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It’s not worth it… you moan…
Is it worth it to invest your energy in something that is uncertain? It’s not worth it, or is it?… It is all about whether it is worth it for YOU or not…
Continue reading “The cold fireplace syndrome: Is it worth feeding the fire?”
This is a brilliant article… except one thing: I see this same thing across the board, across all ages. 20 to 70…
So this article is probably written about you, accurately, if you are not happy when you are not happy.
Say hi to Lucy. 
Lucy is part of Generation Y, the generation born between the late 1970s and the mid 1990s. She’s also part of a yuppie culture that makes up a large portion of Gen Y.
I have a term for yuppies in the Gen Y age group—I call them Gen Y Protagonists & Special Yuppies, or GYPSYs. A GYPSY is a unique brand of yuppie, one who thinks they are the main character of a very special story.
So Lucy’s enjoying her GYPSY life, and she’s very pleased to be Lucy. Only issue is this one thing:
Lucy’s kind of unhappy.
To get to the bottom of why, we need to define what makes someone happy or unhappy in the first place.
The hardest pull to resist is the pull of your “how” nature. Or what type of activity do you rush into… headfirst… That activity can be four kinds… four conative types, four types of conative actions… reading, planning, action, and execution.
Scientific name for your “how” is Conation. It is innate, and it is NOT changeable.
Regardless… I have been looking at taming my own… I find that it is not tamable. It is what it is.
But I have come to suspect that what you do after you do what your Conation makes you do is when the magic happens.
You see, all people belong to three types. People who make things happen, people who watch things happen, and people who wonder what happened. But all three types will, if you ask them, explain why they did what they did… and it will be all a lie. A big fat lie. Continue reading “The hardest pull to resist is the pull of your “how” nature. Or what type of activity you rush into… headfirst…”
Let’s observe how you write… and then we’ll see how you live your life.
Most people first-draft-people… they never re-write. Others carefully craft the format, but don’t touch what they said… the content. And then others wait until they think they have something profound to say… and that is rarely.
All good writing is re-writing. Both writing literature and “writing”, crafting your life, your story. 1 If you are not willing to write badly you are not willing to write well either. And if you can’t see that your first draft is bad, you will never look at it again.
In this article I’ll focus on the category who is afraid to take actions that would re-write their life… they stick with the first draft.
Continue reading “How is living like writing a book? Good writing is re-writing…”
The story. Your story. It is either inspiring or it is depressing… either way it’s the context of your life
Your story can be your personal story. Telling what happened from your personal point of view. No creativity is required: it’s already applied generously.
Why? How? Anything that happened is turned into words… and words, whenever applied, create a story, a story line, an interpretation. Filters added creatively… Skewed.
Your story can be the story of your heritage. No matter how you tell this story: it is filtered through opinions, beliefs, and other filters.
You think a story tells something about the past.
But a story tells your future: reliably. Continue reading “The story. Your story. It is either inspiring or it is depressing…”
What is wrong with movies, TV series, that I can’t stomach… or barely?
I am talking about good stories. I am talking about shows with good or passable actors, good directing… And yet the show is scarcely enjoyable because the character doesn’t fit. the inner world of the character is off… tells a different story.
Like the serial killer in The Fall… more about it later.
Continue reading “Casting errors in movies and what you can learn from them for your life”
“It is more important to know where you are going than to get there quickly. Do not mistake activity for achievement.”
I am old. And pretty much alone in the world. Not lonely. Alone.
How I do is entirely up to me. No support system, no cushion, flying without a net.
The notion has different effect on people. The effect is on their actions… or more precisely, on the attitude with which they take the actions.
Changeability, adaptability is the secret of living a consistently good life… but changeability and adaptability depend on awareness. As your awareness grows in the four pillars of the good life, so your success and the quality of your life…
By the way, did you notice I didn’t say “learn about awareness…” but that is what you read? Right?
In the old Forum program, the Forum Leader came in, screaming at us, poor unsuspecting brand new participants: For you Everything is the same as everything else … except not always.
It took me years to decipher that and see that it is true.
Continue reading “Learn awareness, the strongest indicator of health, wealth, love, and happiness”
I read a lot of books. About 100 books a year. Cover to cover. I don’t subscribe to Tai’s reading method…
I left a 2000 book library when I left Hungary. that was 34 years ago.
Every book is an opportunity to shatter my view of the world. And many do. Sometimes not directly… sometimes through the effect the book has on other people.
This is what is happening with this book I am currently reading, The Upside of Your Dark Side. And previously with the book “Curious”
My view of others got turned upside down… sideways… OMG. Talk about upsetting my apple cart! lol.
Continue reading “You want it effortlessly… Want thrilling, want pleasure, want abundance…”
What is the intrinsic role of commitment… making a commitment, committing to something?
Ever asked the question why people get engaged? Engaged to be married…
Engagement is making a commitment…
But commitment is tricky.
Real commitment comes from the Intrinsic Self, and you don’t need to make it. It is what the Intrinsic Self wants you to do…
Most things you call commitment, are impositions on the Intrinsic Self, impositions on you. Duty, obligation, drudgery.
They come from either an outside goal or an ego goal… and they don’t get the support of the Intrinsic Self.
The engagement period drives up the real sentiments, and if there is any honesty, will prove or disprove the authenticity of the commitment.
Authenticity means: coming from the intrinsic Self.
Continue reading “What is the intrinsic role of commitment…?”
