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He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
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I have been observing people for about 33 years. Before that I had my head entirely up my ass… I wouldn’t have seen anything had I looked: I was too eager trying to get to a place where I can stand on my two feet and look.
Continue reading “Begin where you are. But begin with the end in mind”
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I have written in a previous post that I discovered that my hidden identity is ‘worthless piece of junk = unwanted’. I use the word junk, because this expression is a translation from my native Hungarian. In the original the expression is closer to ‘nothing’ than anything, by the way. But in English, I am afraid, that won’t communicate. ‘I am nothing’, does it communicate? It doesn’t seem to have the same emotional impact on me…
From time to time I notice it ‘informing my mood, informing my actions.’
Continue reading “Your current core identity. Is it serving you well?”
Guess how much of your power you use?
You have some capacities. Capacities are potentials… Abilities are actualities.
You can activate capacities, you can use them and turn them into epigenetic shifts: abilities, that can be inherited…
The more abilities you have the more power you have.
Power is what it takes to say A and make it happen. Not over some people, but over yourself, over matter.
The way you live, the number of challenges you set for yourself will tell you how much of the power you have you actually use…
Recently I discovered about myself that I want someone to hold my hand to do the things I am not sure how to do. Like in first grade the teacher drew the letters using my hand. But I realized that unless I do it myself, I never learn.
I also realized that I actually know how to do the things I wanted to be helped to do, I just didn’t have the self-starter mentality… Once I realized this, I started to do the things I was complaining that I could not do… Very telling.
Guess how much of the power you have that you actually use?
In the fantasy TV series, Heroes, Hiro, the time traveler, says: “If I am too afraid to use my powers, I don’t deserve them.”
Continue reading “You have abilities, you have power. You can use it…”
Humans didn’t become the peak of evolution because they are weaklings. Humans have a brain uniquely qualified for thinking, reasoning, choosing. For 95% of humanity not to know, or not want to use their brain for thinking, reasoning, choosing, they had to be made weaklings. Humans are meant to be highly adaptable supported by their disproportionately large brain. Individually. That big brain makes you human, that is your strongest point, and that is also what makes you vulnerable.
Each and every human alive today, regardless of their ethnicity, whether they can accept the DNA capacity activations or not, is able to be with a lot of adversity, that you, my dear reader, are not finding yourself capable of. Continue reading “Humans were not weaklings. They had to be made weaklings.”
The reason humanity (and your life) looks the way it looks is because you are a coward.
What do I mean by that? Some people know that they are cowards, some people suspect that they may be cowards, but most people don’t know and don’t give a rat’s ass if they are cowards or not.
What am I talking about?
I am talking about humans’ delusional nature.
It takes courage to have a worldview where you are responsible for what you do, who you are being, what you say. Continue reading “Are you a soul-less human? Are reptilian influences real?”
I have been spending the last few days meditating, muscletesting, contemplating why it is that different people from different ethnic cultures are so different in one main aspect: caring.
Caring means that you are willing to consider another as important as yourself. And just the way you would not hurt yourself consciously and intentionally, you would not hurt another. Continue reading “Osho: Why does it hurt so much to be jealous?”
From the questions you ask, I am starting to understand what is your current worldview, self-view:
You think you are, using car analogy, a Kia or a Saturn or some other cheap car, and you want to be a Ferrari.
What if you are a Ferrari and you drive yourself as if you were a Kia?
Continue reading “The real problem… see if you recognize yourself”
The culture we live in, the mind-meme that is the dominant influencer of our emotions, our actions, our decisions in life says: the most important thing in life is fitting in, taking care of your loved ones, to be loved, to belong.
Sounds so nice, doesn’t it? Sounds like that is what will cause our species to survive, that is what is going to cause us to be happy.
Let’s examine if it, in fact, contributes to happiness, and to the survival of the species… i.e. if it contributes to personal growth, personal evolution, because any species that its members don’t grow or can’t grow is declining and dying.
