Category: Spiritual Practice

Love is not a feeling. Love is generosity. Allowing

Love is not a feeling. Love is generosity. Allowing

love is generosity. love is allowing the other to fulfill their need while we are fulfilling ours.Love is not a feeling. Love is generosity. Allowing the other to fulfill their needs while you are fulfilling your own

This article is not about the “love” you, or Wikipedia call love… it’s about another love… What we customarily call love is a “hardware-based need”, the need to make our genes to survive in some offspring. And some of us may call the need for pleasure, the need to get rid of the unpleasant guiding feeling of “horniness” love. Those are misnomers, dressing something as something else… prettier.

Most people have plenty of sex, no love. Some people have no sex, and plenty of love.

The two needs are not connected. Continue reading “Love is not a feeling. Love is generosity. Allowing”

How the left brain blocks all your attempts to evolve as a person…

How the left brain blocks all your attempts to evolve as a person…

I am reading a book 1 that says that humans used to be able to live from their right-brain, meaning they were a lot more intelligent.

The book says that people with damage to their left brain can become savants, exceptional in one or two abilities, or vegetables… lol, maybe not so funny.

Then the book doesn’t talk about me, who did have damage to my left brain hemisphere, and when the brain was knocked self-conscious, the two hemispheres connected and became one.

The good news: I only have some troubles with my left-brain capacities, adding numbers wrong, confusing left and right, and dyslexia: reading what isn’t there, or when it’s bad: not being able to read at all.

The bad news: Your left brain works well, and it suppresses your right brain, the abilities that are beyond words… like being, feeling, knowing, seeing, patterns… all the things I am trying to teach you. My hunch that everything gurus, religions etc. say about the heart, it is really the right brain… And what they call the subconscious is also the right brain. Suppressed, of course, showing itself only occasionally on for a brief second…

Your left brain gets the words, filters out everything it considers garbage, and you are left with what you already knew.

That is the bad news.
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If you don’t take feedback well, you need to grow up and get cracking.

If you don’t take feedback well, you need to grow up and get cracking.


You need to get better, maybe even good at it. 2

So here are a few “memes” I picked today.

When you distinguish something, the whole world seems to rotate around the thing you just distinguished, so feedback showed up everywhere.

And I got acknowledged by two people on the trip to the grocery store… so I am getting better too… lol.

OK, here are the pictures…. almost…

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“need to meet others’ expectation” is important, but why?

“need to meet others’ expectation” is important, but why?

And how it doesn’t mean to please everybody, or even one person. You’ll see…

Our language is so corrupt, it is hard to find a person who means what they say… I mean the words. You’ll see what meeting others’ expectation is… Not what’s on the illustrations… 🙁

The most willfully ignored need, in my experience, is the need to meet others’ expectation.

What prevents you from honoring that need is a misunderstanding. Or we could say: the mis-weighing bias. All biases are misunderstanding how things work, shortcuts that give you a different result than what you expected.

In not honoring but ignoring this need, your chances for success, your chances for love, for self-expression, for happiness are so greatly diminished, it’s not even funny. Continue reading ““need to meet others’ expectation” is important, but why?”

Misweighting Bias… are you penny wise and dollar foolish?

Misweighting Bias… are you penny wise and dollar foolish?

It’s Tuesday and I just got back from my exercise class.

It was full today. Everyone was in post-holiday mode, except a few people.

I had a conversation with a woman, and had a chance to see how certain words, how certain way of saying what I have been saying lands.

I shared my story, how I escaped becoming mediocre like most people. I said no to coasting with people in my life.
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Energy you need to create the good life and maintain it?

Energy you need to create the good life and maintain it?

how much energy do you need to create the good life and maintain it?If you want to grow as a person, or grow anything worth growing, you need energy. Lots of it. Continuously.

Physical law says that systems, unless they are very highly organized closed systems, like the brain, will fall apart with time (entropy)… Your life is NOT highly organized, because it is not a closed system. So in order for it to stay organized and effective, it needs a ton of energy to be injected, continually.

Left alone, your life starts falling apart. This is what happens during holidays and vacations.

Injecting energy into your life is going to be a crucial distinction you need to learn.

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How will you have the energy to grow? How I did it…

How will you have the energy to grow? How I did it…

I saw something today I hadn’t seen before. But before I say what I saw, let me dispel some myth: there is no such thing as bad energy. Energy is energy. It is good if you use it for good. And bad if you use it for bad. I’ll write another article on this: but I have the urge to state it here and now: there is no such thing as bad energy.

All energy is good… and some meets you and triggers something bad… But it’s you… sorry. Oops.

OK. let me start saying what I wanted to say: Continue reading “How will you have the energy to grow? How I did it…”

When will you experience life as good? Worth living?

When will you experience life as good? Worth living?

When you experience life as good, harmonious, nurturing: what is it that makes you experience it like that? What you have? What you do? Who you are with? What you have accomplished?

This is a question I bet you never asked.

You have asked different questions:

Non-physical pain explains nearly everything you do

Non-physical pain explains nearly everything you do
This article is dangerously personal…

Last night I watched a movie, Children of Men.

I remember seeing the trailer 10 years ago when it was a new movie. Then I never heard of it again until yesterday. That it is an accurate showing of where we are heading and where we already are. Continue reading “Non-physical pain explains nearly everything you do”

Is antisemitism, racism, prejudice OK?

Is antisemitism, racism, prejudice OK?

I am having an interesting issue to ponder. Maybe you can ponder with me?

The guy whose writing I am so taken with, his books, the Hungarian guy, according to my muscletest has a prejudice against Jews.

In common parlance, he is antisemitic.

Nothing special there, a full 30% of the developed countries’ population is antisemitic and 70% of the Hungarian population. 1.4% of Hungary’s population is Jewish. A total of about 140,000 people. Before the Holocaust the number was 900,000. 14.31 million worldwide, or 0.2 percent. Or two people in every thousand people.

If you are part of a minority against whom there can be or are negative prejudices, a Jew, Black, Moslem, Indian, Chinese… you’ll have this issue as a daily, in the background and maybe even in the foreground conversation.
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