I am getting a lot of requests to teach people how to become people who live a life worth living, who excel in all four areas, all four pillars of the good life.
My answer is almost always: Sorry I can’t help you.
But why?
Today I got lucky and got my answer in a pristine form.
My University classmate, Panni called me. We talk once a month. She is, of course an architect: we were classmates in architecture school, a five year study.
Everything you ever wanted is available to you, if…
… if you are willing to look and see what is so about you and your life.
The truth. Naked. Ugly. Often shameful.
Here is a correspondence I had with a client today:
She said: “I’m interested in changing my context since it’s part of what keeps me stuck.”
“… answering the questions: what am I doing? Why am I doing it?
Unless you have done the work of identifying what you have been doing, and why you have been doing it, no way you can shift the context. You cannot catch what you can’t see. And you cannot change what you can’t catch.” Continue reading “Everything you ever wanted is available to you, if…”
For decades one of my sore spots was that people refused to serve me, even though I paid them.
I remember saying to myself: my money is not good enough for you? and wept.
I had no idea how I “accomplished” that… in 20/20 hindsight it is still a little spotty.
What wasn’t clear to me, never even occurred to me, how my attitude effected the service provider. My “To what degree you think of yourself:” starting point measure was, at the time, 70%. From my behavior I would have guessed it was higher.
Mainly I overrode what they said. I argued, I knew better, I acted with contempt…
What I didn’t know then is that being a service provider needs to be a win, or no service.
A customer who is not happy is a drag on an provider, and not worth the little (or even a lot of) money they pay.
What you say and what you do… when it comes to your children becoming educated, productive people
One of the signs of the overwhelming inauthenticity and low level of integrity is the gap between what people say and what people do.
My definition of authenticity is that there is nothing in the unsaid. Nothing in the unsaid that isn’t consistent with what is visible…
In essence, no lying by omission.
Authenticity is one of those big words that no one knows what it really means… so they go by feeling. The simplest way to define authenticity is that there is no pretense, no façade, no game playing. The person is the same through and through. When they are seen and when they are not.
Most people smile a lot in their pictures, but I can feel their anxiety, their fear, their inner trembling. An inauthentic smile.
One more thing that I haven’t said before, but given that we are working with memes and affirmations: if you obey memes, if you repeat memes, if you try to fit in with memes, you cannot be authentic.
Because your inner you, whether you know who it is or what it is, knows that what you are saying, what you are doing is not you… you are trying to fit in. Fitting in is not authentic.
Werner has a saying about authenticity: he says we are always inauthentic, so we can only be authentic (tell the truth) about our inauthenticity.
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One of the measures in the Starting Point Measurements is the inauthenticity measure.
I have been surveying mothers and fathers of children to find out to what degree they care about their children’s future.
Life wants more life… so one would assume that both men and women will want their children to become all they can become.
And when it comes to lip-service, this is often what they say.
But when it comes to putting their money where their mouth is… the truth is vastly different.
Less than one percent of women spend money on their children’s future. Education, skill building, music lessons, language lessons, educational toys, etc.
30% of men do.
If you listen to memes, you are now surprised.
Memes tout women as more caring, but these numbers talk against the memes.
Actually, in my experience, what women see as caring makes their children dependent on them, and makes their children a TLB-1…
Having barely any chance of making it in life.
TLB 1 people want me to be nice to them, to protect them, to be like a mother. But the whole field of mother-child is bankrupt when it comes to helping children become strong adults.
The words ‘caring’ and ‘love’ mean different things to different people: there is barely any agreement about any of it.
But we can agree to disagree… how women hear the words love and caring, I am guessing from their behavior, is being loved and being cared for.
To women it means Receiving. Desire to receive for the self alone.
While men hear it, maybe, as a giving, as an earning, as something that allows them to function in the world better, given that their sexual needs, and maybe some other needs can be taken care of.
In my occasional conversations, women behave like this 80% of the time, or maybe it is 80% of women 100% of the time?
I don’t know.
