Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
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You’d rather be right than happy, you’d rather be right than rich… Your microexpressions will give you away
I had a few remarkable experiences the past few days.
The conclusions from these experiences make me mad, angry, bitter, and hopeless… but that should not surprise you: the condition of humanity is hopeless.
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There are two types of students and there are two types of teachers.
Teacher One says: I’ll teach you!
Teacher Two says: I won’t quit until you learned it!
Student One says: I’ll come to your class, I’ll pay for your program and then I’ll try!
Student Two says: I’ll do whatever it takes to make sure I learn it and have it for myself. Continue reading “Why you do what you do, why you don’t do what you don’t do?”
Life is counter-intuitive if your source of intuition is your mind
Most of what you call intuition, isn’t. It is, in fact, reaction. Mostly it is the reaction of your reptilian brain.
The reptilian brain seems to have retained the memories and the learned behaviors of our reptilian ancestors.
You hold your breath when there is danger. Make yourself unnoticeable and blend into your environment. That, unless you are ready for a confrontation. Then attack first ask questions later. these are all from the reptilian brain. Continue reading “Life is counter-intuitive for your reptilian brain”
I should be doing some laundry. I have run out of socks… And anyways, I want to tame this beast of not doing my laundry.
I gather a load’s worth of stuff, carry it to the washing machine… and the distaste, the disgust is so strong… I take a beeline… and sit down by my computer.
Distaste, eh? Yeah, says muscletest. Disgust? yes. Was it always there? No. Was it from when i was 3? later… from age seven.
What was happening at age seven? I went to school. We had a live-in help: my mother was working on her Masters Degree, coming home around nine every night. My brother was about a year old… and was probably driving the live-in help bonkers.
I sit really quietly. The fear joins the distaste. I feel terror. I feel being beaten. Screamed at. Wrapped in wet sheets… Can’t breathe…
I must have wet my bed. I don’t remember. My body remembers. The fear, the disgust, the gagging.
The body remembers.
Continue reading “And I recoil from dirty laundry… doing the laundry”
This is a four years old article. I am rewriting it to include fixed mindset, the distinction from Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset.
When the mind takes over your perception you see what your mind wants to see.
We have all experienced how the mind tricks us into believing that something other than what’s happening is happening.
When you are dizzy, sea-sick or drunk: the room seems to be spinning. When someone tells you skinny is good, you start liking skinny. When someone tells you you are ugly, you start seeing ugly.
Here are some examples:
…this is why Japanese soldiers could not see, till the end, that they were beaten.
More than that: Japanese soldiers enlisted into the Japanese navy, but never considered that they should learn to swim: the option that their vessel would sink never occurred to them: after all their emperor was invincible. They would not even make any moves to get a life preserver when they were under attack: their mind told them that nothing can, nothing could happen to them… and they died by drowning… victims of the mind hiding reality from them.
You are that Japanese soldier, you just don’t know it.
Continue reading “You see only what the mind allows you to see”
Ignorance is not bliss. Knowledge is not power. But you can be happy on a sinking ship of a humanity that is annihilating itselfThe paradigm we live in has no access to happiness… no bridge, no path, no door… We are locked into unhappiness
I just hung up with my friend from university. ((Budapest Technical University, Architecture School, Class of 1971.))
We did some frenzied gossiping about Trump and the hopelessness of the future… Just like we would have done during the Second World War… An activity (gossiping, complaining, blaming, etc.) that will make no difference. But what will? What could?
I have to admit, this conversation lead to a turning point for me… and if and when I turn about-face, I can lead you to do the same… The turning wasn’t instant. But it is done. I am happy again.
Continue reading “You can be happy on a sinking ship or in any circumstance”
Superiority… The word comes up a lot in my coaching. Mostly in the context of your soul correction.
But in reality, some things are superior to other things… because all exists on many scales.
On the DNA capacities “scale” someone with 30 capacities is superior to someone who has 29, 20, 10, 7.
I haven’t found anyone with less than seven capacities, though I am sure there are.
So superior is not the issue. Acting superior is the issue.
It attacks people’s egos, the part of a human that makes sure the person survives. And as in any competition, it can get ugly. 1
People tend to cultivate the capacities that they consider an unfair advantage in the competition for survival.
In politics, it is mostly lying convincingly, trashing the other, promising, and such. In many areas that is physical strength.
Continue reading “Does having more capacities raise your vibration too?”
