Are you a successful person or just a not unsuccessful one?

Are you a successful person or just a not unsuccessful one?

What’s the difference between a successful person and an unsuccessful one?

This article is really important. If you read nothing else on this site, read this. I’ll do my darned best to make it simple, and to reach your dense brain. How do I know it’s dense? Because successful people don’t read articles like this, or not often. Skinny people don’t read how to lose weight articles either… got it?

If you take two people, maybe even twins, and watch them, their results in life, most likely, will be different. Their actions will be different. Their likes and dislikes… Continue reading “Are you a successful person or just a not unsuccessful one?”

Transformational methods to get you unstuck

Transformational methods to get you unstuck
Or how to set the context to alter the story and therefore alter your actions?

Whether you know it or not, your relationship to life is stiff, inflexible, and therefore ineffective.

You look at things, always, from the same exact perspective, and therefore you see, always, the same old, same old life: good or bad, the same. Continue reading “Transformational methods to get you unstuck”

The Binary, The Pendulum, The Tedium, The Lifeless Life…

The Binary, The Pendulum, The Tedium, The Lifeless Life…
Do you work on your mind to make it better? You are making the bars of your prison shinier…

One of the activities of the mind that takes you out of the present is comparing.

If you are new here, you probably think that I am talking about your brain… but the mind is only a limited function of the brain. The brain is like the world, and the mind is like a room in your house… much smaller, and totally insulated from the world. Continue reading “The Binary, The Pendulum, The Tedium, The Lifeless Life…”

The ground of your being comes from where you live

The ground of your being comes from where you live

life on the 14th floor: words and more wordsWhen you live on the 14th-15th floors of your being, the ground of your being comes from there too.

Let’s first look what is the ground of your being, the floor on which everything is built that is compatible with that floor.

On the 13th floor the ruler is Life. Nature. The Universe. No interpretation. Life, nature, the universe gives you your actions, your attitudes, your interpretation of events.

Virtues live on the 13th floor, because virtues are a Yes to life. Anything gets evaluated by that question: is it a Yes to life or a no to life.

Is it part of the flow, or is it a blockage to the flow. Blockages need to go. Attitudes, needs, wants, habits, activities that are a no to life, that don’t fit the flow of life, Nature, the Universe, must go, because it is evil. Against life. Continue reading “The ground of your being comes from where you live”

The missing science so you can start mastering your beingness: the Real Kabbalah

The missing science so you can start mastering your beingness: the Real Kabbalah

Today’s “What’s the truth about you?” workshop is the first experiment to get to beingness through feelings.

The challenge, for the participant, is to accurately feel their feelings, and maybe even what the feeling wants them to do, the inner dynamics.

My experience is that despite what everyone teaches, you cannot get to what you want through words. But you can get to what you want through the feelings level and the through feelings level to the beingness level: the creative plane.

If the “Law of Attraction” or the “Law of Similars” has any water to hold, if being in energetic alignment with what you want does actually allow you to go for it, having, use it, keep it, then this is the most important skill you want to develop. Continue reading “The missing science so you can start mastering your beingness: the Real Kabbalah”

What causes you turmoil has a strong connection to your intrinsic Self, either positively or negatively

What causes you turmoil has a strong connection to your intrinsic Self, either positively or negatively

puppet-on-a-string-2Continued from the previous article…

Sometimes the turmoil is caused by some inner pressure that is societally driven.

When being true to yourself is not politically correct.

Your ability, your capacity to hold controversy and ambivalence comes really handy when you have a turmoil.

Why? Because the urge to call the turmoil wrong, and the urge to look for a fix is overwhelming if you don’t have that capacity, that emotional and spiritual maturity.

And most people don’t.
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Republished: Want real love in your life? Awaken caring, compassion and empathy in you

transform yourself to activate compassionHow do you go about awakening compassion, caring and empathy?

The first step of transformation, and awakening a missing capacity is transformation!, is to tell the truth about how it is now.

Transformation is so rare, because people are unwilling to tell the truth. Why? Because truth, any truth about you, will first be painful, and it will piss you off.

The truth about you is that you, the way you are, are unable to feel for another person. You mistake your loin’s yearning, your heart’s yearning for connection to a feeling for the other, but they are not the same.

At this point only a handful of people are able to feel, feel deeply for another person.


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Self-Discipline and Brilliance: what is the connection?

Self-Discipline and Brilliance: what is the connection?

I wrote this article in 2013… My self-discipline/attention was 10% then. I have grown since then, but what I write here is still OK… although I have found conation not being innate…

It is still worth reading.

Brilliance: what is it, and how is it connected to the Original Design, your vibration, and your worldview?

If you have been borderline a failure, but you think you are smart, this may be the article that you need to find your brilliance and your power to act on it.

I play the Self-Discipline Avatar State audio in the background. 24/7.

I am dealing with several issues, among others I eat the way a chain smoker smokes: from the moment I get up till the moment I go go bed. There is always something in my mouth, food, or tea, or water. It is a defense mechanism to the onslaught of feelings I have difficulty dealing with, given that they have nothing to do with me, they come from other people.

I would like to restrict my eating to a few hours a day. Why? To demonstrate my power over my behavior. And I could use dropping a few pounds, eh, about 10 or so. I am having the hardest time, though with the self-discipline audio it is a tad easier. I have already dropped 10 lbs, that’s why I have only 10 more to go.

