Become all you can become with SophieHe that won't be counselled, can't be helped
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I live on the edge of a forest in the middle of a city. There is wildlife, deer, skunk, raccoon, millions of squirrels, lots of birds, including birds of prey.
So, of course, we have field mice. No, let me correct that: I have field mice.
So I have a stash of 12 mice cubes, they have proven themselves over and over again in the 16 years that I have lived here.
And I have peanut butter for bait… Continue reading “This mouse KNOWS what I am going to do…”
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In sous vide style cooking you put the raw food in a vacuum sealed bag, immerse it in water with temperature comfortable for your hands, and let it cook for a while. How long? There are recipes on the internet…
My Human Design eating type, eating style is “separator”. I am not allowed to mix foods in my meals. Why? I guess the original humans didn’t… Or maybe my stomach is weak and can’t figure out what to do with mixtures.
My be it is like a juggler who says: one thing is OK, two is a mess…
And because I am in the process of tricking death that was ready to take over back in August, and I am escaping in one inch at a time, being rigorous about my eating type seems very important.
How do I know when I made a dietary mistake? You don’t want to know! Oh, you do… the undigested mix tries to come back, causing me distress, sleepless nights, and bad taste in my mouth. Continue reading “I discovered sous vide. The French words mean: under vacuum.”
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I love watching movies, I love reading, I am a half introvert half extrovert person.
I have met someone (Ben Settle) with similar personality, to adopt as a teacher. I start my day with reading his email. And I always find some way to become bigger from it.
On some level, in some aspect, you need to be the same as your teacher, or you won’t let them get through to you… My parents were both so different from me, that I learned only two sentences worth from them, both from my father.
One of his teaching was a sentence that I misunderstood for at least 50 years… until I got what he meant.
He said:
Continue reading “The Tao of attraction, of anything. Business, love, respect, money…”
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I just watched the documentary, Minding the Gap. It’s about three boys who bond over skateboarding, and a shared childhood of abuse.
The documentary is made by one of the three boys. 15 years of their lives you get to witness.
You can’t avoid to look at your own life. No escape.
There is so much grief, in everyone, and it is so hard to recover from it. It took me a lifetime… And grief is not just beating, or molestation, it is everything that lands as abuse, not letting you wear what you prefer to wear, not letting you eat what you prefer to eat, not helping you with your homework, belittling every effort you make, forcing you to visit with your father even though you don’t want to, complaining to your child about things that a child can’t handle, the way to abuse is so many, that there is probably not a child who wasn’t abused one way or another.
The Playground has a subtitle: It is never too late to have a happy childhood. Continue reading “I just watched the Oscar nominated documentary”
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Code book discrepancy?As a kid, my teacher said about me that I was amoral. Not immoral… amoral. Immoral: not conforming to accepted standards of morality. Amoral, on the other hand is lacking a moral sense; unconcerned with the rightness or wrongness of something.
Now, whether that was true or not: I don’t know. In fact, I have no idea. I think every child is amoral: we haven’t been indoctrinated in a moral code… aka code book.
My code book is probably different from your code book. Continue reading “I show you mine if you show me yours…”
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Go beyond where you NORMALLY stop… Go to where the sun shines, no matter what the season is
I woke up disgruntled… (=angry, dissatisfied) almost ready to go into devastation (which is my “home page”) but it all changed as I sat down and began to write. What was going to be a rant, became a celebration.
I guess I am not stuck with, neither am invested in, nor am I resisting being someone who rants when I feel beaten, or slighted, or hurt…Most of my students either are invested (i.e. known for) or resist being angry… i.e. stuck with being angry. Continue reading “Go beyond where you NORMALLY stop… Go to where…”
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And I rarely say anything twice. I expressed it once, and I am done with it.
34 years ago I started my journey from misery to The Promised Land… It was promised… and I went for it.
It was the last weekend of August back in 1985.
I snuck away from Jerusalem, where I lived at the time. Took the 2-hour bride to Haifa, took a taxi, and voila, my journey began.
It was a Communication Workshop. In Hebrew. My Hebrew was good enough to do work, but was pretty meager for transformational work, so it wasn’t till the last day that I understood a full sentence.
But that didn’t prevent me from having a breakthrough. Continue reading “This is one of those weeks: I am all talked out.”
Once you conquer a “boulder”, a challenging character flaw, a new one takes its place. But what is in common in all the flaws is the seed level.
What is the seed level of all the stuff that can make you miserable? Sorry, all the stuff that makes you miserable?
So far I have found two that every person has:
1. As far as I can see it, it is a mindset nearly all humans share: that life, things should be different. That what they think should be is what should be.
They place themselves above reality, above nature, above physics, above maybe even above their gods.
Continue reading “Confuse needs and wants? Especially around the holidays?”
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You never know where your learning will come from… bits and pieces
I put all the cash I had at hand, $25, in an envelope yesterday and wrote on it: to Frank the mailman. Today I found a Christmas card, the only one I got, from Frank the mailman, saying “Thank you for the gift.”
I cried. I am still crying. Big learning here… even though I don’t know what it is… Hopefully by the end of the article I will.
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I just spent a few hours listening to really smart behavioral economists,
At the end, when they thought the microphone was already off, the interviewer and the interviewee said: “we should do this every day, we could get good at it.”
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Then I watched the movie Two Popes… cried a lot. Identified with the two Catholic priests… surprised myself with that.
Continue reading “You never know where your learning will come from”
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This topic comes from a reader, thank you. Without her prompting I would have never looked there. It would have been a big missing.
I am going to share only what I really know, from my experience, not some theories of some big names, like Freud… I am giving you only Tree of Life. Continue reading “Self-Punishment, Self-Punishing Behavior, the why”
