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What is the Self? Part 2

So, the question is still: what is the self, the self that you honor when you talk about integrity? Integrity is being true to your self…

What is the self that you esteem in self-esteem. (Esteem means ‘hold in high regard’)

What is the self in self-expression? What is the self that is through and through in authentic self? What is the self that pursues its purpose?

You have no answer, and neither have any real and useful answer the videos on youtube, or philosophical books. What they do is create more confusion, lump the self together with ego, or with consciousness… well, they are all confused puppies, sorry.

So what is MY answer, and why is it more valid than famous people’s “answer”?
Why is it, that wherever you look, there is verbal and real confusion, and no one has an answer.

The question is: is this part of the millennia old effort to reduce humanity to sheep?
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Joy of life, Joy of Being Alive versus Should

I woke up with a wispy joy this morning. I loved how my bed felt, how my body felt, how the light fell in the room. It was an inside job. None of those outer stuff was any different from any other morning. I was different. I had that rare quality of enjoyment, of joy, of the joy of being alive.

It is so rare because it, just like the tiny blue flowers at the root of your grass, are hidden by the tall grass. They are tiny, they are insignificant, and our eyes look for the big, the flashy, the showy, and can’t even see the beauty of the tiny blue flowers.

It is rare, because most of us, very early in life, have overpowered with a demand of how life should be.

The man downstairs where I live, has two sons from a marriage, that come to stay with him 4-5 times a year. Two boys, one around 5, the other around 7.

The five year old still has joy. Joy of life. Joy for no reason. Joy because it’s there. His laugh is like the laughter of a mountain brook, bubbling. His brother laughs, but he always has a reason to laugh, mostly at his little brother’s expense. There is no joy in his laugh, there is glee. Glee has a reason, an evil reason. Glee cost another something. It’s pure desire to receive for the self alone.
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Who is Speaking? or how to find your own voice

We all want to find out who we are, so we can be true to ourselves… but who we are is not who we are at all… it’s all the people that taught us, teachers, parents, Facebook, etc… But you can start distinguishing the “not you” and what you will be left with is the you that you have been looking for.

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Want to find love? Love in what you do? Find what you love to do and make money with it?

An old client called me today. He was a client some 6-7 years ago. He was originally from Peru, living in Toronto at the time. He was in real-estate, and he was a lousy salesman. Regardless, he was pursuing his career, despite the poor match, poor results.

He is in Peru. H is living, modestly, on his real-estate investments in Canada. He still doesn’t know what he wants to do when he grows up. He is nearing 70. He is idle. He would like to spend his life with more meaning, doing something that he loves to do.

He is waiting for that “love-affair” to show up in his life. He can wait till he dies.

So what is the way to find the love of your life, whether it’s a vocation, or a person?

I know nothing about finding the right person. So I won’t be talking about that. But I have found, so far, two vocations that have supported me, and I love them. Maybe three… lol

Which means a few things:

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Are you sure you are feeling THAT? How many emotions can you identify in yourself?

All Decisions Are Emotional. Later You Justify Them With Your Mind. Want to know what emotion blocks your breathing?

There is nothing new in that for many of you, but for those of you that didn’t know about it: let me explain.

Emotions is a guidance system that is much more ancient than the mind. You feel stuff way before the mind gets alert that something is going on. The mind is always late to every party. The mind asks the question: “What happened?” because it doesn’t know.

There is a saying: some people make things happen, others watch things happen, and yet more people ask: what the heck happened?

Now, up till here, this is pretty commonplace for a lot of people.

What I am going to say now is new, even I didn’t know until this past Saturday. It is so new, and it is so shocking, to me, that I have been telling it to everyone who is willing to listen.
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How Can You Improve Your Life? Really Improve

A student of mine just emailed this morning: “I just heard the most marvelous bit of wisdom from Joan Rivers, of all people. Talking about life she said,

“I wish I could tell you that life gets better… but it doesn’t get better. YOU get better.”

Life is life, people are people.

An empath student of mine wrote to me today:

Sophie I felt an energy shift yesterday,experienced way less anxiety and after the call last night felt good my mood was happy. I have not felt that in months
Now I woke up this am with tons of anxiety, my stomach in a knot
this is the roller coaster. I desire balance and not these huge sways

This is what I answered: you will never have 100% smooth ride because you are an empath. I bet the emotions weren’t yours.

This whole “getting better” expression is imprecise though. I have written in other articles, and I’ll write it until people get it: my programs raise your vibration. And a higher vibration is like…
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How Is Procrastination Helpful to You? Really Helpful! I am not Kidding! UPDATED

Procrastination is not an issue, it’s a symptom

As you may know, I am leading a twice a week course, called Daily Connection. There is no set curriculum: the goal is to peel away the not-you. The not-self. The false self. Just like Michelangelo chipped away what’s not David…

There are two approaches to coaching people to be their best:

to call them infinite being, beautiful, loving, blah blah blah. It’s holding your face to the light. I am not attracted to that.
The methodology of Kabbalah and Landmark Education and maybe even Dianetics: find the not self, identify it, and transform it. Not change it, but transform it.

A cancer cell changed is still a cancer cell. A cancer cell transformed is a normal cell with a specific function in the body.

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Self-reflection through books, movies… tough

This is a very personal, very self-reflective post, I am not trying to teach anything. If you learn something, I am happy. But I am not writing it to teach. With that said… here it goes…

I have reduced my “work-load” to the degree, that I now often find myself with nothing to do.

I responded by making a list of things to do when there is nothing to do. I think this is the first time for a list like that: my life has been busy. Until now. It is not that I could not do a thousand and one things to grow my business, make myself fit, enjoy myself: it is just not on the schedule, so they are not part of “what there is to do…”

So my place is still a wreck, I still have tons of stuff I would not want to take with me if I wanted to move, so there could be a lot of things to do, if I just put them on my list.

Instead of that, I bought a book to read; it passed my picky muscletest. ¹

It’s a book about a teenager. WTF? What was I thinking? But I trust my muscletest, so I kept reading it. It didn’t make sense why I “had to” read it until the very end. The end was so unexpected, that I was jolted out of my calm, and into a turmoil.
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Breakfast or no breakfast? That is a question…

I bought a book yesterday. An ebook, to be precise.

I only bought it because I wanted something to offer to my overweight or weight conscious readers. I have been, myself, packing it on, and I thought that if I got into trouble, maybe other people did too… you? Continue reading “Breakfast or no breakfast? That is a question…”

The Secret To Attaining A Good Self-Image and Self-Esteem

Remember, that the more you like yourself the better you like your life? But did you know that you don’t like yourself, because you disappointed yourself?

When you are down in the dumps, and you try to pick yourself up, the experts say that you should do some juicy affirmations. But the truth is, that you know you are lying, so the affirmations don’t do you any good, in fact they erode the little self-esteem you have.

Your soul, your “real self” doesn’t approve of lying, doesn’t approve of cheating, doesn’t approve of stealing, and the like.

Our outward directed attention gives us the mistaken impression that if the world likes us, if we are outwardly successful, then we’ll like ourselves.

Unfortunately for most of us, the outward success doesn’t do anything for your self-esteem, and for your liking your life. It is the inward work that matters.
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