Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

My 67 step coaching program was inspired by a Neal Stephenson novel

The inspiration to coach using Tai Lopez’s 67 steps came from one of my all time favorite books, the Neal Stephenson novel, Diamond Age.

In that novel, science fiction, far in the future, a scientist puts together an interactive book, a primer, for a rich and influential client’s grand daughter. And then he steals it… meaning: duplicates it without permission.

He means to give it to his daughter, but accidentally it goes to a very young, very poor, very disadvantaged girl, Nell.

Nell grows into a veritable person and a hero as a result of interacting with the book.

Not READING the book, but interacting with the book… doing what the book says to do, answering the book’s questions, etc.

It is not what she learned from the book that made her a person, by the way. It is the constant redirecting the book provided. Getting to know herself. Minding her job as a person… not worrying about others’ opinion of her, or what she is doing, of what one is supposed to do. Continue reading “My 67 step coaching program was inspired by a Neal Stephenson novel”

How Visualization Probably Won’t Help you

Visualization is a tool to accomplish what you want, but it can also be the tool to diagnose what you are not resonating with. Or a tool to get trapped in the desire trap.

The ultimate clue as to what you can have and hold onto, is to what degree you can visualize, what detail, what variety of images you can have in your “movie”.

This is what vision boards and vision movies use.

As with any other singular method, the results are a mixed bag: about 6% of the users see their vision materialize, some sees some result, most see no result.

Why is that? why is it that a Frank Kern, millionaire marketer, can envision in one afternoon a whole life, with a lot of details, like the tiles of the bathroom, and a few years later get exactly that, while another person can’t imagine a coherent image, and can’t get results…

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When will you experience life as good? Worth living?

When you experience life as good, harmonious, nurturing: what is it that makes you experience it like that? What you have? What you do? Who you are with? What you have accomplished?

This is a question I bet you never asked.

You have asked different questions:

What did I do to deserve this misery? Why me?
…or you’ve been asking me: What shall I do with my life? What is the purpose of my life? What kind of work shall I do?
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Growth is like chocolate working out the lumps by itself

How to grow…I dreamed it. Or rather I was kept up by it…I dreamed BEING chocolate… Working out all the bumps and unevenness… And I knew what it meant.

Then I got up… ran to my computer to write it down, because it is so important… By now it is almost like an unreal memory… But this is how much I could capture for you:

The way to grow and growing into excellent is to keep making parts of you better, until there is nothing to make better. Even and smooth like chocolate.
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On Venus, Have We Got a Rabbi! A Jewish story

A long-lost space age satire about what it means to be a Jew from one of science fiction’s greatest humorists

By William Tenn

source: https://www.tabletmag.com/jewish-arts-and-culture/202356/on-venus-have-we-got-a-rabbi
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What is the purpose of life?

I watched a movie last night… actually, it took me two nights to watch. It was a Korean movie, a historical movie. An old hunter and a huge tiger… bound for life by gratitude and tragedy. I am still weeping… I’ll explain.

It is all about the purpose of life… and the purposelessness of life, if you wish.

Your answer will depend on where you’re looking from.

In the movie, once both the hunter and the tiger lost their progeny, their offspring, and their hopes for the survival of their genes ended, they are both ready to die themselves. The purpose of life ended with the loss of their offspring.
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Choose your life in the first hour of your day. The Backdrop

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Every day works best if and when you have a context set in the first hour of the day.

If you prefer the imprecise New Age-y language of Esther Hicks, the original quote is here

Take the time to line up the Energy first, and action becomes inconsequential. If you don’t take the time to line up the Energy, if you don’t find the feeling place of what you’re looking for, not enough action in the world will make any difference.

She is trying to say the same thing. Trying. Continue reading “Choose your life in the first hour of your day. The Backdrop”

The ability to be in awe. how will it matter for your life?

Sometimes it is the people no one can imagine anything of who do the things no one can imagine~Alan Turing

I watched yet another movie about Alan Turing and how his machine won the war against Nazi Germany.

I would not be around without him. My parents, my race would have perished. And you would live a totally different life… The book (and the Amazon series) The Man in the High Castle approximates…

I am in awe. With what he did, with who he was, with genius winning, with goodness winning.

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Never practice surgery on your family and other lessons

Developing the habit of looking before you leap

You have habits, thought patterns, beliefs, practices that guarantee that your life will not change, especially won’t change for the better.

When you do a course, read a book, or talk to a coach, you want to do and change the most important thing about your life: drop 30 pounds, start a new business, or leave your husband. Continue reading “Never practice surgery on your family and other lessons”

Want to find your self? Express it? Be true to it? Be motivated by it?

I started to read the book by Edward Deci, “Why we do what we do. Understanding self-motivation”.

This is the first book, that I know, that defines self the way, or similarly the way I do…

To become a person, to have autonomy, self-determination, self-expression, integrity, self-motivation, the most important job is to find the self, by distinguishing what is the driver of all your actions, whether it is inner or outer.

And if it is inner… is it the self, or is it the “not-self”?

Greed, narcissism, hate… area inner motivators, but they are all the not-self. So are all the “negative” emotions, like frustration, haste, the desire to fix, to punish, to suffer… etc. Continue reading “Want to find your self? Express it? Be true to it? Be motivated by it?”