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He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
Not surprisingly, I hope, the difference between homo sapiens (thinking man) and Human Being is this elusive “thing”: beingness.
Continue reading “Your beingness… the inner guidance underneath it all”
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I just realized that I left out one of the most frequent energy leaks, need leaks from the last article.
And that is the minuscule pleasure you gain when you feel clever, when you feel you got one over someone, when you are told you are clever.
Or maybe that you are pretty. Maybe some other compliment, that you are put together. Or that you do a good job. Or that someone pays attention to you. It is all the same bait.
You are the guy/gal who, when you do the five questions exercise, you pay attention to the positive feedback. When you listen to me: you are waiting for the positive feedback… and hear none of the negative, or if you do, you grieve about it, but won’t change a thing.
You are a whore for little pleasures, ego boost, ego gratification, ego stroking.
You sold who you could be for a bowl of lentils. Bowl of lentils or whatever it was that Esau sold his firstborn right to Jacob for.
As long as you are hooked on this pleasure/release, you’ll never amount to anything… guaranteed. Because anything worth achieving requires you to control the release… to bear with discomfort, to hold your peepee, so to say.
I am lucky. My parents never complimented me, so I never thought I was clever and I never thought that I don’t have to work for things.
They did tell my two brothers, though. And both of them suffered because of it.
One married someone who pushed him, the other one married someone who didn’t.
And me? I worked my ass off, got into trouble, got thrown out, was rich, was poor, went from country to country, learned seven languages, and here I am, attempting to teach you something that can change your life, that can return you to the path of becoming a person, to fulfill the Original Design.
Obviously my chances are between slim and none.
Because to change, you need to make a huge and consistent effort to take more and more discomfort, more and more pain, without trying to fix it.
Do you want to? I don’t feel that you are… but I am willing to be surprised.
Some of you are… to some degree.
If you do well with it, then you probably will do well with everything.
If you don’t… well, we know that how you do anything is how you do everything.
One good sign I have: the new clients are a whole new breed. And with them I think I can start a revolution.
The old clients, nearly all came at the time when it seemed that what I am about is doing it for you… energy healing and such.
Or: just connect to Source and get everything you wanted.
Laughable. But you see I had to get clearer myself… and I have to admit it to you and to myself that I didn’t know how to take you to the promised land, to Heaven on Earth, because a lot of knowledge was still missing.
And my hunch is there is still a lot missing. But the truth value of what I am teaching is climbing steadily.
And it’s a journey. If you are waiting for someone who knows everything you’ll get someone who pretends that they know everything… just like you have.
Motto: Mentor: Someone whose hindsight can become your foresight
In 1981 I got a letter from a man from Israel. He claimed to be a second cousin on my father’s side to me. He was coming to an educational conference in Hungary. He came with his wife.
We spent time together, they were staying with me, in my one-bedroom high-rise apartment in Budapest. He visited with every member of my family, and witnessed their contempt for me first hand.
He promised to be family to me if I decided to go to Israel.
One year later I packed a suitcase and left Hungary. illegally. It was winter in Hungary when I left, in fact it was below 15 minus, very cold. It was about 80 degrees in Israel when I arrived, penniless. I knew one word in Hebrew: shalom.
There are three categories of gurus and three types of seekers that fit each other as glove and hand
Naive, pliable, hopeful. Hoping that what you are doing is going to take you out of the misery: having feelings, and a constant battle inside between the aspects of a human being, each pulling in a different direction.You really really really want to be enlightened! Really… lol. But you know you aren’t. There is shame and guilt and sadness in your emotions, and often anguish: the fear of being caught. Ultimately you “do” this spirituality stuff to get away from being human. You fail. There is no escape… you are human, with all that comes with that territory. Continue reading “The 3 Categories Of Gurus Mirrored In The 3 Types Of Seekers”
If you live a fragmented life… your life is full of wanting to, having to, needing to and should.The common thread that can unify your life, the different areas, is who you are. Continue reading “The only spiritual practice that raises your vibration”
I find that most people want to be mindless… Get a solution and never look again, never think again.
Tai calls this: an experiment run too long.
But for most people experiments are non-existent. They want to live their lives as puppies or kitties… not as humans.
Why is that? you ask… whether you are one of “most people” or one of the few who are individuals.
To answer that why question,
Continue reading “It takes tweaking to get things right… including your diet”
This article is politically incorrect, and somewhat philosophical…
Not up for it? Spare yourself frustration, and don’t read it.
OK… now that only the eleven or so readers that are up for it remain reading, I can be blunt, and use some six letter words… lol.
Of course, this is, at least partially tongue in cheek…
OK, I am going to, first talk about a new insight I have on religion, then about Jews, capacities, genetically smarter… and other politically incorrect subjects that are keeping me busy pondering today.
Continue reading “Religion, smart Jews, and being a good person… what do spiritual capacities have to do with it?”
A German who escaped just before all the Jews were hoarded into concentration camps in Germany, came to the United States.
His name was Robert Hartman.
His experience with evil uniquely qualified him to set out to deal with the age long question: what is evil, what is good?
He took on himself to define good… the strait and narrow. Many philosophers failed in that: after all the strait and narrow is delineated by the land that encloses it, not by itself…
But he succeeded.
