The original sin… how you can stop paying, how can you stop suffering?

The original sin… how you can stop paying, how can you stop suffering?

As I promised, the next step in creating your life that discouragement is only a rare guest in, instead of a tenant…

I am going to start with a somewhat gossipy story: my conversation with my mentor, Gyõzõ Margóczi, the brilliant engineer who wrote the books “Feelings” and “Words”.

I suggested that he thinks about developing a feedback device, that gives you valuable feedback on your feelings… because being in touch and understanding the dynamics of feelings is the hardest thing for a regular human.

And everyone is a regular human… 🙁 Continue reading “The original sin… how you can stop paying, how can you stop suffering?”

When you are sick, your job is to be sick…

When you are sick, your job is to be sick…

I have clients with serious conditions… and unless they heed the wisdom in this article, I wash my hands from them.

The last few days have been extraordinary. Not good, not very bad, simply not my ordinary days.

I have had a heart-to-heart with my ego that didn’t want to allow me to grow business-wise. It was very interesting… you should watch the replay if you don’t know what I am talking about. Continue reading “When you are sick, your job is to be sick…”

You can be happy on a sinking ship or in any circumstance

You can be happy on a sinking ship or in any circumstance
Ignorance is not bliss. Knowledge is not power. But you can be happy on a sinking ship of a humanity that is annihilating itself

The paradigm we live in has no access to happiness… no bridge, no path, no door… We are locked into unhappiness

I just hung up with my friend from university. ((Budapest Technical University, Architecture School, Class of 1971.))

We did some frenzied gossiping about Trump and the hopelessness of the future… Just like we would have done during the Second World War… An activity (gossiping, complaining, blaming, etc.) that will make no difference. But what will? What could?

I have to admit, this conversation lead to a turning point for me… and if and when I turn about-face, I can lead you to do the same… The turning wasn’t instant. But it is done. I am happy again.

This is what I learned in the conversation and after… when I reflected on it:

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The secret to happiness is wanting what you have

The secret to happiness is wanting what you have

When I look back at my life, I find that the way to get ahead in life, the way to amass knowledge, the way to grow is through wanting what you have… and more of it.

Curiosity, the word, means something different for different people.

The low vibration person looks outside of themselves for something pleasant to titillate them.

The high vibration person looks inside of themselves for something pleasant they already have experienced and they can have more of if they want to. Continue reading “The secret to happiness is wanting what you have”

How WANTING and DESIRE put you into scarcity

How WANTING and DESIRE put you into scarcity

It’s January, and a good large percentage of the searches on my site are for the mindset of money… People’s mind is on abundance this month… and it will stay there till April…

I have been observing people and businesses for decades. If you made it through March, then you probably made it another year… but the sense of impending doom begins in January.

I read a story about a woman who gave away ALL her money.

She was, a millionaire (or close to it) at the time. In any case, she came from money.

Her grandfather was a famous industrialist. Her parents had owned houses and property all over the world.

Thing is, this woman (who had been born into all this money and the lifestyle it afforded) didn’t feel right about it.

She felt she hadn’t earned it.

So she gave it away, ALL her entire inheritance. Lock. Stock. And Barrel.

Then she began doing workshops on contributing to the greater good of society.
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Persistence is one of the top five character traits of successful people… Why is it so rare?

Persistence is one of the top five character traits of successful people… Why is it so rare?

I did something today I had never done: I listened to the same 67-step the second time. Step 66 on persistence… (The Persistent Widow…)

And I heard something differently this time.

The rapper, @50cent says that people don’t stick with anything, because they get bored easily. He calls going beyond boredom devotion. 1

This is what today’s article is about. The phenomenon of getting bored… or getting devoted.

Bored is the result of an attitude… the attitude of being aloof, being separate, not giving oneself fully over.

In the beginning, if we are lucky, right after we are born we are reunited with our mother and there is a bonding.
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Where do you look to answer the question: “how are you feeling?”

Where do you look to answer the question: “how are you feeling?”

I love learning. Even if the learning is preceded, or a result of some bad experience… even if it is pain…

You learn nothing from pleasant, or good, or happy.

You can only learn from bad, mistakes, wrong steps, screw-ups, or failures.

If you are willing. If you are not willing, then you’ll never learn. And if the glove doesn’t fit… don’t wear it.

I talked to two clients yesterday.

I asked one how he was feeling. I already knew because I had run his numbers, but I was curious how he felt about how he felt. Continue reading “Where do you look to answer the question: “how are you feeling?””

If your life feels like a roller coaster ride… If all your attempts at improving your life make it worse…

If your life feels like a roller coaster ride… If all your attempts at improving your life make it worse…

Cone vision can be wide and narrow, or Short and long… This distinction was driven up today by a student question: He watched the movie “The Founder” about Ray Kroc of MacDonald’s fame.

I haven’t watched the movie, but in it, according to the student, Ray Kroc was offered the chance to sell franchises to the MacDonald method of making and selling food. To the student’s sensibilities: Ray Kroc was shortchanged: the deal was not a win-win. And having to always be in an obvious win-win is one of his preferences… and therein lies his no success… Let me talk about what is happening in a long article.

Everything you see can be looked at many ways. In this article I will talk about seeing inside the visible.
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Smart phone and your Twitchy Little Bastard Score?

Smart phone and your Twitchy Little Bastard Score?

If you have a smart phone… What is it doing to your Twitchy Little Bastard Score?

Warning: this article is half teaching half ranting… Consider yourself warned!
As you know the most reliable indicator whether you’ll have a good life or not is your TLB score.

We could say that your worth a damn factor is very close to your TLB score… And whether you are worth a damn, is clearly indicative of the quality of life you’ll live, the kind of friends you’ll have, the kind of money your can make, consistently, and the kind of intimate relationships you can form and maintain.

Tai Lopez says… one of the high achievers said it… that it is awareness.

But this was said before the age of the smart phones.

Today the amount of time you are willing to spend without your phone is a better indicator than your education, your IQ, all you could do if you had time… almost anything.

Why?

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My 67 step coaching program was inspired by a Neal Stephenson novel

My 67 step coaching program was inspired by a Neal Stephenson novel

The inspiration to coach using Tai Lopez’s 67 steps came from one of my all time favorite books, the Neal Stephenson novel, Diamond Age.

In that novel, science fiction, far in the future, a scientist puts together an interactive book, a primer, for a rich and influential client’s grand daughter. And then he steals it… meaning: duplicates it without permission.

He means to give it to his daughter, but accidentally it goes to a very young, very poor, very disadvantaged girl, Nell.

Nell grows into a veritable person and a hero as a result of interacting with the book.

Not READING the book, but interacting with the book… doing what the book says to do, answering the book’s questions, etc.

It is not what she learned from the book that made her a person, by the way. It is the constant redirecting the book provided. Getting to know herself. Minding her job as a person… not worrying about others’ opinion of her, or what she is doing, of what one is supposed to do. Continue reading “My 67 step coaching program was inspired by a Neal Stephenson novel”