Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
Latticework can be likened to a Christmas Tree. Some teachers call it scaffolding… by the way.
I once had a boy friend who bought tree ornaments as gifts every Christmas. Even to people who didn’t have a tree… ;-/
One of the barriers to real knowledge, I have found in my students, is compartmentalizing. Continue reading “The latticework on which you hang new knowledge”
For decades one of my sore spots was that people refused to serve me, even though I paid them.
I remember saying to myself: my money is not good enough for you? and wept.
I had no idea how I “accomplished” that… in 20/20 hindsight it is still a little spotty.
What wasn’t clear to me, never even occurred to me, how my attitude effected the service provider. My “To what degree you think of yourself:” starting point measure was, at the time, 70%. From my behavior I would have guessed it was higher.
Mainly I overrode what they said. I argued, I knew better, I acted with contempt…
What I didn’t know then is that being a service provider needs to be a win, or no service.
A customer who is not happy is a drag on an provider, and not worth the little (or even a lot of) money they pay.
I was that kind of customer…
Continue reading “Should you become a client? Would I even accept you as a client?”
What is the difference between an opinion 1 and an assessment, an observation, a statement, a theory, a hypothesis?
Many people use one word for many different things…
I have this “friend” who climbs the same steps I climb, except that he climbs it seven times each time, I climb it once or twice. He is a little younger than me.
I am fond of him: he is one of the handful of people I regularly talk to, eye to eye.
I often walk with him as he walks home: I guess I am hungry for human companionship: 10-20 minutes at a clip. Continue reading “Opinion? How should you hear what someone says?”
Confession time: I have a very small window where I experience being physically well. Or emotionally well. I am not very sturdy.
I have a tiny tolerance to heat, a small tolerance to cold, a small tolerance to running on empty.
Especially painful and unsettling for me is running on empty… while you, while most people spend their daily energy allotment on trivial things, and then run on fumes all day.
For me, that is unbearable, intolerable, hell. Continue reading “MVP… Life’s most valuable player? Minimum viable product? What is the connection?”
Humanity is infected with memes. The infection accelerated when the internet began, and is now almost 100% with smartphones in every hand.OK, let’s start at the beginning.
This is what I have been trying to avoid all my life…
Everyone and their brother says that connecting with people is the area of life where you have the most pleasure and happiness, and the most discord, and unhappiness.
Given my childhood, I am afraid of people, I am afraid of pain, and I am very reluctant to even have people around me.
Too much pain… and yet, surprisingly, I do crave unstructured human interaction, to a small degree.
Especially at times like this… Life is too hard for us… lol. I stumbled on the ebook this morning: “The Woman Men Adore…and Never Want To Leave”
Continue reading “Good relationship? Relationship mastery for relationship”
Distinction vs examples
One of the reasons you are not as astute in life is because you can’t see the forest for the trees.
You can see the example, but you cannot see the distinction.
But why?
Continue reading “Can’t see the forest for the trees? What is astuteness?”
I am reading a book, Habit Stacking. I think all non-fiction kindle books are poorly written… and I hate them. No joy of reading, even if the information is good. This one is no exception… but the topic is needed.
Why do you need what this book teaches? Why do you need habit stacking?
In my programs, both in the health program and in the “good life” program, you will need to develop new habits. But… to develop a habit by itself is an uphill struggle, and to maintain it is virtually impossible.
Quote of the Day
If you never venture beyond what you know… You’ve spawned your own limitations.
I have been practicing “habit stacking” without giving it a name, successfully. What I am learning is that I can take it to a whole different level. And I can stack all desirable habits into stacks.. groupings, and things will get done…
Do what’s difficult when it’s easy… but it’s easy to say, hard to accomplish. Because what is difficult only shows up when it is already not easy… when it’s needed, what you already gone too far not having done it. Continue reading “Habit Stacking… a shortcut to your new life”
All my articles are inspired, are an answer to something that happens right now… something that asks for a new way of seeing things.
Today is not an exception. It’s early and I have read only two of my emails, but the need to write an article is already there…. lol. The “bomb” is towards the end of the email, so try to hang in there: what you will learn there will first upset you, but has a chance to set you free… But the first part prepares it… Really.
M in Germany is looking at coherence and balance… and brings the following two visuals
1. Coherence is crafting a symphony… music
2. Coherence while having a whiny 3-year old tug at your skirt in the kitchen. Continue reading “Is life a symphony or is life chaos for you? What you manifest will be dramatically different”
How your integrity, or the lack of it is one of the keys to your raising your vibration, or not raising it…
Yesterday we had a last session of the course, From Upset to Communication.
The call was nearly all about integrity… or the lack of it.
The most significant ways are
We all tend to know when we actually say something that is a lie…
We rarely know when we lie because we don’t know what is the truth
And we almost never realize that withholding the truth is the worst thing we can do for ourselves. It is a lie by omission.
I have written about, and taught the inner dynamic of perpetration-withhold before, but it seems that it is never enough. I have 3000 articles on this site, and no person can read them all… We are talking about more than 30 full size book worth of articles… that is a lot.
Continue reading “Where there is anger there is a lie underneath…”