I wrote this article in 2013… My self-discipline/attention was 10% then. I have grown since then, but what I write here is still OK… although I have found conation not being innate…
It is still worth reading.
If you have been borderline a failure, but you think you are smart, this may be the article that you need to find your brilliance and your power to act on it.
I play the Self-Discipline Avatar State audio in the background. 24/7.
I am dealing with several issues, among others I eat the way a chain smoker smokes: from the moment I get up till the moment I go go bed. There is always something in my mouth, food, or tea, or water. It is a defense mechanism to the onslaught of feelings I have difficulty dealing with, given that they have nothing to do with me, they come from other people.
I would like to restrict my eating to a few hours a day. Why? To demonstrate my power over my behavior. And I could use dropping a few pounds, eh, about 10 or so. I am having the hardest time, though with the self-discipline audio it is a tad easier. I have already dropped 10 lbs, that’s why I have only 10 more to go.
Yesterday I had an insight:
the self-discipline audio activates the self first, and then it activates your ability to learn new things, new ways of being, new ways of doing thing. I have no idea what that means to you, but I’ll tell you what I have been noticing.
I am a quick-start by nature, shoot first, no thinking.
A jumping jack. I have been taming it, or better said, I have been trying to tame it. It cuts an awful lot of work out when I take a moment or two to look first. Not look and look and think and think, just look. Much like in PhotoReading, you don’t quite look at the pages, you look behind them, and make your eyes fuzzy.
What sees the pages is not your conscious mind, it is your ‘other than conscious mind‘ and it is faster than your conscious mind by far. It is very different from what you call ‘mind’, the other than conscious mind doesn’t try to understand or evaluate, or compare, or opinionate about what it sees, it just gets it, it just sees it and that’s it. This is what I always ask you to use on my live calls, so far to no avail 🙁
When I can successfully nudge myself to look at what’s in front of me that way, the inner guidance, the inner knowing gets really strong, and I can do no wrong…
But my soul correction is trust based, specifically: I have no trust 🙁
So I need to nudge myself to look before I leap.The interesting thing I see is that I don’t need to change myself, I only need to sneak in that brief moment of not-looking-type-looking, the other than conscious mind looking, so I don’t jump into the rocks or an empty swimming pool.
What does this have to do with brilliance? A whole lot.
In my definition, brilliance is being guided by that ‘other than conscious’ that knows it all. But it can only do its work when you know and honor your base nature.
Kathy Kolbe calls your base nature your conation. Conation is your motive power. It just works differently in all of us.
Your conative energy, your native and unchangable nature of how you get things done, how you solve problems, is largely ignored in today’s science, behavioral psychology, business training, everywhere.
Every person thinks that every other person on the planet is like them, from the point of view of how to solve things. Big mistake.
Education, formal education forces you to use a conative energy, a strength that you may not have. Your family, your workplace, they all force you to be differently than you are. That includes your coaches, your guidance counselor, your psychiatris, your case worker.
Kathy Kolbe created four clear classes for this innate energy. These are the classes:
1. Fact Finder
2. Follow Through
3. Quick Start
4. Implementer
Inside these classes you can be
a. Insistent
b. Accommodating
c. Resistant
You can be anywhere on this insistent-resistant continuum in any of the four classes… not the same in all four classes.
If we said that you have 20 units of creative energy, that is what you have to work with, you distribute that 20 units of energy according to your conative nature… and you are best performing when you are allowed to chose tasks and jobs and methods that closely match your nature.
I am a quick-start by nature, and I have a mild resistance/I am barely accommodating in most other modes: I can use them, but I don’t enjoy using them. I don’t enjoy research, I don’t enjoy follow up and systematization, and definitely don’t enjoy creating stuff, including videos, models, charts, etc. That’s why I hated architecture, by the way. For 22 years… lol.
Now, if you are having difficulty getting started in any new thing, if you think fear is stopping you, if you live a life of quiet desperation, then just knowing how you roll, so to say, knowing your Kolbe index, is a lifesaver and a potential turning point.
I have a lot of students who think that they are procrastinators. When you think of yourself as a procrastinator, you hate yourself. You despise yourself, You can’t have high self-esteem, self-respect. You think you should be different, that you are all wrong, and you despair.
If you are one of these people, I recommend two things: start using the self-discipline activator, and after a while you will feel the pull of the self, to start doing things your way. Because your way works for you. Because your way is where there is the most harmony between your nature and your actions.
And if you want an even faster path, to know what is your nature, order your Kolbe Conative Index, the A index. The site, kolbe.com has a ton of information.
Once you buy it, book a 15-minute session with me… I’ll help you understand it… to the best of my knowledge.
Make sure you send me the four digit konan number you got, example 4493. That is mine…
Passover and Easter around, you’ll spend time with family. You’ll see examples of “No One Is A Prophet In Their Own Land.”
You’ll be on both sides… by the way. But if you are one of my students, you will feel that you have something to teach your family: and no one will be interested. Get prepared!
In fact they will try to discourage you from continuing to pursue what you pursue when you spend time with me or my writing.
Continue reading “No One Is A Prophet In Their Own Land, in their family”
