Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
I wrote this article more than four years ago. I assigned this simple exercise to about a hundred people, and to my dismay, all failed.
I discovered two days ago why… and now I can start teaching it again, and see if it is a lack of capacity, or a lack of intention that causes the failure. Continue reading “How Can This Simple Exercise Be The Ticket To Happiness?”
There are two ways to get to Self-Love… One through finding things to love… the other is the strait and narrow method: discounting all the bad things you do, so you end up with loving yourself.
I prefer the second path.
Once you love yourself, learning new things to do well is much easier.
So far 46 people read my article about the exercise for self love.
One of them actually did what I did, followed my example, and wrote to me about his experience. He is astute 1.
So what did the rest of them do?
Some of them, at least, hugged themselves, and felt the pain or the sadness.
Did any of them have a conversation? Yes. Some of them. Continue reading “Astute, clueless… how many distinct things can you tell apart?”
I am still struggling with having something or anything to say. Now I have the energy, but don’t have the … what?
What don’t I have, and why is that important to know what it is that you don’t have?
The number one need of people, I say, is the desire to make a difference.
But when I say ‘make a difference’ I don’t mean the big flashy things, like Bill Gates curing malaria… I mean being wanted to be there. That you are not refused.
Cain killed Abel in the Bible, because god accepted Abel’s sacrifice, but not his. He, Cain, got furious, and killed who he could killed, Abel.
Continue reading “Can’t learn? Won’t learn? Is that how you keep yourself stuck in life?”
The opposite of Life is a conversation is you living in a world of objects, being an object. An object. Ugh. I don’t want to be an object. But if you look, you ARE treated as an object, by nearly everyone nearly all the time.
People don’t look at YOU, they look at your body, your clothes, your hair… but not YOU. Continue reading “Heaven or hell… same place, same people… the difference:”
Can you be a creator and yet live in the machine? Yes, if you live like life is a conversationMy introduction to this concept, that life is a conversation was in October 1987… The month of the big stock market crash.
I was an architect in the luxury architecture business… custom vacation houses on the tropical islands… and suddenly the clients lost all their money in the crash… and the projects were put on hold.
I had no savings, I had no other income, so this new idea, that I have the power to say, to create a conversation how to hold the “I am probably going to lose this job and my income” with something other than panic and anguish… And I did. I invented stuff, sometimes hourly, and could keep up my sunny disposition.
I did get let go, but whenever this company needed an architect, they called me, per diem, and I survived and was fine… thank to this new way of looking at life.
Did reality change? Yes and no. The largest reality didn’t change. But what was possible for me, definitely changed. Continue reading “Can you be a creator and yet live in the machine? Yes, if…”
I could say ‘I am depleted’ as I have always said: I am running on empty. I could also say: I feel emotionally and intellectually empty. But like you, I can benefit from adding to my vocabulary of state-expressing words, and feeling-indicating words.
When I don’t feel energized, when I am not full of creativity and when I don’t have three new articles almost ready to write, when I don’t feel like I have new programs to launch, then eventually I start to wonder, maybe even worry.
Why? What happened? Where did my energy go? Continue reading “I am depleted. Where did my energy go? Running on empty”
Process-conscious vs result-conscious… fulfillment every day vs one day someday
I have a brain that is a pattern seeking machine.
A pattern is when something is repeating, form, essence, pitch, sequence, day of the week, month of the year, etc… something that connects seemingly unconnected things together.
Seeing patterns can save lives. and animals living in the wild still have the capacity, but humans and domesticated animals living in a comfortable world, have lost it… to their detriment. Continue reading “Process-conscious vs result-conscious… and fulfillment”
I have written about increasing your vocabulary, I have said it in coaching calls, I have been asking people to do what it takes, and the answer is… nothing. 1
One possible reason is that you don’t know what I mean.
I have two students, one of them ex… 🙁 who, while reading books, wrote down words with their meanings, and learned them like a second language.
I, myself, look up every word on my kindle when I read, I don’t know, and then promptly forget the word. I have to look it up again the next time it comes up. And yet, I ‘sport’ an ever growing vocabulary, that has gone from 1000 in 2011 to 5000 nowadays. Continue reading “Does any word added increase your vocabulary?”
Why unconditional love is damaging, and why setting conditions is healthy… even loving?
My new 20-day skill learning challenge is to listen and internalize 20 videos by Hungarian, now dead, psychologist, Peter Popper.
I am self-taught… or more precisely: I have an education that is hodge podge, eclectic: I gathered knowledge from all over the place, and I have gaping holes, that until this day I had no idea where to fill or how.
The gaping holes are so big, that some of my students could slip through: Whatever I knew didn’t help them to become all they can become.
With that said, I listened to a Dr. Popper masterclass on youtube, sadly, it is in Hungarian, with subtitles that you need to set to your own language…
Dr Popper’s masterclasses, a whole lot of them, have 60% truth value, 30% of what he says fills in my gaping holes. Continue reading “Why unconditional love is damaging but what is loving?”
I left Hungary 37 years ago. And yet, when I hum, half of the songs are Hungarian, from before I left there.
I trust that when a song pops into my head, it is some kind of guidance. So when the song that was somehow related to the Counter-revolution in 1956, Que sera sera sung in Hungarian, when that song popped into my mind, I said to myself: pay attention. What is it saying?
I was nine years old at the time, and I was puzzled why the song would be put on the black list… I still can’t see why.
I am doing a little research on google. Continue reading “From Que Sera Sera, a meandering path to no regrets”
