What is the difference: I get to shovel the 10 inch snow… and I have to shovel show?

In my weekly coaching call with my only business/marketing student last night, I went deep into the causes of why someone with a degree, why someone who is making a living, cannot move further up the life-satisfaction, life effectiveness scale.

I have found two blatant holes in him, that my guess is shared by all of you, or most of you.

  • 1. a total blindness of what gives meaning and therefore the mood for life.
  • 2. a total inability to see what is cause and what is effect.

So how do you fix that? You don’t.

When you find something that isn’t working or isn’t working as well as you’d like it to, your knee jerk reaction is to fix it. Or change it. Or stop doing it.

But unless what you found is seed level, you can work till the cows come home, and you will only produce pretense, but not a change.

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Becoming like god where you create with your word.

Becoming like god where you create with your word.

With regards to the title… I am not suggesting that you become like Jesus… but become like the Creator, who supposedly said: there shall be light… or whatever he said… This Creator created with his word. That is the god I mean…

The main difference between a human and a human being, the next level of human evolution, is an inner difference. Not biological, physical, physiological. Instead a difference in what tells the one and the other to do things, what attitude to have, how to do things.

Humans listen to memes, the voices. Voices that are not the human’s friends, voices that have no rhyme and reason, voices that make the human misbehave, and take actions that on the long run make him miserable.

Humans say things, but they don’t stick. They violate their own word, human word is cheap. Why? Because a random voice comes around and overwrite it. That’s why. Continue reading “Becoming like god where you create with your word.”

You can’t become extraordinary if you live an ordinary life

You can’t become extraordinary if you live an ordinary life

I am getting a lot of requests to teach people how to become people who live a life worth living, who excel in all four areas, all four pillars of the good life.

My answer is almost always: Sorry I can’t help you.

But why?

Today I got lucky and got my answer in a pristine form.

My University classmate, Panni called me. We talk once a month. She is, of course an architect: we were classmates in architecture school, a five year study.

And she is a mother and a grandmother. Continue reading “You can’t become extraordinary if you live an ordinary life”

31 Quotes That Will Give You Chills

Some people die at 25 and aren’t buried until 75. ~ Benjamin Franklin

 

    1. Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions. Their lives a mimicry. Their passions a quotation. ~ Oscar Wilde

 

    1. Two possibilities exist: Either we are alone in the universe or we are not. Both are equally terrifying. ~ Arthur C. Clark

 

    1. Great spirits have often encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds. ~ Albert Einstein

 

    1. Of all sad words of mouth or pen, the saddest are these: it might have been. ~ John Greenleaf Whittier

 

    1. I fear not the man who has practised 10,000 kicks, but I do fear the man who has practised one kick 10,000 times. ~ Bruce Lee

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Should you become a client? Would I even accept you as a client?

For decades one of my sore spots was that people refused to serve me, even though I paid them.

I remember saying to myself: my money is not good enough for you? and wept.

I had no idea how I “accomplished” that… in 20/20 hindsight it is still a little spotty.

What wasn’t clear to me, never even occurred to me, how my attitude effected the service provider. My “To what degree you think of yourself:” starting point measure was, at the time, 70%. From my behavior I would have guessed it was higher.

Mainly I overrode what they said. I argued, I knew better, I acted with contempt…

What I didn’t know then is that being a service provider needs to be a win, or no service.

A customer who is not happy is a drag on an provider, and not worth the little (or even a lot of) money they pay.

I was that kind of customer…
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Vibrational Review: Muse – the brain sensing headband… a meditation device, Ariel Garten and Jordan Peterson

The idea for the Muse came from Ariel Garten, personal vibration 120, a Canadian entrepreneur… curiously deserving a Wikipedia entry, while Dr. Joel Wallach hasn’t. Ugh. Continue reading “Vibrational Review: Muse – the brain sensing headband… a meditation device, Ariel Garten and Jordan Peterson”

Reframing: is losing weight hard? is it hard work?

Reframing: is losing weight hard? is it hard work?

I wrote this article in 2017. It has some truth, but not all that much… I am fat again, and the weight, this time, doesn’t want to move. I don’t walk… so take it with a grain of salt… Please.

 

I went grocery shopping today on my own. I was carrying some 20 lbs of groceries up the steps to get home.

This was the first time in maybe 6-7 years. I don’t drive. So I walked and took the bus and walked some more.

Why am I doing this?

Life tends to make us soft, complacent, comfortable, and comfortable people don’t grow, don’t evolve. In fact they devolve, they shrink.

