Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
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If I know you well, your relationship to life is mainly through understanding. Which you either have or not.
When you do, you are happy, even though you are just as unsuccessful at living well, being fulfilled as you were before. Continue reading “The curse of understanding… It adds nothing…”
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Your stories are boring, repetitive, and rigidly fixed. You tell them the same every time, and that gives you a life of gloom and doom, an ever narrowing, ever more impoverished version of the Life you could have.
This article is about blowing some life into your story, so you can have more life.
“Know something, sugar? Stories only happen to people who can tell them.” – Allan Gurganus
Gurganus is right. The truth happens to everyone, but stories only happen to people who can tell them. And tell them well…
Continue reading “How to change your future by changing your story”
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I spent two hours on technical support this morning. My emails are not delivered… and that is a big problem in a business…
The lovely support person, Claire, was knowledgeable, but her anxiety was so strong, I got dizzy from it. Continue reading “Emotional Intelligence: When you suppress half of reality…”
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If you ever decided that you wanted to live your life in a particular way, successful, joyful, productive, fulfilling, you would want to CHOOSE a worldview, a worldview that COULD create the perfect foundation for that type of life, the life of your choosing.
But you never decided… and you never chose. You have a worldview, or maybe a worldview has you…
Worldview is a particular interpretation of life, of creation, of power, of choice, of freedom. Of other people, of nature. Of what is important and what isn’t. Of what is agreed upon and what isn’t.
Depending on the worldview, only certain actions and certain things can be present. It’s like a stage in a play: you can’t put there stuff that doesn’t belong. That doesn’t have a role… On the stage, if there is a gun there, you can be sure it will be used during the story. I read that somewhere about Chekhov’s plays… Continue reading “Worldview: are you trying to build a life on misery?”
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You can’t fix being human
..that is one of the disappointing things you learn when you do work with me. I won’t feed you baloney like “you are a spiritual being having a human experience…” and other garden variety horse manure.
The other half-sentence is just as disappointing: “you can’t get out of this life alive…”
These two half-sentences address 70% of the popular delusions of humanity.
When you internalize these truly, when you start to be energized by them then your vibration will jump 50 points or more. Continue reading “You can’t fix being human… you can’t get out of life alive”
In numerology, each number has a special meaning… and even the components of your final destiny number…
My main number is 7, my secondary number is 4.
I like 4. Four symbolizes a chimney: there is only one way to go: up.
Most numbers have sideways moves… and that is what most people do to avoid growing. To avoid what it takes, work, pain, telling the truth… avoiding these at all cost… even if the cost is everything and anything they ever wanted…
So as a coach, I have to take them to a magical turning point: I need to force them to hit bottom. If they let me… 🙁
I had two workshops yesterday… And in the second, two of my participants volunteered to declare that they hit bottom. Continue reading “Why and how the hit-bottom method works? Works well…”
I am listening to step 1 of the 67 steps again. The seventh time? Eighth time? I have lost track.
And as is usual for me, I am seeing something that Tai is not saying, and I kind of have been seeing, but not really. In the corner of my eyes.
Everything that is valuable is invisible… when things are fastSlowing down your reactions will show you your real emotions… so you know, so you know what you are running away from.
The envy, the glee, the hate, the despair, the ugly… that you are not willing to share on the partner call because you have an image to uphold.
People who are putting makeup on their fake persona… prettying it up… but never show, never touch their real persona… and therefore they continue living an unreal, fake life… with the unavoidable consequences in the hidden regions of health… More about that later…
Slowing down you may be able to find your strait and narrow… your path to your own happiness and fulfillment… your soul correction.
Fast isn’t going to cut it.
The fence that is built fast will fall down fast… This is a principle, it is true for everything.
And everyone is looking for fast, push button, rapid… and everyone is unhappy. No accidents there.
The most important turning point for me was losing my privilege to drive. Not having a car completely eliminated the previously normal reaction to anything that was confronting, unpleasant, challenging, or hard: running away. Going shopping… lol. I am still reacting… but staying put.
I am still confronted a lot, but because there is no place to run, I am more and more choosing to look at what seems to be unconfrontable… and look at it. Look at it and going deeper, at the root issue.