Continue reading “What is the most important thing in life?”
Raising your vibration happens through doing things that you wouldn’t do without the intention to raise your vibration.Coaching is making you do what you need to do, but don’t want to, that will get you what you desire.
Often any deviation from the normal, the accepted, the habitual, the regular, the easy, the socially acceptable is all you need to open up and allow you to glimpse at dormant capacities. Or alternatively see your need for capacities that you don’t have but could start to desire. Continue reading “Raising your vibration happens through doing things”
The holidays quickly approaching, this is a very timely topic to deal with: the sarcasm, or sarcastic remarks of the people you meet: instead of holiday cheer, love etc. you need to deal with poison coming through sarcasm. How do you do it? This article will help to look at it differently and save yourself from grief.
Hey Sophie,
I hope you are well.
I’m wondering if you could help me to clarify something?
I’m trying to understand sarcasm.
The Irish people are generally quite sarcastic, it’s called ‘slagging’ here. I think, in general, one is supposed to be able to laugh at himself or answer back in similar manner.
But most of times I don’t really know how to react to it, it’s hurtful sometimes.. and I guess I don’t really know if I’m overreacting? Should I just observe the origin of MY hurt or try to see why perhaps the other person is veiling mockery, i.e. observe THEIR hurt?
It seems to me that there are different kinds of sarcasm, or I just don’t understand the definition of it.
I can give you the examples that got me wondering about this.
The other day I felt I was sort of ‘attacked’ 3 times within about 10 minutes. All those situations were concealed to be funny but I only either felt confused or hurt.
(to make sense you have to hear the things said in sarcastic tone)
I was sort of left speechless in all of these situations and it left me feeling uneasy and wondering. I could, too, be easily sarcastic back but I don’t really want to because it feels like that I’m just being mean then. And if I don’t feel like laughing about it, should I just be quiet or straight confront them?
And I suppose this all comes to the fact that I’m really quite clueless how to interact with people. Where should I put my attention to? Observe my emotions, or theirs, or both?
I’m sorry for the long email. It’s just really boggling my mind today. It feels like the answer is right there but I don’t see it.
Thank you for taking your time to read this.
All the best,
name withheld for privacy (client from Ireland)
Wonderful question, thank you.
Let’s look at sarcasm first, and then we’ll look at how to take it, so it is useful, instead of hurtful… ok?
In my view, sarcasm is a sign that straight communication is not happening. Sometimes it is cultural: some cultures don’t do straight talk, and it seems Irish is like that. And other times it is a personal cowardice, the hallmark of Soul Correction 25… interestingly.
25 (Speak your mind) is a coward, and behaves cowardly. Straight talk requires courage, and straight talk requires a capacity that is one of the 13 capacities included in the DNA upgrade: responsibility.
When you do straight talk, you communicate your opinion to another person as your opinion, and you are willing to take the response, the wrath, or the grief… whatever is coming. So people who don’t have the capacity of responsibility resort to sarcasm: they can always say they were joking.
It is always a lie: they NEVER joke, they mean it, and it is a communication. It is not straight, it is not constructive, it is not helpful, it is like a poisonous arrow “accidentally” sent your way to hurt.
So we can say: being sarcastic is being cowardly, unwilling to be responsible, unwilling to be helpful, unwilling to be constructive, and hurtful.
It is the sign of a cowardly, powerless, weak individual.
Now, let us look how someone who isn’t living on the pedestrian level takes a sarcastic remark:
They look at what is true about the communication and take responsibility for that.Ultimately, for a person living above the pedestrian level sarcastic remarks are a valuable feedback to navigate in the world of people.I know it is hard to be with not being welcome, and not being well thought of in your community, but it seems that is your reality right now. You have earned barely passing grades socially.
So what?
If you want to be widely loved and appreciated (a waste of time in my view) then start working on that.
If you just want to be happy and fulfilled, decide that other people’s opinion about you is their business…
