Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

Boys don’t know how to be boys. They won’t be men

“If you want to emasculate a guy friend, when you’re at a restaurant, ask him everything that he’s going to order, and then when the waitress comes … order for him.” It’s funny because it shouldn’t be that easy to rob a man of his masculinity — but it is.

I am doing good work with the participants of my accountability program. ¹

One of the things that have been coming up is this: what did it do to you to be influenced more by your mother than your father?

Don’t be mistaken: man and woman, boy and girl, father and mother are different beings… almost as different as if they were two different species. And it should be.

Now, I admit that our “civilized” world makes the two roles more similar looking, but just like in eating, what works best for you is eating according to your DNA, the same is true about gender behavior. Continue reading “Boys don’t know how to be boys. They won’t be men”

What happens if you are a habitual liar, a con artist?

If you are awake at all, you have noticed that people, both in writing and in actual speak, avoid the word lie.

Even when the word they replace it with means something totally different. They say: I lay down… instead of I lie down.

Why is that?

Because the word lie also means: say untrue things. Continue reading “What happens if you are a habitual liar, a con artist?”

Is this all there is? Feeling that emptiness inside…

You feel empty inside. Even when you are “successful” you ask yourself the question: Is this all there is? You believe that other people, money, success, power should fill you up. Nothing has worked so far… or not longer than a few minutes, maybe a few hours.

The real cause of inner emptiness and what you can do about it.

If you feel empty, you are not alone in feeling this way. In fact, most people feel empty. And they run from that emptiness, because it doesn’t just feel bad, it “means” something bad about you… or so it feels.

Some of the explanations you may give yourself why you feel empty… why you ARE empty inside:
I feel empty because: Continue reading “Is this all there is? Feeling that emptiness inside…”

What would Sophie say? What would Sophie Do?

If this goes way over you head… don’t worry. You can’t see what you can’t see. Your vibration is probably lower than the threshold of seeing this phenomenon.

I had a call with a client today. He shared that our conversations stay in his head a lot. Continue reading “What would Sophie say? What would Sophie Do?”

Birthing the Self from the Emptiness Within

Giving birth is one of the most ordinary and un-ordinary things.

It’s ordinary because it is so common. It is un-ordinary for people who, for some reason, can’t conceive, or can’t keep the embryo alive.

What is a lot less ordinary, is giving birth to a Self.

Looking at the list of famous people, most of them never birthing a self, one can see that giving birth to a Self is one of the least ordinary things to happen on Planet Earth. Continue reading “Birthing the Self from the Emptiness Within”

When, how did you stop looking, stop seeing reality?

In the beginning our eyes sent wordless signals to our brain. And the brain figured it out what that signal meant for you, in that moment. It kept you safe, it kept you in food, it kept you in the good graces of your tribe.

But at some point words, like a narrative, accompanied the visual signals, and after another while we stopped looking and we started to be satisfied with the verbal commentary. Continue reading “When, how did you stop looking, stop seeing reality?”

Liking, a strong cognitive bias… is lying to you…

I have been very sick, but I am feeling a little better. I can stay with a thing now a little longer, I can take an idea a little further.

I have been working out the toxins from my poor battered body, slowly, and somewhat effectively. Three weeks it has been since I gotten myself poisoned.

And one of the signs that I am coming back to myself is that I am noticing more.

The role of liking in following guidance, following coaching.

I have a few “clients” that keep on coming back, show up on my webinars, want stuff from me, but when I look: they follow maybe 1% of what they got from me, and the rest: they go to someone else to get guidance from. Continue reading “Liking, a strong cognitive bias… is lying to you…”

You don’t know that you don’t know. We don’t have a word for

I am working to take some of you back to the place where we abandoned the evolutionary path that would have taken up higher, to the promised land, and made a wrong turn.

From being guided by our feelings to being guided by word.

By feelings I am talking about the sensations our bodies give us, not about the emotions that are exclusively marker feelings, created by words. Continue reading “You don’t know that you don’t know. We don’t have a word for”

Why are you not able to sustain a new mindset?

Update: if you think you don’t retain or sustain a new mindset, chances are, you never internalized it, so there is nothing to retain or sustain. Same with transformation.

Before we can talk about retaining: first you have to have it… you cannot lose what you never had. Thinking you had it is not the same as having it.

Thinking about flying isn’t… Continue reading “Why are you not able to sustain a new mindset?”

You cannot recognize the same thing in a different environment?

What capacity is missing so that you cannot tell, you cannot recognize the same thing in a different environment?

I think this is the main issue for people who cannot grow… even if they keep on having private sessions, do all my courses, or all Landmark Education courses, or all Mindvalley courses, or use energy stuff… mine or others’.

When you put something they know some other environment, they don’t recognize it in a different environment, a different context.

So what is the missing capacity, you wonder… And how can anyone dream up a method to teach it?

A little historical view of how humans evolved (or not) during their lifetimes in previous times… Continue reading “You cannot recognize the same thing in a different environment?”