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He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
What is an adult, what is a child… and does your ego-state (Child, Parent, Adult) influence how much money you have, how much love you have, how healthy you are?
One of the distinctions is field. A field is a lot like context: it’s decisive. It limits what can be inside it… Field as a distinction is smaller than distinction, it is a subset of contexts… Its defining criteria is the relationships between participants. Continue reading “How old is your child self that is running your life”
Do you feel responsible for what others say about you? The savior racketSoul correction, responsibility, what is yours and what is not
First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt said it best: what others think about me is none of my business.
For most people this is the hardest thing to learn. Continue reading “Concerned about what others say about you?”
1. I think it was in 1991.
A manager of mine in Landmark Education said: you don’t make a difference.
My answer was: then I must kill myself…
I was banned from participating for about 8 months. By that time the manager and everyone have forgotten the interaction.
It was significant to me, and not significant to them.
Today, I got that I was just one of most, including themselves, who didn’t make a difference.
It sounds bad, doesn’t it? Very bad indeed. From one vantage point. Continue reading “The grass doesn’t grow where you walk… does that make you special?”
One of the remarkable things in the book, Flowers for Algernon, is the new awareness Charlie (Charly) has about his mental state.
When he was just a retarded person, he could see the shadow of the mental feebleness, but once he got smarter, when his mental abilities decline, he can see it directly… not only the shadow.
Once you raised your cell hydration, which translates for most people to a brain surgery similar to Charlie’s, you have a higher factual IQ. You should move to the same position as Charlie: when your cell hydration drops, you should notice it.
Of course, if you never realized that cell coherence increases your IQ… (mostly because you don’t habitually acknowledge the source of any result, you take things for granted, no capacity for appreciation, etc.) you won’t check your water… Continue reading “Can you tell when you are stupid? dull? incoherent? Or do you wait until someone points it out to you?”
If you find yourself on the wrong road… trace your way back to where you went astray… and choose a different road.Why? Because trying to go across to where you really wanted to go, without going back, is fraught with death traps.
Humanity, some seven thousand years ago, took a wrong turn. In just a few words: they started to replace reality with word pictures in the mind. Concepts. Continue reading “Returning to the fork in the road where we took a wrong turn”
The view is different from the foot of the mountain than from the top
One of the weird thing about humans that they are stuck in their limited view of reality.They don’t even suspect that there is a different view from different points.
This is why almost every otherwise worthless therapist or coach can cause temporary results… because all they need to learn is to ask you to look a different way, through a different perspective, and voilà… magic happens.
The problem is that when you are left to your own devices, you rarely if ever think to activate the magic. The magic that is magical, but isn’t magic.
Things look different from different perspectives, because that is what perspective means. Duh.
And because your life is given by what you see, if you are stuck, which seems to me is always, all you need to do is change the perspective.
I hardly know anyone who volunteers to do that. Continue reading “What you see… is it reality?”
This is a great question, if you have curiosity the capacity turned on. This is an even greater question for you if you have been trying to learn, by signing up to my programs, or buying a capacity from me, and you are failing.
Here is the statement I paid more than 20 thousand dollars for, taken an airplane some 20 times, slept in a hotel 20 times, and got nothing else from the courses and programs I paid for…
But this sentence is worth the 20 grands it cost me to get it.
Here is the magic sentence: “When something isn’t working… there is something you don’t know.”
The sentence is brilliant… and yet it won’t work for 99% of the people…
Continue reading “You are not learning. What does the culture teach you, tell you, so that you end up not learning?”
One of the reasons you don’t grow, is because the nature of time is that it goes one way. Forward. It doesn’t stop, it doesn’t go backwards, and mistakes are mistakes made.
But we, humans, are equipped with a brain that is able to model, replay, and practice, to turn mistakes into learning. Continue reading “What do Freecell and the Groundhog day have in common?”
Jordan Peterson: His vibration is 170. The truth value of what he says is about 10%. That is not as bad as it sounds, the truth value of your knowledge is less than 1%, so who are you to judge?
Anyway, 170 is not bad, and some of the things he does with what he has is quite brilliant. One of the capacities is to find patterns in disparate dominions and connect them.
Watch his body language… it is mighty difficult to hold it together…
It is definitely worth watching.
I am curious what you hear… so if you feel generous, let me know what you heard, for yourself. OK?
It’s even worth watching twice Continue reading “How to stop rotting away at home”
Being a coach sounds easy to you if you have no idea what they are doing, because you have never done it.
You just do what everyone else does, and hope for the best.
A “normal” coach only knows what they learned. Tree of Knowledge. Not worthless, but not authentic. Continue reading “Coaching that gets results vs. coaching that sounds good”
