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Genetic determinism and the ego’s role in it.Genetic determinism is the mechanism by which genes, along with environmental conditions, determine looks and behavior.
Continue reading “Do you have free will? What is the ego’s role in that?”
I saw something really important this morning.
One of my students is planning to build a business that he can do while working for a big corporation full time.
He knows what he wants to do. He knows why he wants to do it. He has the skills: he is good at it. If he gets a client: the client will be happy.
But… having a product, a service, is one thing. Selling it is another thing.
To sell anything doesn’t need you to be good at doing the service, or creating a good product.
Selling is a whole other business.
You either need a partner who can sell anything, or you need to become good at sales. Not easy.
Why? Because to sell anything, an idea, a relationship, intimacy, sex, going on vacation… anything, you need to be able to be in the other person’s head and speak from there.
Continue reading “The dangers of having empathy…”
One of the things I learned in Landmark Education, 1 is that there is physical development, and there is emotional, ethical, moral development each person needs to go through to become a fully functioning adult.
It was brand new information to me and it blew my mind.
It was new to me in spite of the fact that I was educated, having read thousands of books… even about child psychiatry, and yet, it was an earth shattering revelation to me.
I, like other people, thought that children were born with the capacity to understand why certain things are harmful, etc.
I’d thought that the inability to comprehend and appreciate responsibility for your own actions, for example, was not inability, instead it was unwillingness. Ability as programmed by the genes wasn’t becoming clear to me until about 13 years later. Continue reading “What do I know that you don’t, that I don’t often get upset? In spite of my peppery constitution…”
Learned helplessness is a technical term coined by Dr. Martin Seligman.
I don’t want to spend time with what he means by that, and how he came to discover this phenomenon… you can google it if you want to know.
If you are in the 67 steps, it’s step 7…
What I want to focus on here is the place where you won’t look: today… Where you locked yourself into a small box.
So, how do you find the areas where you have learned helplessness limiting your life, the dance floor, the ability to accomplish?
Continue reading “Learned helplessness versus innovate yourself out of your box”
Charlie Munger was a college dropout who served as a meteorologist in the US Army Air Corps before graduating from Harvard Law.
And then he met Warren Buffett.
The rest is history.
As vice chairman of Berkshire Hathaway, Munger is Buffett’s right-hand man. He has an estimated net worth of $1.19 billion.
Like Buffett, Munger is incredibly sharp in his wit and investing wisdom. You might even argue that his words are more blunt and unfiltered than Buffett’s.
We compiled a list of Munger’s most insightful quotes about investing, business, and life.
Check them out below:
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Overestimating your intelligence could be a major pitfall.If you think your IQ is 160 but it’s 150, you’re a disaster. It’s much better to have a 130 IQ and think it’s 120. Continue reading “Charlie Munger… quotes”
It’s very uncomfortable being an empath who “evaluates” others.
Any psychic, or seer, or empath, or whatever… even doctor, who isn’t uncomfortable is a shyster. After all you don’t know.
Knowing anything is arrogant. You see or feel what you see or feel, and you are ready to question it.
Continue reading “Empaths, psychics, healers: could you become one? Can it be handed to you?”
Sometimes it’s hard to see past the trouble in front of you
I heard this sentence in a Netflix film… and wrote it down quickly. 2
Anything that threatens your well-being, anything that threatens your reputation, anything that threatens your self-image shows up as trouble, and fixates your view, in an ever narrowing way on the threat. And you stare at it, and see it with the exclusion of everything else.
The challenge is to just look, and allow the urge to do something, to run, to say something, to explain, justify, fix, to just be there…
When you can do that, when you can just look, you are able to bring conscious awareness to what you see.
Continue reading “Sometimes it’s hard to see past the trouble in front of you”
I am reading Richard Dawkins’ The Selfish Gene. The genes that use humans as vehicles, and are only interested in procreation, and not in the life experience of the vehicle.
But, as I have said before, there are 160 intangible capacities, mostly dormant, in the human DNA. The ones that we are going to look at in this article are the capacities (genes) of generosity (altruism) and trust.
Trust and generosity seem to be at odds with the selfishness of the genes… but they don’t have to be.
Envy is at odds with trust and generosity, because envy means: desire to receive for the self alone… i.e. wanting the other to lose more than wanting to win. Considering the other losing as a win for you. Considering the other’s misfortune, suffering, pain, as a win for you.
According to Kabbalah, that is the only evil there is. I see it clearly.
Continue reading “Can you be selfish and generous at the same time?”
In the past four months that I have been able to turn on individual capacities for people, I have received no request to turn on trust.
Why is that?
After all people, rightly, asked me for self-trust. But self-trust won’t be enough.
So what can be the current worldview with regards to trust, that trust doesn’t come up as number one to turn on.
Because, whether you know it or not, without trust there is no winning. Without trust there is no flow. Without trust there is no fulfillment.
When I measured some winners in life, for whom it took years to hone their skills with which they won, money, recognition, admiration… trust was there, fully open.
As you probably already know, I use playing Freecell as my laboratory. It is much the way Richard Dawkins, The Selfish Gene author used the computer simulation “Prisoner’s Dilemma”… very enlightening for me.
So, what I saw today, and it’s only 6:45 am, lol, that without trust you can only play for keeps, or without trust you can’t open your eyes wide, and take steps that will only pay off 20-30 steps down the line. Continue reading “I was looking at trust, the intangible capacity to trust… and its role in becoming a winner”
Can someone who listens to an audio, watches a video, reads a book, or even comes to one of my workshops, change?
Long sentence, eh? The answer to this question is this: it depends.
NO input can cause change by itself. The change comes from trying to apply what you read to yourself. Even if the application is just answering one question that requires you to look.
I am finding, that the program I so love, the 67 steps, is completely and absolutely wasted on you, unless you do the looking it takes to answer the one or two or three questions that come with each session.
Why? Because looking, attempting to answer the question, causes a state change. 3 The state inside which you listen is: I agree, I like it, I knew that, interesting, etc. Narrow cone of vision. Sitting in what you already know… undisturbed, untested. Sitting in who you already know yourself to be… undisturbed, untested.
Attempting to look to answer the question from your own life is where the magic happens. When you have to widen your cone of vision to include what you never look at.
It is happening to me in spades. I am at segment 19… Continue reading “How to become worth a damn?”