For example, I have a real issue with violence, both in movies and in books. And of course in life.
I am deadly afraid of physical pain. I feel it in my groin. And I lose out on a lot of things that most everyone in my place could have, because I am reacting to that fear… I have even built a life on that: instead of having to ask people to do something for me, I have learned to do many many things, so I don’t have to.
I have an originating incident of asking and accepting help and being hurt, badly hurt. Pain so strong I passed out.
I am working on learning to ask… it is not going well… The fear is still a whole lot stronger.
I am also catching and taming a lot of knee-jerk reactions. As a company owner, I used to be the Firing Queen… hired fast and fired even faster. No prosperity as a result never knocked me conscious. Only slowing down has.
It’s uncharted territory to be patient, to give the benefit of the doubt, to allow all the answers to come to me, to emerge, as if from deep water. It is more alien from my personality and my persona as anything I do or have ever done… I am looking at myself with amazement as I am changing.
All movies are fast nowadays, so the only way for me to slow them down is to stop them to give myself time to catch up, and to take a contemplation break… sometimes longer than the movie itself.
Anything you do “in order to” is too fast. Life is not about speeding through it… it’s about living it. Living it in the moment you are living it.In order to removes you from the present… and makes life NOT LIVED…
I have a rich life… in spite of the fact that I only leave my house on Tuesdays… grocery shopping, chiropractor, exercise class…
Everything else happens in my apartment… and yet I have an experience of living fully, or maybe even fuller than before. Sometimes I have urges, like wanting to go to my 50th high school reunion… But today I wrote my 50-year story, and it feels that I now don’t have to go. I can just enjoy the 30 or so similar stories my classmates wrote, and have a full experience, probably more pleasant. I don’t have to eat what they eat. I don’t have to travel. I don’t have to worry how I look. I don’t have to feel all those feelings… that I can handle one by one, but not all at once.
When I look what I would do if a ton of money fell on me… I would not have much use for it. Money has a tendency to burn a hole in people’s pocket, demand you to deal with it.
I’m free with no money. I value my freedom. More than money.
The world is rushing you. The world includes your parents, and your spouse… maybe even your teacher, your coach, all the courses…
There is no hurry on the creative plane. The creative plane is where meaningful life is lived. A life worth living.
I wrote this article in 2016.
Much has changed since then… the most important of all those is the price I have been paying with my health has come to the forefront.
It seems that hurry, taking pride in being fast is the number one reason people erode their health.
I am looking at myself, looking at clients.
Eating without tasting, eating without chewing. Talking without reflection, without pauses.
I have been measuring people’s biological age. And getting intensely curious what makes them age faster than they should.
I am starting to come to the conclusion that hurry is even more important than what you eat, your eating style, or your nutritional deficiencies.
That is, at least, what Source is telling me, through muscletesting. I’ll keep asking this question… and see if my current insight is accurate or not.
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One of the major differences between winners and losers: winners have the ability to look at reality, and look long enough so all the filters get revealed and they actually see things for what they are.
Another difference between winners and losers is that winners love setbacks, love failures, maybe even more than success. Losers love success and HATE failures, or setbacks. Continue reading “Powerful Debriefing: How to be a winner regardless”
If you want to understand cancer…
If you want to understand cancer watch yourself and people you know. You will understand more about the condition than through any other “information” source.
If you think you should only watch other people, it only means you are worse than others…
What is the similarity between cancer and humans?
Cancer is not part of an organization, it doesn’t even know about the organization. It knows only about itself. Cancer doesn’t care about the big picture. Cancer is driven exclusively by its mind, which tells him that he is to reproduce itself exactly the same way as its parents: all new members of the “family” need to be exactly the same, no individuality, no variations, not deviation. The new ones need to have faith, be Jewish, Christina, Hindu, Mohammedan, or whatever the “parents” were, no alterations.
The new cells are trained that it’s a competition out there, and their loyalties need to lie with the family, right or wrong, loyalties are your number one concern. The survival of the “family.”
Continue reading “Cancer is Like A Human: desire to receive for the self alone”
