Self-control or Self-discipline? Which one is missing?

Self-control or Self-discipline? Which one is missing?

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It’s hard to believe that such a little thing, an innocent sounding activator would hold a huge size building of misery afloat…

Most people, myself included, would not guess correctly their linchpin.

And they would work on whatever they find most at fault.

And they would add to the weight of that huge building they built.

I bought and used those ‘original’ activators on myself, 20 years ago.

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What’s is it that if it were there life would be different?

What’s is it that if it were there life would be different?

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What’s missing that if it were there life would be different? Your life, not all of life…

In yesterday’s article I said everyone has a keystone. A keystone that if you remove it, the whole arch, the whole construct of your life falls. The construct of the life you lead that is not going anywhere.

So I offered to muscletest that keystone for people.

I admit that first some of the results were unexpected. But after the result of the muscletest it was like ‘of course! that is what’s been missing!’

Self-control missing has been the most unexpected result.

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Self-Control, Flexibility and emotional intelligence

Self-Control, Flexibility and emotional intelligence

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Our current worldview is as if we are backseat drivers, at best driving next to the driver.

All we can do is

  • observe
  • react
  • hope
  • suggest
  • protest
  • resist

but ultimately we feel we have nothing to say in the matter of where this life is going. That is our current view of the world.

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What makes you so angry that you can’t control yourself?

What makes you so angry that you can’t control yourself?

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angry-dogWhat pulls you out of your equilibrium? What makes you so angry that you can’t control yourself?

One of my students has fits of anger. Her life is going from anger to anger, with no chance for a break.

Now, I could be condescending, I could be unsympathetic, or helpful and compassionate. But I find it more beneficial for everyone involved, including you, if I share with you what I have done.

As a rule, I use my own life, my own experiences, as a laboratory, a test laboratory, to shed light to what happens to people when they are angry, resistant, unwilling, or any one of the frequent ways of being. Continue reading “What makes you so angry that you can’t control yourself?”

So you want to live long… let’s look at that, OK?

So you want to live long… let’s look at that, OK?

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Let’s get some clarity, shall we?

On longevity, or life expectancy…

There are all kinds of theories and hypotheses about the life expectancy of humans.

What do we know?

  • We know that some people, in spite of eating everything, in spite of smoking, drinking, they live a long life.
  • Others, in spite of every effort, they die when they die.
Most of the longevity theories are designed to fleece you.

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You Can’t Get Enough Of What You Don’t Want

You Can’t Get Enough Of What You Don’t Want

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you can't get enough of what you don't wantYou Can’t Get Enough Of What You Don’t Want

Warning: this is a very advanced article. You should probably start with the easier ones if you are here for the first time. OK?

An interesting glitch in the nature of reality is that our driving desire, the answer to our dreams, the one thing that would seem to fix our complaints doesn’t fix anything.

We could say that you can’t fix what’s not broken. and actually it would be a very astute remark.

But if that is the case, that the thing we are trying to fix isn’t broken, why does it seem that, what we most complain about not having, would fix it?
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Most things are only visible in hindsight.

Most things are only visible in hindsight.

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hindsightMost things are only visible in hindsight.

Good or bad things equally. Often when you stop…

    • My chiropractor has been unavailable Tuesday mornings for almost a month. By now I am hurting. I spent two hours last night trying to get comfortable before I could fall asleep.

I would have never know how much I needed regular adjustments without taking a long break.

Going there every week, kind of poo-pooing the individual experiences is what it’s taken me to become virtually pain free. I shared it with the chiropractor, because I thought that it is a good idea for his marketing: after all most people do not go to chiropractors, because they can’t even imagine that it can help… or they go when they are really broken.

A few years ago…
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What is spirituality? the spiritual dimension of reality?

What is spirituality? the spiritual dimension of reality?

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I had a lovely person yesterday on my strategy call. The call was fun with a lot of real laughter, until the topic of spirituality came up. Then it became hellishly painful.

The issue is: what is spirituality? How you view spirituality will have a lot (maybe everything!) to do with everything you do in life, and ultimately will determine to what degree you’ll become all you can become.

  • Free to be yourself.
  • Free to pursue what excites you.
  • And Free to be WITH people.
  • Ultimately what is available to you in life will depend an awful lot on how you view spirituality.

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You can have anything but not everything.

You can have anything but not everything.

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It takes exactly as much energy to live a shitty life, a mundane life, as to live a good life.

It’s true, it is different energy, more purposeful, but energy is energy.

The only difference is: a shitty life is on automatic. The good life is not.

You can have anything, but you can’t have everything.

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Let’s see what Redditors say is a good person?

Let’s see what Redditors say is a good person?

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Here is MY own opinion, before I share what Redditors say…

It is easier to find a ‘good person’ nowadays than a good company. Companies want to tell their users, their customers what they should want… and as I am saying that, I am not an exception either.

My current issue with my blog… that the creators (wordpress) want me to think like them, work like them, whether I want to or not is infuriating. There is no ‘we’. There is me vs all the others… antagonism. OK, rant over… here is what Redditors have to say: Continue reading “Let’s see what Redditors say is a good person?”