So when I first had this brought to my attention, in one of the steps of the 67 steps, I set out to make life and myself comfortable with nob being comfortable… and I started to devise new and newer ways to toughen up.

I keep the house at a steady 47 degrees. I walk. I now walk to get my grocery. I walked this week to get a haircut. I refrain from palliative remedies.

It is a great idea to read Freud’s ‘Civilization and its discontents’ to see what you, humans do to deal with the fact that life is hard.

He says: Life, as we find it, is too hard for us; it brings us too many pains, disappointments and impossible tasks. In order to bear it we cannot dispense with palliative measures

Life is hard, but you can start dealing with life instead of running from the hardness, instead: dealing with the hardness. Dealing with life.

The benefits are immeasurable, whereas the palliative measures benefits are tiny.

One benefit is developing, opening up new spiritual capacities. The ones that will, eventually, lift you to the next evolutionary stage: human being.

When you start directing and controlling your epigenetic shifts where you actually cause your genetics change, its exhilarating. And change you to in ways you have always hoped you would change.

I ran into Leo, my musician friend. I explained to him that carrying those 20 lbs of groceries illustrated to me what it was like to climb the steps a year ago, when I was about 20 lbs heavier. In 18 months I shed 40 lbs.

He said: Losing 40 pounds is hard work.

I said ‘no it isn’t…’ He wanted to know how, and I told him that is what I get paid the big bucks for. He laughed, but it got me thinking.

There is a secret that is worth a lot of money:

As long as you eat food that isn’t compatible with your body and wants more of itself… and as long as you eat in a way that isn’t working for your body, you are going to suffer from deprivation… And although that is not work, not in the strict sense of the word, losing weight while you are dealing with a sense of deprivation, hunger, cravings is hard.

The two components of a successful and easy eating regimen, 1. what you eat, and 2. how you eat are equally important.

I haven’t written about the eating styles lately, even though, I see that eating according to your eating style is about 50% of success.

I am still not 100% adhering to mine, by the way. It’s taking me forever to surrender. I am now at 90% doing it… 1

I am lucky, I get instant heartburn from not adhering to my particular eating style. So I get a kick in the stomach as a feedback. 2

So what is an eating style?

The distinction comes from the Human Design people, and some of it is b.s. but some of it has been tested and has proven very accurate.

Depending on your mutt factor, your eating style is closer or further from how our ancestors ate about 20-30 thousand years ago.

I am closer to the ancestors in my mutt factor, and my eating style is the closest to how they ate.

When I work with people, I muscletest their eating style… instead of muscletesting their mutt factor.

  • Eating style factor 1: how do you know you are ready to eat?
  • Eating style factor 2: how you make your meals?

Factor 1: Some people need to smell their food and that starts the appetite… Appetite is the body’s message that it is able to receive and digest the food you consider. I call this type ‘cat’.

Some people need to taste their food to start the digestive juices working.

Hunger is not the same as appetite. Hunger is not necessary for appetite, in fact I haven’t been hungry for months now.

Salivation is an indicator that you are ready to eat.

Factor 2: Many people won’t get well if they cook and eat the way their mom prepared the big meals.

I, and many of my clients/students need to eat one food-thing per meal. I consider fat, salt, water, not a food-thing in this regard. I might be wrong. Too early to know.

I can eat fried eggs, but not a cheese omelet. Not even goat cheese omelet, even though goat cheese is on my allowed food list. And so are eggs. My type is called separator. Or a newer word: Alternator.

Some people are allowed to eat more than one thing per meal, if they don’t eat them in the same mouthful. The type is called Consecutive eating style.

I call the Consecutive eaters lucky… They are usually younger, as young as children.

And then some people are allowed to eat ‘normal’, to eat proper meals.

It’s quite a challenge for me to find out what eating style will work for people… Often I need to experiment. Often the style changes… like everything.

One thing is certain: if you eat only the foods in the combination that the style allows, you’ll have an easy time to be well, have lots of energy, sleep well, and never be hungry or crave foods that are not on your list.

Our bodies haven’t changed much in the past 30,000 years… and the further away you go from how we used to eat, the less health you’ll have.

OK… a little shift in topic:

As you know I have been studying Dr. Joel Wallach for 25 years.

His truth value is 30%.

Whenever he talks about the things he first hand experienced, he is right on… or close enough.

But whenever he falls victim to the certainty bias, where causation and correlation are confused, he is wrong.

It is very difficult to see what causes what in health. Testing is near impossible, and money concerns color the ‘scientific’ data.