Yesterday I had an insight:

conative_peoplethe self-discipline audio activates the self first, and then it activates your ability to learn new things, new ways of being, new ways of doing thing. I have no idea what that means to you, but I’ll tell you what I have been noticing.

I am a quick-start by nature, shoot first, no thinking.

A jumping jack. I have been taming it, or better said, I have been trying to tame it. It cuts an awful lot of work out when I take a moment or two to look first. Not look and look and think and think, just look. Much like in PhotoReading, you don’t quite look at the pages, you look behind them, and make your eyes fuzzy.

What sees the pages is not your conscious mind, it is your ‘other than conscious mind‘ and it is faster than your conscious mind by far. It is very different from what you call ‘mind’, the other than conscious mind doesn’t try to understand or evaluate, or compare, or opinionate about what it sees, it just gets it, it just sees it and that’s it. This is what I always ask you to use on my live calls, so far to no avail 🙁

When I can successfully nudge myself to look at what’s in front of me that way, the inner guidance, the inner knowing gets really strong, and I can do no wrong…

But my soul correction is trust based, specifically: I have no trust  🙁

So I need to nudge myself to look before I leap.

The interesting thing I see is that I don’t need to change myself, I only need to sneak in that brief moment of not-looking-type-looking, the other than conscious mind looking, so I don’t jump into the rocks or an empty swimming pool.

What does this have to do with brilliance? A whole lot.

In my definition, brilliance is being guided by that ‘other than conscious’ that knows it all. But it can only do its work when you know and honor your base nature.

Kathy Kolbe calls your base nature your conation. Conation is your motive power. It just works differently in all of us.

Your conative energy, your native and unchangable nature of how you get things done, how you solve problems, is largely ignored in today’s science, behavioral psychology, business training, everywhere.

Every person thinks that every other person on the planet is like them, from the point of view of how to solve things. Big mistake.

Education, formal education forces you to use a conative energy, a strength that you may not have. Your family, your workplace, they all force you to be differently than you are. That includes your coaches, your guidance counselor, your psychiatris, your case worker.

Kathy Kolbe created four clear classes for this innate energy. These are the classes:

conativeconnection1. Fact Finder
2. Follow Through
3. Quick Start
4. Implementer

Inside these classes you can be
a. Insistent
b. Accommodating
c. Resistant

You can be anywhere on this insistent-resistant continuum in any of the four classes… not the same in all four classes.

If we said that you have 20 units of creative energy, that is what you have to work with, you distribute that 20 units of energy according to your conative nature… and you are best performing when you are allowed to chose tasks and jobs and methods that closely match your nature.

I am a quick-start by nature, and I have a mild resistance/I am barely accommodating in most other modes: I can use them, but I don’t enjoy using them. I don’t enjoy research, I don’t enjoy follow up and systematization, and definitely don’t enjoy creating stuff, including videos, models, charts, etc. That’s why I hated architecture, by the way. For 22 years… lol.

Now, if you are having difficulty getting started in any new thing, if you think fear is stopping you, if you live a life of quiet desperation, then just knowing how you roll, so to say, knowing your Kolbe index, is a lifesaver and a potential turning point.

I have a lot of students who think that they are procrastinators. When you think of yourself as a procrastinator, you hate yourself. You despise yourself, You can’t have high self-esteem, self-respect. You think you should be different, that you are all wrong, and you despair.

If you are one of these people, I recommend two things: start using the self-discipline activator, and after a while you will feel the pull of the self, to start doing things your way. Because your way works for you. Because your way is where there is the most harmony between your nature and your actions.

And if you want an even faster path, to know what is your nature, order your Kolbe Conative Index, the A index. The site, kolbe.com has a ton of information.

Once you buy it, book a 15-minute session with me… I’ll help you understand it… to the best of my knowledge.

It’s hard to be silently brilliant, lots of thought occur when you open your mouth…

Make sure you send me the four digit konan number you got, example 4493. That is mine…

Never really say no? What does it do to you and your life?

Never really say no? What does it do to you and your life?
Master-the-art-of-saying-no-so-you-can-say-yes-to-what-matters-most-e1357110457770You can’t say yes until you said no.

Saying no feels rude. Any type of no. Setting your boundaries, hanging up the phone, saying you are busy…

Even when no one knows you have a hard time saying no.

How do I know? I just observed myself.

The price of being polite, agreeable, and accommodating

I was on a webinar where they showed how to use a graphics software and it was really good and really enjoyable. Then they started to pitch a bonus… I don’t care about the offer. Continue reading “Never really say no? What does it do to you and your life?”

Who is this site for? Is it for you?

Who is this site for? Is it for you?

Sophie Benshitta Maven empath raise your vibrationI am an empath.

An empath is like a psychic in a way. A true empath can feel and identify your feelings, whether they are emotions or physical sensations. I can feel them stronger than you yourself. Using those feelings as guidance I can inform you about the source of your feelings and advise you on a way to restore balance and well-being.

Through empathy I have also found a way to connect, directly, to the Source of All-of-It, in a two-way fashion, so I can ask questions and receive answers, get energies, get guidance, and support. I don’t know of anyone who does what I do, and I cannot teach much of it: so far I haven’t found anyone who can connect, at will, to another person, for example.

I have asked for and received strong energies from Source. I can embed these energies into liquids or into audios. The Avatar State audio, for example, assists you in identifying the areas where you are out of alignment, and help you correct them.

The Heaven on Earth Energy bundle, and the Energizer, infused in water, help you deal with emotions suggested by the mind or the Dark Side, so you can be well, and healthy.
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