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Astuteness? Nah, You are making Decisions Emotionally?

I wrote this article about making decisions emotionally back in 2013… and reading it was amazing: I actually now see how far I have come…

OK, here is the original article:

You are not stupid, you are just making your decisions emotionally

‘If you want to live with the masses, think emotionally. If you want to live with the middle class, think positively. If you want live with the world class, think critically.’ –Steve Siebold Continue reading “Astuteness? Nah, You are making Decisions Emotionally?”

Are you talented? Is talent wasted on you?

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This morning I have been experiencing an emotional roller coaster… as I am cycling through tens of people as I accidentally connect to them. Some gurus, Murakami, his wife, a marketing guru, my next door neighbor, my brother, some students, a site visitor from Hungary, my architecture school friend.

I can feel my face, my mouth… and I can recognize the micro expressions and identify them.

And then, of course, the emotions of my own reaction to their internal state… judgment, compassion, pity, sympathy…

I could write an article, a whole article, about each of them, but I’ll write about a word that screwed up countless lives… and probably still is.

As you know, a large period of my life I was an architect. Architecture school, in Hungary, is something you choose after high school, and it’s a five year study, every person takes the exact same classes.

The favorite or dreaded word of an architecture student was ‘talented’ or ‘not talented’.
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Are you a lump of coal dreaming itself a diamond?

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Karl Marx, the author of Communist Manifesto and the whole ideology of socialism and communism, where there is forced equality, said:

Religion is the sigh of the oppressed creature, the heart of a heartless world, and the soul of soulless conditions. It is the opium of the people

Religion was constructed by people to calm uncertainty over their role in the universe and in society.

I can see that. Continue reading “Are you a lump of coal dreaming itself a diamond?”

Who is my ideal client and to whom I talk when I write?

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I am still in the middle of the Avatar series on Netflix. And although some of it is cringe worthy, especially Sokka who alternates between forcefully, compulsively trying to be funny and be forcefully and compulsively dominating, and forcefully and… you get the gist.

What I am trying to say is that good series have consistent characters and you can learn an awful lot about life through them. About people. About yourself. About good and bad. Life.

You are learning through living about life? Even the ancients knew that was not possible… you are too close, you have a vested interest and your view is skewed… so no, the ancients didn’t have Netflix but they did have storytelling, fables, etc. and their job was the same thing: to learn about life.

Stories, parables, fairy tales… yeah. Well constructed, for the purposes of teaching. Continue reading “Who is my ideal client and to whom I talk when I write?”

What’s the difference between homo sapiens and human being?

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Surprisingly the difference between homo sapiens and human being is in one and only one thing… and it is not a yes/no issue, nor a succeed or fail issue, it is a question of degrees.

How someone answers and then executes the answer to this question will depend on one and one one thing. Here is the question: Life itself is empty and meaning-free… What are you going to fill it with?

So you want to get a great life. You want to make a difference. You want to matter. You want to feel good about yourself. Some of you want to become Expanding Human Beings. Some of you want to become producers. Some of you want to become loving.

There is just a little problem with what you want. There is something there… and there is something missing.

Easy peasy you say… so let’s see.
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Can you grieve over the loss of something you never had?

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It’s Saturday and I cancelled all my engagements so I can have some time to clear my head

And then… this persistent inner weeping came up… again.

I asked Source: do I have a reason to grieve? yes. did I lose something? yes. was it ever mine? no. was it love? yes.

So I have been grieving over the loss of something that was never mine, that I never had… so I could not have lost it… and I am grieving nevertheless.

so I ask Source: is that stupid? yes… was the answer.

But what is really happening? I say: the feelings meditations are doing their work.

I had anger for decades… now I have the grief… and when it’s gone I’ll have maybe sadness… and when that is gone, I’ll be free. Continue reading “Can you grieve over the loss of something you never had?”

Give your inner wisdom a chance to talk. Then listen

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Give your inner wisdom a chance to talk

I have been changing up what I do in my business to find… again… what works.

What do I mean ‘works’?

In business (but my hunch is everywhere in life) things work well for a while and then they don’t. Continue reading “Give your inner wisdom a chance to talk. Then listen”

It’s completely predictable. It always happens without fail.

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It wasn’t always… It is getting worse… In my generation, in my country of origin… in my ethnicity it wasn’t predictable…

But America… it is. In California: it is. In the South: it is. In New York: it isn’t. In England: it isn’t. In South Africa: it isn’t. In Canada: it is.

What is it? What is that predictable thing?
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In preparation to the ‘bad feelings’ guidance meditation

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The small thinker (who should not buy anything from me anyway) will hate the idea that the results are entirely up to them. The bigger thinker will likely love it.

Bad feelings and Bach energies… what is the connection?

Before you can heal something: you have to feel it. Consciously.

But it feels bad! you cry and you are right. It does. Continue reading “In preparation to the ‘bad feelings’ guidance meditation”

Bad feelings… they are the best guidance

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Feeling… different feelings, if they are consciously felt, guide you in different ways. Acting on guidance is not jerky… it is deliberate… What is jerky is fixing.

Of course like with most important things, the words we use are, maybe intentionally, used to confound us, to give us no clarity.

It is useful to separate and distinguish feelings and emotions in that feelings are what you actually feel in your body, emotions are the meaning you gave to those feelings.

Margoczi, a Hungarian author, says that emotions are wholly and fully created by words. This is useful to consider, even if this is not exactly accurate, for the purposes of having a sense of power, a feeling of power, this is very useful.

What may be true is that if the feeling moves… Continue reading “Bad feelings… they are the best guidance”