Dr Wallach says that the reason people in the Southern states die earlier is because of the fried food they eat.

So today when I was frying my catfish (yumm!) I asked Source, and the result I got is that that is bull…

  • Frying my fish in ghee (clarified butter, the protein burned out of it) is actually not harmful.
  • Frying stuff in animal fat: ditto
  • Frying any fish in vegetable oil, including coconut or olive – on the other hand – is not something anyone’s body has adjusted to. Our ancestors didn’t do that.
Vegetable oils block most essential nutrients from being absorbed. That is the likely cause of the lower life expectancy of anyone who uses vegetable oils, not the frying.

In my family my mother switched to vegetable oils in the 1950’s… I think, and with that she effectively killed my father, killed herself, and is killing her two sons.

I don’t use vegetable oils, and haven’t since I listened to Dr. Wallach’s expose Dead Doctors Don’t Die.

There are other likely reasons for early death… Milk and milk products.

The A1 protein that causes plaque, diabetes, and whatever else that’s horrible… like addiction to morphine.

I was hooked on milk for most of my life, even though I felt it was really bad for me.

More than half of the 18 months were spent trying to kick the milk habit. It is an addiction that is really hard to break.

And here is an aside:

The French Paradox is b.s.

The French is thinner, and has less heart trouble deaths.

They eat tons of cheese and butter. Yum.

The difference is the breed of cow that gives the milk.

Dieters in France are getting fat… they replaced butter with oils… We, Americans, dumb down the world.

But I did it, and my weight is still going down. I now weigh what I weighed 30 years ago.

Even though I am only 90% adherent to my preferred style of eating.

Was it hard? It has been, actually both interesting, and uplifting. To me.

 

Reframing: How old are you being I ponder?

Raising your vibration, raising your coherence is your job. With my help. The helping is my job.

I am experiencing a blissful period in my work.

  • I personally experience seeing things from a higher place and in a richer way.
  • I also experience that suddenly more of my students are getting coherent than normal… than before.

Someone said: when you succeed you celebrate, when you fail you ponder.

But a really successful person ponders, no matter what.

Continue reading “Reframing: How old are you being I ponder?”

Reframing: What do you consider your higher power?

Frame: Your higher power? 3

Back in 1988 I had an emotional meltdown. I suddenly remembered things from my childhood.

I was suggested by someone in Landmark Education that it would be beneficial for me to join an ACOA group. Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families.

I did. I had clear signals that I belonged. #1 of the identifying features of ACOA people is “I don’t know who I am”. 4

Anyway, an ACOA group is not a fun place. Continue reading “Reframing: What do you consider your higher power?”

Will you evolve? Is it in the cards for you?

Will you evolve? Is it in the cards for you?

This article is about personal evolution… going from where, how, who you are today to a higher level, a higher organization where you can be, have, do more.

Personal development covers activities that improve awareness and identity, develop talents and potential, build human capital and facilitate employability, enhance the quality of life and contribute to the realization of dreams and aspirations… from Wikipedia

As I am browsing the many pages of many self-proclaimed gurus about the topic, what is most striking is this: all think that they are there… up there… And looking from that imaginary height, they claim what the levels are.

That is the problem with imagination. You can only imagine things on your level, inside your paradigm. The higher paradigms cannot be imagined. Bummer, eh?

So you need to trust, and move into the invisible, the unknown, the maybe unfriendly… 🙁

Fear is normal. In fact, fear is healthy. If you are not afraid, you live in your imagination… and will wake up with your hand in the chamberpot… as we Jews say.

So what this means is this: you don’t know where you are going. I don’t know where I am going. I am, at best, taking you to where I have been. And then, if I am lucky, walk with you, trembling with hope and fear… with you.

Recommendation: when you see a website that has a graphic that names the levels: leave. They are lying to you. They are taking you on a ride. They have something to sell you.

Here are a few examples. Click on the pictures to view them full size.

 

 

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It’s November 10, and the ground is covered with snow where I live. My hands are cold, I am contemplating putting on my typing gloves: gloves that the tip of the finger is cut off so I can type.

I started to keep my house cold in the winter a few years ago, but went all hogs with it last winter: my thermostat is set to 47 degrees (9 degrees Celsius) day and night, and I have a heating pad under my desk and a heating pad on the wall about two meters from my right shoulder on the wall in my office. I also have a heating pad in the bathroom that I turn on when I plan to take a shower.

Why am I doing this? Continue reading “Will you evolve? Is it in the cards for you?”