed barrier I have had… It’s unexpected… Bear with me till the end, please…

In this step of the What’s Missing workshop, the participants’ task is to look at an area of life that isn’t working as well as it could… and look how it will look in 5-10 years if nothing changes.

Rule is: You won’t change your actions… or how you do your actions. You won’t change your attitude…

Result 5-10 years later: homeless, fired, alone, dead, in jail…

These are just examples. Some results are worse than this. Unfulfilled is the worst…

Turns out that the saying, the observation that ‘how you do anything is how you do everything’ finds its roots in this exercise.
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Empathy… Life’s most important capacity to master

In my inquiries, I find that more and more capacities that I’ve assumed we all have, it turns out, we don’t.

The question that has been puzzling me is why certain ethnic groups that were persecuted at any one time don’t recognize a similarly persecuted other ethnic group as comrades in suffering. Why one victim can’t and won’t give you a hoot about another victim’s misery.

I mostly see this in movies nowadays, but I used to participate in groups and in big seminars, so I have been seeing this forever.

But this was the first time I asked the question: why is this?

Are these bad people? And I guess that is what I have been stuck with until yesterday.

Yesterday I asked the question: is it a capacity to see the same fate in another?

The answer was yes. Hm… but then what is the capacity? Is it the seeing or is it the appreciating of it?
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Could you be crying and be unphased at the same time?

Can you listen to insults to your family, your god, your country and be unphased?

Can you watch death and grieving and be unphased?

I am unphased 91% of the time. Very few things pull me out of the equilibrium. Times when I need to recover so I can return to being well and being unphased. All of these situations are self-created. none of them are real.

I cry a lot. Why? I feel people’s grief, I feel centuries old sadness, I feel people’s pain of not being allowed to grow, or even to live. Continue reading “Could you be crying and be unphased at the same time?”

Why do I use harsh language, why do I provoke you all the time? Or how do you grow a self?

One of my jobs in causing transformation is to be an agent provocateur… to provoke people in my articles, on my webinars… keep on provoking.

Everything that upsets you drives up some way that you are off… off from the Tree of Life.

One recent occurrence was provoking Canadians about Canada.

Canadians are very sensitive about their country… just like a fat woman is sensitive about being called fat.

When you are offended… you can be sure that you identified with something outside of you… and don’t have a self.

In order to do this work, you need a crystallized self… as Gurjieff said.

I have no idea what that means, but no self is definitely not that… lol.

The slightest wind upsets you… you have no core, you have no toughness… you’ll never grow, until you grow a self.

How do you grow a self?
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Paint the Chicks Purple… a great story to illustrate capacity activation

DNA capacity activation is all about activating the resources of hidden and dormant in your DNA… capacities that mean the difference between a so-so life, and a good life, like resourcefulness and seeing the big picture.

All of the capacities are attitudes and emotional abilities… how you do things, not what you do.

Here is an article I saw that shows a good example or decision-making that uses capacities most people need but don’t have:

The “Purple Chick” strategy:

So what can chicken farmers in the rural district of Nakuru, in Kenya, teach us about resourcefulness?

Well it’s like this:
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The role of structures in happiness, in achievement, in a life worth living

I am about as religious as a teacup… and that is actually one of the freedoms that allow me to experiment, to allow myself to be guided through torturous paths, to use my life to discover law-like phenomena, to read everything and the opposite, to allow myself to go from despair to elation and back…

Life, the Universe is largely unknowable. You can, by the way, call it “god” if you wish… and please do that if that will allow you to follow this discussion.

This article will be a little bit hodge-podge, given that I have to gather a lot of disparate stuff to make sense in the end. So bear with me.

Your ability to bear with me will be consistent with the number of capacities you have active on your DNA… If you, like most of humanity, have seven capacities active: you’ll have to hang in there, and maybe read it a few times.

OK, let’s begin:
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DNA capacity: Deserving… Being Deserving…

Some 12 years ago I was in a training program to lead introductory seminars… in essence sell a program in live 3-hour seminars.

The woman who trained us had a steady 80% effectiveness, meaning out of every 10 people, 8 shelled out $500 dollars to do a 3-day course.

The average number for the hundreds of introduction leaders in the world was about 20%… two out of ten attendees.

When we asked what was her secret, she said: I have an attitude: “Of course they register”.

Now, depending on where you are on the deserving scale, this probably sounds to you entitled, arrogant, or stupid wishful thinking.

Even then I knew she was onto something. I felt it. I felt that she was deserving of spending her time effectively with people who hear her. And I felt that she included every single person in that being deserving… the attendees of her introductions, and myself.
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