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It’s hard to be silently brilliant. Lots of thoughts occur when you open your mouth.
Some days I have nothing to say. It doesn’t feel like there is anything to say that needs to be said.
Some people never have anything to say and they talk all the time. Others think that they have to first formulate it in their heads to say it, and it never comes together. Continue reading “It’s hard to be silently brilliant. Lots of thoughts…”
How does your mind stop you from freedom, grace and ease? From feeling good about yourself and your life…
This article is about some more bad news about the mind, on the mechanism it uses to make your prison tighter by the day… and about the simple, elegant, and inexpensive solution to set yourself free
Continue reading “How does your mind stop you from freedom, grace and ease? From feeling good about yourself and your life…”
I just had a breakthrough…
I have been teaching you how to raise your consciousness, your level of consciousness, by allowing something or someone guide you to look at things beyond where you always look, and differently than you have always looked.
I consider myself always a student as well… so I have been listening to myself, and following my own teaching.
But the results, in the area of growing visibility, increasing my following, increasing my income, have been stagnant… I could not see anything new…
Until this morning. Continue reading “A breakthrough in raising my level of consciousness”
Easy as apple pie…
But that gives rise to the ‘this isn’t it‘ and ‘somewhere else is better than here‘ way of living.
It also gives rise to another detrimental cultural phenomenon: cheap closure now.
I am from Hungary. Famous for its bakery, pastries…
Let us look at a problem that needs fixing: fruit pie filling.
Continue reading “Destinations and directions… or ‘cheap closure now’”
There is a step in the 67 step program that wants you to look at what would be your obituary if you died today.
But there is a much better test, the test:
Until today I’d thought that what it drives up is all the things you haven’t done, all the things that are important and maybe you can do now… tell people you love them, and other trite things like that.
But today of all days I had an insight.
The insight came because I was trying to figure out what is in common in people who do the 67-step program well, and people who rush through it, skim the surface.
I was trying to categorize them, but I could not see any consistency.
While I was looking, I asked consciousness to look for me too. Continue reading “The deathbed exercise… death nearing focuses the mind”
When I am looking at winners, they are involved with something worth working for… involved, as in action about.
When I am looking at you, I see you being self-involved, 90% of the time. 1Self-involved… I haven’t been able to find a definition I agree with… so let’s be crass: you are self-involved if anyone would think or say: dig your head out of your ass… please…, or you have your head up your ass… or nobody home…}}
And even when you look not so self-involved, your actions, your blaming, your finger-pointing belies the underlying self-involvement… you feel that you are a superior person when others seem smaller.
As long as your biggest concern, expressed in your attention and actions, is yourself, you will be miserable, guaranteed.
Did you notice that I didn’t say: expressed in your words, in your facebook posts… no, your words lie a lot.
I meant: you’ll have your attention on yourself, and your actions will be irrelevant, not building anything, not growing anything, including you… leading you to be split, and miserable.
The “self” your attention is on, is your small self… how you are perceived by others, what you want, what you don’t want, what you like and what you don’t like, what you are afraid of.
Continue reading “Self-involved or self-aware? Centering is the biggest difference.”
What is deserving? Deserving is a comparison. Comparing value to value, a person, a performance, a thing. It doesn’t come with existence. In existence you need to earn what you get. Deserve it.
Too many teachers focus on the doing, the method.
Some designate a few minutes, maybe even a few chapters to the mindset, but all in all, the pitiful results of most course is proof, that the problem is not in the doing.
One of the problems is being deserving.
There are two ways to look at deserving: Continue reading “Do you deserve what you want? What is deserving anyway?”
Why am I pushing humility, the capacity?
Humility is one of those words that mainstream says it means something other than it actually means.
Humility simply means: you are willing to not take it personally. You are willing to not have it mean anything about you.
Why is this important?
When anything, and I mean any thing means anything about you, you are hooked. Your ego is hooked. It becomes a survival game… and in survival it is an either you or me game.
So, simply put humility means putting ego on pause.
Continue reading “What does humility mean?”
I don’t do well with people who are intense. I am not sure why, but my physiology gets all tense, resistant, and I just want to go away, or watch a movie, or go to bed.All those sensations are in the horizontal aspect of me. We could call it “my head”, even though the feelings are in my body. But it’s shorter and more popular to say “I am in my head” than to say: I am pulled into my horizontal, lower self. Right?
I was missing togetherness. Intimacy. Feeling a touch. Mostly the sexual aspect of it. I went through the motions, while I really wasn’t there.I went to dances and wasn’t present. I didn’t even see my dance partner’s face, or if I did, I saw it through the haze of my thoughts.I had only one way to go to sleep: to knock myself out with circular breathing that actually made me faint. Otherwise I would be up and in my head all night.
Very “interesting” experience. I watched the first year of Dexter, and although I wanted to watch all episodes, the first year was not addictive.
But I had a premonition about the rest of the series.
Made up by skilled television writers, I knew it was going to be something dangerous to my well-being.
Unneeded complications, many different side-story lines, all dramatic and irrelevant, all stories I would not watch Netflix for. But all of these side-stories had a claw as sharp as the tiny hooks of burr… of velcro.
I felt myself getting hooked on the horizontal world, the irrelevant, the shallow, the dramatic nothing.
And I can feel the ego now clawing for me to return… as if I could not survive without that drek. I am serious. The pull is tremendous.
Now, why am I sharing this? Because this is how the horizontal, the family, the circle of friends, the news, the elections, social media hooks you. On the world or irrelevant, with tiny hooks like velcro.
Continue reading “What makes soap operas addictive? What are YOU hooked on?”
