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Genetic determinism and the ego’s role in it.Genetic determinism is the mechanism by which genes, along with environmental conditions, determine looks and behavior.
Continue reading “Do you have free will? What is the ego’s role in that?”
I watch, or better said, listen to the next 67-step when I have time, maybe even hours, to ponder. Commuting time, making dinner, doing the laundry are perfect times for that. Instead of what other people do, listen to music or some other crap, I ponder. Seriously. I limit the input onto my life to maximum two hours a day… and the input needs to be worth its weight in gold.
When I tried to answer the questions, when I started this program, immediately after the exposure to the lesson, I was pitiful, much like you all. Pitiful, shallow, narrow… I noticed it fast, and made the necessary changes.
Nowadays, before I start listening, I put the questions into my consciousness: they will be there, like seeds, that get watered and nourished by the lesson. Before I listen…
And, just like with seeds, the answers need time to germinate.
Continue reading “How do I do the 67 steps that my life is on an upswing?”
I saw something really important this morning.
One of my students is planning to build a business that he can do while working for a big corporation full time.
He knows what he wants to do. He knows why he wants to do it. He has the skills: he is good at it. If he gets a client: the client will be happy.
But… having a product, a service, is one thing. Selling it is another thing.
To sell anything doesn’t need you to be good at doing the service, or creating a good product.
Selling is a whole other business.
You either need a partner who can sell anything, or you need to become good at sales. Not easy.
Why? Because to sell anything, an idea, a relationship, intimacy, sex, going on vacation… anything, you need to be able to be in the other person’s head and speak from there.
Continue reading “The dangers of having empathy…”
In my last article, I was praising Thought Experiments as a tool to get to the good life.
But: in the area of thinking you are like a human who gave up trying to walk after the first failure, and is now zipping around in a motorized wheelchair.
Alternatively, you could have been educated in the United States… the result, no thinking, is the same. Same in China…
A thinking person is dangerous “civilization”.
But I am thinking all the time! you cry…
But you are not thinking, you are having thoughts. No conscious effort.
Hell yeah. Your soul correction is your cross to bear… and some are worse off than others.
Continue reading “The 67-step coaching, the good life and your Soul correction”
Continue reading “I laughed out loud, some are so nasty it’s funny”
One of the things I learned in Landmark Education, 1 is that there is physical development, and there is emotional, ethical, moral development each person needs to go through to become a fully functioning adult.
It was brand new information to me and it blew my mind.
It was new to me in spite of the fact that I was educated, having read thousands of books… even about child psychiatry, and yet, it was an earth shattering revelation to me.
I, like other people, thought that children were born with the capacity to understand why certain things are harmful, etc.
I’d thought that the inability to comprehend and appreciate responsibility for your own actions, for example, was not inability, instead it was unwillingness. Ability as programmed by the genes wasn’t becoming clear to me until about 13 years later. Continue reading “What do I know that you don’t, that I don’t often get upset? In spite of my peppery constitution…”
Let’s look at the role of discovery in growth… your growth… if there is no growth, there has been no discovery.
All the steps of the 67 steps program are nudges for you to discover something that you haven’t seen.
Of course, like with everything, your tendency is to go to your head for the answers, and not look at all outside of your head.
The step (Step 5) where the homework is to list what you see about poor people and rich people is a great step to show your relationship to growth.
If you think you are rich, you go and tell me how what you do, how you think, how you feel is the way to be rich. No looking, no discovery.
Continue reading “If nothing has worked for you… you are still as stuck as ever”
I have gotten to a point in reading Freud’s book where I am now clear where what he says and what I know to be effective in facilitating happiness in humans.
Here is what is going on… psychologically, socially, and maybe even genetically, though that is too deep for my current understanding.
Humans are animals, with the same drives any animal has: the drive to procreate and the drive to aggression to everyone who seems to stand in their way.
Sounds simplistic, but it’s that simple.
Continue reading “The path to freedom and happiness in a world where neither freedom nor happiness are supported”
Learned helplessness is a technical term coined by Dr. Martin Seligman.
I don’t want to spend time with what he means by that, and how he came to discover this phenomenon… you can google it if you want to know.
If you are in the 67 steps, it’s step 7…
What I want to focus on here is the place where you won’t look: today… Where you locked yourself into a small box.
So, how do you find the areas where you have learned helplessness limiting your life, the dance floor, the ability to accomplish?
Continue reading “Learned helplessness versus innovate yourself out of your box”
If you ever wondered…
I have found a video on youtube that approximate it… with the exception that I don’t teach anything much what I learned from a textbook… because there is none.
Here you go. Enjoy.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o53i0kL6-Jw
