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He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
One thing the book Flowers for Algernon did not prepare me for is how scary it is to get too smart too quickly.
I have been experimenting with different capacities… what they do, what behavior, what insight they possible.
One of these capacities increased my capacity (it had been turned on, but not fully utilized by me) to see many steps ahead and act accordingly.
And for the first time since I started this work, I got scared.
Continue reading “Getting really smart is scary”
If you had a childhood trauma… what is the best way to deal with it now, so you can grow?
Some of you were abused as a child.
Now, strictly speaking, there is no such thing as abuse in reality. Abuse is a particular interpretation of something that happened. If I asked a visiting Martian what happened, he would say things like one person hit the other, or one person yelled at another, or one person tied up another, pushed them down, maybe even put one part of their anatomy into the other… but not abuse.
Abuse never happened… or it happened only if you said so… for you. In your mouth. In your interpretation.
Some things don’t exist outside of language… they don’t exist in reality. Abuse is just one of these. One other “thing” that doesn’t exist in reality is lack… In reality only things that are there exist.
New age gurus talk about the importance of the words you use. Of course, either because you are dumb or they are dumb, this gets generalized.
Continue reading “How words really effect you? And how positive thinkers are stupid”
Most people that complain about lack of opportunities would fumble the ball if they got it… Fumble means: drop the ball.
The illusion is that what is missing is an opportunity, the funding, the money to start something… is an illusion, and it is a very harmful illusion. It makes you look at blame… not yourself.
Similar to this: support is missing. If your parents, spouse, the society supported you… blah blah blah.
It’s all illusion… as in a lie. Bull crap.
There was an incident in my life that I go back to often.
Continue reading “Lack of opportunities… giving opportunities… all myth… Dark Side suggestion”
There are many approaches to fix a problem, but all fixes are more harmful than the original problem.
Why?
and ultimately that kind of solution: a fix, is the root of the next problem. Like marriage: a fix for loneliness, and the start of more and bigger problems… yet it doesn’t stop loneliness… (Marriage is two people combining efforts to solve problems that would not exist without the marriage…) Continue reading “The Dark Side suggestion that love heals the world”
The quality of your life, whether you grow or not will depend on the quality of the projects you work on… not plan, not dream about, but work on.
“If you want to live a middle-class life, solve a middle-class problem. If you want to live a world-class life, solve a world-class problem.” -Steve Siebold, CSP
In terms of what we do here, middle class in the quote means low vibration… world-class means expanding.
When you look at your life, you can tell (unless you are lying to yourself) what kind of projects you are working on.
You use your life for your projects… and if your biggest project is shopping and cooking for Thanksgiving… well, that is the size of your life.
Your projects are either about you, or about something bigger than you.
Continue reading “The quality of your life, whether you grow or not, will depend on…”
Why would I say something sacra-religious like this?
Because saying what you are grateful only includes what you like.
What about the 99% of your life, of people, of things, that you don’t like, or just barely tolerate?
Can you say: I am grateful for that?
When it is a dark day: can you be grateful for that? When your friend is pushing your buttons: can you be grateful for that? When you feel bad, tired, nauseated, can you be grateful for that?
Yeah, I know, you can say you are, but are you?
You are lying.
Because you only see value where you see value, not everywhere.
Continue reading “Thanksgiving… if you want to be honest, it is just a meal.”
If you were born, you have a soul correction.
There is no jumping into “desire to receive for the sake of sharing”, which selfless, charitable, do gooders try to do.
Being charitable, giving, do-gooding, selfless is NOT desire to receive for the sake of sharing, it is just more “desire to receive for the self alone.”
Bummer, eh?
As I am sitting here pondering one of my favorite students’ Reclaim share where she is proudly telling me that her husband walked in during the webinar, evidently hungry, she could courageously ignore him and not be interrupted.
My, my…
You may not hear anything: I hear “nasty piece of work”, or simply: “desire to receive for the self alone.”
Continue reading “Want to become a nice person? Here is a clue that you aren’t”
This question is coming up with increasing frequency.
You should ONLY activate a capacity if and when you need it, when you have a use for it, and it’s missing. Otherwise you won’t know what to do with it, and won’t use it.
Ego will declare it a ballast… and turn it off.
What is the most important ingredient that you need to grow and need new capacities turned on?
It’s ambition.
Ambition is an inner force that propels you towards growth, upwards, onwards. It only has direction, and not a goal. If you have a goal, it is not ambition, it is desire… aka greed. All ego. Wanting to have.
Continue reading “DNA capacities… how many should you get activated?”
When you have a capacity activated… will you be great right away? Courageous, insightful, self-trusting?
One of the “results” I’ve been seeing is this:
The ego is responsible, or at least feels responsible for your survival. It’s like a domineering mother… it professes to know what is good for you and what isn’t.
Mothers will stop you from becoming all you can be… unless…
Unless you bother to sweet-talk them into seeing your side of the situation.
Negotiating, sweet talking, enrolling people who “should” be on your side is universally missing. I have spoken about that in the context of agreements you never made. 1
Continue reading “You have a capacity activated will you be great right away?”
I have said before: What you see is the most important element in your life. In this article you’ll see, that what you see is also directed by where you are looking…
You can look at one thing or you can look at another ting… and your actions will be sharply different.
For completeness sake, where you are looking from is also an important factor… where the ‘where’ is not a place, it’s an attitude, expectation, or an already knowing. Continue reading “What can my recent anger teach you? Let’s look…”
