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I wrote this article more than four years ago. I assigned this simple exercise to about a hundred people, and to my dismay, all failed.
I discovered two days ago why… and now I can start teaching it again, and see if it is a lack of capacity, or a lack of intention that causes the failure. Continue reading “How Can This Simple Exercise Be The Ticket To Happiness?”
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In this podcast episode I spend 90 minutes to disappear all your misconceptions about what is procrastination and return you to sanity.
There are two ways to get to Self-Love… One through finding things to love… the other is the strait and narrow method: discounting all the bad things you do, so you end up with loving yourself.
I prefer the second path.
Once you love yourself, learning new things to do well is much easier.
So far 46 people read my article about the exercise for self love.
One of them actually did what I did, followed my example, and wrote to me about his experience. He is astute 1.
So what did the rest of them do?
Some of them, at least, hugged themselves, and felt the pain or the sadness.
Did any of them have a conversation? Yes. Some of them. Continue reading “Astute, clueless… how many distinct things can you tell apart?”
Last night, in bed, I accidentally hugged myself.
Then, unexpectedly, I said to myself: I love you, little one. And then the “fun” began… The emotional dings, the doubt, the questioning, the grief.
Hoho… I said, what’s going on?
The little voice said: why would you love me?
Because I do… I said.
Do you love me, even though the house looks like a mess?
I don’t love your house, I love you. house, no house, mess, no mess… I love you.
oh. But do you love me even though I am getting old?
Continue reading “A great little exercise to cause self-love…”
We tend to look at the world in black and white terms. This or the opposite…
You and me… 2
But often what you think is the opposite is not…
My current favorite book, 46 rules of Genius, says:
“Rule 24 (of Genius)
“SIMPLIFY
“People tend to view simplicity and complexity as opposites. But this isn’t strictly true. The enemy of simplicity isn’t complexity, but disorder. And the enemy of complexity is also disorder.
Continue reading “Simplicity, Elegance, Coherence, Ask a different question”
The best way to examine whether emotions give you a reliable internal guidance system is looking at the flip side of emotions.
In emotional terms, for example, love’s opposite is hate, disgust, being appalled, repelled. But if you look at your emotions, these opposites are right there, right behind the emotion: love… They come together like the front of your hand and the back of your hand. You are in perpetual ambivalence, yoyo-ing back and forth, ups and downs, and incoherence.
Love, the one that vibrates at 525 or so, is not an emotion. Love is a commitment to love.
Love is a commitment to accept another human exactly the way they are and exactly the way they aren’t. Whether they do the right thing, love you back, chew their food with their mouth open, lower back the lid on the toilet, or leave the top off the tooth paste.
Commitment. Not a promise, a commitment.
No ifs, no buts, no conditions.
No action necessary, just acceptance.
No show of love, no giving till it hurts, no nice talk… those are not part of love, they are societal demands.
Continue reading “Emotions are like firestorms, they cause incoherence, and are the most manipulated aspects of a human”
The world is mundane. Ordinary. At least through ordinary eyes. It is just the way it is.
Some people see beauty, some people see truth, some people see goodness, but for the most part you see reasons to justify why you only trudge through life, never really seeing any poetry, any romance, anything really uplifting.
You cry, you laugh, you shut up… words don’t come close to express it.
When I work with people on their life’s purpose, on the meaning of their lives, especially when I do it in a private call, I need to work a lot.
When I speak your purpose, as I see it, I hear you being hooked, being moved. Then you get off the call, and turn it into mundane… money, sex, or such other stuff, that makes life and you stuck in the mud. Continue reading “A life worth living: What does poetry have to do with it?”
It’s eerie how soul correction that is calculated from your date of birth and zodiac signs, calculated from just your birthday can be so very accurate in their core.
By core I mean your base nature. What you are inclined to do, the attitude you are inclined to have.
I am still struggling with having something or anything to say. Now I have the energy, but don’t have the … what?
What don’t I have, and why is that important to know what it is that you don’t have?
The number one need of people, I say, is the desire to make a difference.
But when I say ‘make a difference’ I don’t mean the big flashy things, like Bill Gates curing malaria… I mean being wanted to be there. That you are not refused.
Cain killed Abel in the Bible, because god accepted Abel’s sacrifice, but not his. He, Cain, got furious, and killed who he could killed, Abel.
Continue reading “Can’t learn? Won’t learn? Is that how you keep yourself stuck in life?”
The opposite of Life is a conversation is you living in a world of objects, being an object. An object. Ugh. I don’t want to be an object. But if you look, you ARE treated as an object, by nearly everyone nearly all the time.
People don’t look at YOU, they look at your body, your clothes, your hair… but not YOU. Continue reading “Heaven or hell… same place, same people… the difference:”
