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Empathy… Life’s most important capacity to master

In my inquiries, I find that more and more capacities that I’ve assumed we all have, it turns out, we don’t.

The question that has been puzzling me is why certain ethnic groups that were persecuted at any one time don’t recognize a similarly persecuted other ethnic group as comrades in suffering. Why one victim can’t and won’t give you a hoot about another victim’s misery.

I mostly see this in movies nowadays, but I used to participate in groups and in big seminars, so I have been seeing this forever.

But this was the first time I asked the question: why is this?

Are these bad people? And I guess that is what I have been stuck with until yesterday.

Yesterday I asked the question: is it a capacity to see the same fate in another?

The answer was yes. Hm… but then what is the capacity? Is it the seeing or is it the appreciating of it?
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Hijacking the conversation… inside and outside

When I owned the magazine I published for 10 years, I was looking to hire an assistant.

One of the test assignments I gave to the applicant is to sort the stuff in a junk drawer. I gave them no pointers… it was a big drawer, a lot of things to sort.

Every single applicant failed to find something relevant to sort by. I finally hired a girl who was nice, but useless…

Sorting is a life skill. Deciding on a relevant criteria to sort by is a life skill.

I learned life-skills in Landmark Education.

Previously I was like a nerd, an idiot savant.

One of the life-skill I learned is to be able to keep to what is relevant, to what belongs to the conversation.

In meetings at Landmark Education, they choose a “conversation manager”.

The two jobs of the conversation manager is to

keep people to say only what belongs to the conversation
to make sure that everything said forwards the conversation towards resolution.

I am always dumbfounded by people’s inability to see what belongs to a conversation.

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Could you be crying and be unphased at the same time?

Can you listen to insults to your family, your god, your country and be unphased?

Can you watch death and grieving and be unphased?

I am unphased 91% of the time. Very few things pull me out of the equilibrium. Times when I need to recover so I can return to being well and being unphased. All of these situations are self-created. none of them are real.

I cry a lot. Why? I feel people’s grief, I feel centuries old sadness, I feel people’s pain of not being allowed to grow, or even to live. Continue reading “Could you be crying and be unphased at the same time?”

Do you have a keyhole size view of the world?

How many pieces of information can you play with in your brain? Do you have a keyhole view of the world?

What is real thinking, as opposed to having thoughts, or recalling what someone said someplace?

I have been pondering.

My method for pondering is this: I play Freecell, so I am tied to my computer, so I must be sitting. My hands are busy, my eyes are busy, even my mind is busy.

The part of me that does thinking, on the other hand, is free. Free to do, what I call thinking or pondering.

I read a lot, and oftentimes I muscletest if it is true, but some things, moral, ethical, real spiritual things I like to see for myself.

Osho says somewhere that the understanding man doesn’t think, because the understanding man sees.

It is easy to see that if the thing to see is outside, you don’t have to think, you see. Red is red, and blue is blue. You see it.

But when the thing is inside, you need to set it up to see. So the understanding man can set up structures in their brain to look at. You need to use your random access memory (RAM), the instant memory function of the brain, to set up what you want to see.
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What happens if and when something turns you from spiritual flying to spiritual falling? How can you reverse it?

An interesting phenomenon: people who have never had any spiritual capacity activated, do better, fare better than “advanced” students.

Of course this is not true for everyone.

What is the difference, the crucial difference that I see?

It is whether they are in falling, whether they are flailing, or have hit bottom.

“Beginners” have hit bottom. They know it. There is no doubt about it. Unless they get that new spiritual capacity working, life will stay the same, and they will conine to feel alone, misunderstood, and rejected.

The “advanced” people, especially if the holidays put them in free fall mode, and it seems to me, that every one of my students is in that mode, they want to go back into flying… and it’s not working.

If you are a bird, you can fall and recover, and fly again.
If you are an airplane, you can fall and pull out of the fall, and fly again.
But if you are human, you have to hit ground to be able to take off and fly again.You have to go back to where you started, and even slightly below it.

You now have seen the enemy, if you have, and know that there is a floor on which you live, a floor that is based on a lie.

The lie, that you have been trying to fix by doing this spiritual work, cannot be fixed.

Lies cannot be fixed. Only what is real can be fixed.

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Did you have a long holiday? lot of time with family?

Some capacities, especially the ones that are your main soul correction capacities, are hard to keep on.

What does Source have to say about that?

There are different reasons.

Reason #1: You need more capacities turned on before you can tackle the “big one”.

Any capacity dealing with your Dark Side has huge support from the Dark Side, namely the Opponent. Continue reading “Did you have a long holiday? lot of time with family?”

Why do I use harsh language, why do I provoke you all the time? Or how do you grow a self?

One of my jobs in causing transformation is to be an agent provocateur… to provoke people in my articles, on my webinars… keep on provoking.

Everything that upsets you drives up some way that you are off… off from the Tree of Life.

One recent occurrence was provoking Canadians about Canada.

Canadians are very sensitive about their country… just like a fat woman is sensitive about being called fat.

When you are offended… you can be sure that you identified with something outside of you… and don’t have a self.

In order to do this work, you need a crystallized self… as Gurjieff said.

I have no idea what that means, but no self is definitely not that… lol.

The slightest wind upsets you… you have no core, you have no toughness… you’ll never grow, until you grow a self.

How do you grow a self?
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The work of activation is a lot like sex.

If you force it, it is rape, not sex.

So when the going gets really tough, when you find yourself stupid, let up… allow yourself to breathe.

It needs to be voluntary…

I am watching a bunch of you forcing, as if you had to… whatever.

If you are ready, and muscletest said yes, then allowing the muscles relax, allowing yourself to feel safe, and try again later is the way to go.

How much later? An hour?

You bought a 3-day coaching from me… email coaching, to keep the newly activated spiritual capacity alive. And I can feel that you are waiting for me to do something.

If we were in sport, you behave as if the coach’s job is to come pick you up drive you to the field, and tell you what to do.

What is coaching?

Coaching is the coach making you do what you don’t want to do so you can be all you can be.

But… Only someone who is in action can be coached.

So, unless you are doing what you think the assignment is, you are not in action.
Unless you report to me what you are doing and how you are doing it… you are not in action

You paid for coaching, but coaching is impossible… because coaching begins with you doing and letting me know.

I know you meant to hire me for $25 so that I can do for you what you are not willing to do. That is not coaching, that is saving, rescuing, and no matter what I do, your capacity won’t stay open, because you didn’t do what you needed to do.
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