Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
Being a coach sounds easy to you if you have no idea what they are doing, because you have never done it.
You just do what everyone else does, and hope for the best.
A “normal” coach only knows what they learned. Tree of Knowledge. Not worthless, but not authentic. Continue reading “Coaching that gets results vs. coaching that sounds good”
There are really two types of people when it comes to making more money: one group will chase the mirage, the lottery approach, winning, betting on schemes… and the other, the tiny group that sees that making more money is a natural fallout of becoming worth a damn.
I am interested in talking to the second group, the tiny group.
You see, knowing that you should become worth a damn is nice and dandy… but knowing with pinpoint accuracy where you aren’t… what it is that you need to do next to increase your worth a damn factor is crucial.
Life is holographic. Maybe it is the Universe… but who am I to just repeat something I heard… I don’t know about the Universe. But I do know about Life. Continue reading “Pinpoint accuracy or shotgun method? Lottery Approach?”
Like with any diet, both the what and the how are crucially important.
I’ll show you later in this article, that even if you eat the right things, if you eat wrongly, the how, you won’t feel good… you won’t get well. You won’t be present to life.
And so it is with your Netflix diet as well.
I watch only stuff that will teach me the skills by pointing me to the capacities I could distinguish and then practice. I even take notes!
Whenever I see something noteworthy, I stop and contemplate it for minutes… long minutes. I consider Netflix my mentor… Continue reading “Why and how I watch Netflix? How my Netflix diet is not binging?”
If investing 10 years in service of learning a profession, learning an art would make you a winner… then there would be a lot of winners. A lot more than there are…
…and neither do or know their mentors, their trainers, their managers, their teachers. 1
Continue reading “What is the truth about the 10 dark years, 10,000 hours and 10,000 experiments”
Billionaires are rare creatures.
One of the things you can learn about them is this: they could have become billionaires in almost any business. Not just the one they actually did.
I mean it. But they chose the business they chose, and they chose based on what they saw. Continue reading “Raising your intelligence will pay off in spades?”
Latticework can be likened to a Christmas Tree. Some teachers call it scaffolding… by the way.
I once had a boy friend who bought tree ornaments as gifts every Christmas. Even to people who didn’t have a tree… ;-/
One of the barriers to real knowledge, I have found in my students, is compartmentalizing. Continue reading “The latticework on which you hang new knowledge”
For decades one of my sore spots was that people refused to serve me, even though I paid them.
I remember saying to myself: my money is not good enough for you? and wept.
I had no idea how I “accomplished” that… in 20/20 hindsight it is still a little spotty.
What wasn’t clear to me, never even occurred to me, how my attitude effected the service provider. My “To what degree you think of yourself:” starting point measure was, at the time, 70%. From my behavior I would have guessed it was higher.
Mainly I overrode what they said. I argued, I knew better, I acted with contempt…
What I didn’t know then is that being a service provider needs to be a win, or no service.
A customer who is not happy is a drag on an provider, and not worth the little (or even a lot of) money they pay.
I was that kind of customer…
Continue reading “Should you become a client? Would I even accept you as a client?”
All mischief and all power comes from the invisible. Invisible to you, and maybe invisible to society.
It’s not hidden. It is just not obvious to the untrained eyes. What your eyes need is training and guidance.
My methodology, observing life through many distinctions, is a winning one.
It drives up, and makes visible what has thus far been invisible.
Racket, frame, memes, voices, states… the distinctions are all opportunities to see another aspect of the invisible, and gain control over yourself, so you can start moving in the direction of the good life, whatever good life is for you.
For example, your soul correction. It is a distinction to look through and see some formerly invisible stuff. Continue reading “The methodology of making the invisible visible”
This article is about personal evolution… going from where, how, who you are today to a higher level, a higher organization where you can be, have, do more.
Personal development covers activities that improve awareness and identity, develop talents and potential, build human capital and facilitate employability, enhance the quality of life and contribute to the realization of dreams and aspirations… from Wikipedia
As I am browsing the many pages of many self-proclaimed gurus about the topic, what is most striking is this: all think that they are there… up there… And looking from that imaginary height, they claim what the levels are.
That is the problem with imagination. You can only imagine things on your level, inside your paradigm. The higher paradigms cannot be imagined. Bummer, eh?
So you need to trust, and move into the invisible, the unknown, the maybe unfriendly… 🙁
Fear is normal. In fact, fear is healthy. If you are not afraid, you live in your imagination… and will wake up with your hand in the chamberpot… as we Jews say.
So what this means is this: you don’t know where you are going. I don’t know where I am going. I am, at best, taking you to where I have been. And then, if I am lucky, walk with you, trembling with hope and fear… with you.
Recommendation: when you see a website that has a graphic that names the levels: leave. They are lying to you. They are taking you on a ride. They have something to sell you.
Here are a few examples. Click on the pictures to view them full size. 
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It’s November 10, and the ground is covered with snow where I live. My hands are cold, I am contemplating putting on my typing gloves: gloves that the tip of the finger is cut off so I can type.
I started to keep my house cold in the winter a few years ago, but went all hogs with it last winter: my thermostat is set to 47 degrees (9 degrees Celsius) day and night, and I have a heating pad under my desk and a heating pad on the wall about two meters from my right shoulder on the wall in my office. I also have a heating pad in the bathroom that I turn on when I plan to take a shower.
What is the difference between an opinion 2 and an assessment, an observation, a statement, a theory, a hypothesis?
Many people use one word for many different things…
I have this “friend” who climbs the same steps I climb, except that he climbs it seven times each time, I climb it once or twice. He is a little younger than me.
I am fond of him: he is one of the handful of people I regularly talk to, eye to eye.
I often walk with him as he walks home: I guess I am hungry for human companionship: 10-20 minutes at a clip. Continue reading “Opinion? How should you hear what someone says?”