But the number of women who don’t recognize what ‘deal’ they entered when they got married is staggering. The deal the man thought was made, what the man thought the deal was is that the woman will help their spouse make a living. That the will become mothers to the future generation so the man’s genes will get expression.
This is not only true about talented, high earning women: this is true for women who are not high earning, not learned, not highly skilled.
And of course between parties who didn’t spell out the ‘deal’, and now they are at odds, the children are a burden, or mere negotiating chips.
I do see exceptions, when the woman is exceptional.
And occasionally I do see role reversals as well.
This is not genetic. This is meme based.
The genes know what is important.
The memes say what is profitable for the meme creators.
Don’t be mistaken: memes, the meme creators have a profit motive, and they may also have an overwhelming desire to create a zombie consumer society where they can sway popular opinion at will.
All you need to do to create a zombie consumer society is to keep people be interested in some vague ideal that they need to fill, be pretty, thin, crave sex, and to harass the men so they can never feel at peace and in balance.
Or be a career woman who fights for equal income, even if she can’t focus at work with sick children at home. To have the children be a burden.
No matter which direction the memes sway you, you are not on the side of life.
All the shoulds and all the should nots are memes. All of them. With one agenda: to keep you out of balance, to keep you buying stuff… to be needy and wanty.
For many centuries it was only religion with its memes. But today… with the social sites… ugh.
With more and more memes every generation of humans is less sturdy, less hardy, less willing to be a self-starter when it comes to educating themselves… because there is hardly anyone who cares about it… other than caring to give lip-service.
The Reality Challenge will be ongoing… so you can sign up if you are at all interested in weeding out the memes… so you can start being the driver of your life.
What is the difference between an opinion 1 and an assessment, an observation, a statement, a theory, a hypothesis?
Many people use one word for many different things…
I have this “friend” who climbs the same steps I climb, except that he climbs it seven times each time, I climb it once or twice. He is a little younger than me.
I am fond of him: he is one of the handful of people I regularly talk to, eye to eye.
Money, happiness, health… are they unattainable to you?
Meme is a cultural/shared belief. vs. a personal belief… let me enlighten you about the differences.
In the Starting Point Measurements, #11 To what degree you think of yourself is a crucial indicator. We call it your about-me score.
#11 indicates to what degree you can tell if something is yours or not yours. If that something is about you or not about you.
The meme that everything is personal is strengthened by the so-called spiritual teachers, who will help you get rid of your money beliefs, or love beliefs, or food/body beliefs?
By saying these beliefs are personal, they are on the side of the conspiracy, the memes, not on your side.
By saying these are subconscious beliefs, YOUR beliefs, and that you can beat them… like Mind Movies peddler Natalie Ledwell suggests that you can, they use these memes to line their pockets and empty yours.
The subject of this starting point measurements is young, still in school. Yet I don’t know her.
Because she is so young, I went into more details than I normally would, because it is going to be easier for her to change and get on the strait and narrow that leads to a good life, than for an adult. It is also a guidance more for the mother than for herself: I don’t even know if she knows that I measured her starting point measurements.
I am interested in deciphering the relationship between numbers, scores in your Starting Point Measurements.
I can see, that without a comprehensive and accurate understanding of what causes what, what is cause, what is effect, you may not know how to change the “geography” of your life. You will be stuck where you are… or only move accidentally… so I do see the urgency in this move.
I am expanding the scope of the work I put into measuring your Starting Point Measurements to Enlightenment, to becoming a human being, even though this work more than doubles the time I have to spend with it. Eventually I’ll raise the price, but not yet.
Why? For one, I want to know. But more importantly, instead of giving you a bunch of numbers, maybe I can make them useful… What and idea, right? lol.
When people speak about beliefs that they want to get rid of, let’s say, belief about money, abundance, they always think that there are some personal beliefs there, that they are discreet, and that they can get rid of them.
Back in my times when I was doing Fourth Plane energies, “designer energies”, one of the moves I had is to make my hand sticky, and pull beliefs, also called thought forms, from myself and from clients.
I am getting a lot of requests to teach people how to become people who live a life worth living, who excel in all four areas, all four pillars of the good life.
