Gloomy Sunday

Originally posted 2011-02-11 20:07:54.


As I said in a previous article, movies that you have an unusual affinity with are a great indication of some hidden belief that has an effect on your life.

This past year I have been asking and getting guidance. The guidance happens through movies, books, mostly.

I have Netflix. I don’t know what’s fashionable, what’s hip, and that helps. Ego and the collective ego isn’t driving my actions.

This is how this movie “Gloomy Sunday” showed up on my screen. Horrible title, if you ask me! And it’s a Hungarian movie, dubbed in German, with English subtitles. It was a Gloomy Sunday, and I decided to watch it.

I had prejudice on top of prejudice, but the Gloomy Sunday was there, and it was clear it was there for me. Continue reading “Gloomy Sunday”

Raising Your Vibration: It’s a process, not an event

Raising Your Vibration: It’s a process, not an event

It’s a process, not an event

One of the issues you may deal with is the result of widespread misinformation. It’s been around for thousands of years, and it is as damaging as any mass-distributed toxin, maybe even more. Why? Because your body can’t manufacture antibodies against information.

The idea of instant healing, instant transformation, instant transfiguration is what I am talking about. Continue reading “Raising Your Vibration: It’s a process, not an event”

Equality, racist, collusion, big words you throw around

Equality, racist, collusion, big words you throw around

The other day I used the free community van to get to stores I cannot get to easily on my own.

Note: in the illustrations I am not taking sides. I am illustrating that there is confusion and disagreement in what race. what is racist. what is racism, and what it does is it makes people rigid, lie about what they think, and vote for Trump… ugh.

The driver of the van has a PhD in sociology He asked me if it bothered me if he continued to listen to NPR radio, National Public Radio. There was a public debate on Trump and on the question whether he was a racist or not. Continue reading “Equality, racist, collusion, big words you throw around”

What one thing you want to learn from Babe Ruth

What one thing you want to learn from Babe Ruth

Make your plane land where you want it to land… or what one thing you want to learn from Babe Ruth

This is probably the most shocking sentence in the whole 67 step program.

I literally don’t know anyone who lives that way.

People try to succeed, try a diet, try this and try that… while their plane crashes in every area.

So what is the difference between who are like that, who are on their way to become that kind of person, and others who never ever land their plane on the landing strip? Continue reading “What one thing you want to learn from Babe Ruth”

How Actual Smart People Talk About Themselves

How Actual Smart People Talk About Themselves

This is an article from The Atlantic… Hint: not by discussing IQ The I here is James Fallows… although I tend to agree with him. this is a companion article to my previous article on self-esteem…

If you just want to know what people who are actually smart think of themselves… talk about themselves, jump there…
by James Fallows Jan 6, 2018 Science

I’ve never met or interviewed Donald Trump, though like most of the world I feel amply exposed to his outlooks and styles of expression. So I can’t say whether, in person, he somehow conveys the edge, the sparkle, the ability to connect, the layers of meaning that we usually associate with both emotional and analytical intelligence.

But I have had the chance over the years to meet and interview a large sampling of people whom the worldviews the way Trump views himself. That is, according to this morning’s dispatches, as “like, really re,” and “genius.” Continue reading “How Actual Smart People Talk About Themselves”

Returning to the fork in the road where we took a wrong turn

Returning to the fork in the road where we took a wrong turn
If you find yourself on the wrong road… trace your way back to where you went astray… and choose a different road.

Why? Because trying to go across to where you really wanted to go, without going back,  is fraught with death traps.

Humanity, some seven thousand years ago, took a wrong turn. In just a few words: they started to replace reality with word pictures in the mind. Concepts. Continue reading “Returning to the fork in the road where we took a wrong turn”

Pinpoint accuracy or shotgun method? Lottery Approach?

Pinpoint accuracy or shotgun method? Lottery Approach?

There are really two types of people when it comes to making more money: one group will chase the mirage, the lottery approach, winning, betting on schemes… and the other, the tiny group that sees that making more money is a natural fallout of becoming worth a damn.

I am interested in talking to the second group, the tiny group.

You see, knowing that you should become worth a damn is nice and dandy… but knowing with pinpoint accuracy where you aren’t… what it is that you need to do next to increase your worth a damn factor is crucial.

Life is holographic. Maybe it is the Universe… but who am I to just repeat something I heard… I don’t know about the Universe. But I do know about Life. Continue reading “Pinpoint accuracy or shotgun method? Lottery Approach?”

The latticework on which you hang new knowledge

The latticework on which you hang new knowledge

Latticework can be likened to a Christmas Tree. Some teachers call it scaffolding… by the way.

I once had a boy friend who bought tree ornaments as gifts every Christmas. Even to people who didn’t have a tree… ;-/

One of the barriers to real knowledge, I have found in my students, is compartmentalizing. Continue reading “The latticework on which you hang new knowledge”

What you say and what you do when it comes to your children

What you say and what you do when it comes to your children

What you say and what you do… when it comes to your children becoming educated, productive people

One of the signs of the overwhelming inauthenticity and low level of integrity is the gap between what people say and what people do.

My definition of authenticity is that there is nothing in the unsaid. Nothing in the unsaid that isn’t consistent with what is visible…

In essence, no lying by omission.

Authenticity is one of those big words that no one knows what it really means… so they go by feeling. The simplest way to define authenticity is that there is no pretense, no façade, no game playing. The person is the same through and through. When they are seen and when they are not.

Most people smile a lot in their pictures, but I can feel their anxiety, their fear, their inner trembling. An inauthentic smile.

One more thing that I haven’t said before, but given that we are working with memes and affirmations: if you obey memes, if you repeat memes, if you try to fit in with memes, you cannot be authentic.

Because your inner you, whether you know who it is or what it is, knows that what you are saying, what you are doing is not you… you are trying to fit in. Fitting in is not authentic.

Werner has a saying about authenticity: he says we are always inauthentic, so we can only be authentic (tell the truth) about our inauthenticity.

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Inauthenticity… examples

I have been surveying mothers and fathers of children to find out to what degree they care about their children’s future.

Life wants more life… so one would assume that both men and women will want their children to become all they can become.

And when it comes to lip-service, this is often what they say.

But when it comes to putting their money where their mouth is… the truth is vastly different.

  • Less than one percent of women spend money on their children’s future. Education, skill building, music lessons, language lessons, educational toys, etc.
  • 30% of men do.

If you listen to memes, you are now surprised.

Memes tout women as more caring, but these numbers talk against the memes.

Actually, in my experience, what women see as caring makes their children dependent on them, and makes their children a TLB-1…

Having barely any chance of making it in life.

TLB 1 people want me to be nice to them, to protect them, to be like a mother. But the whole field of mother-child is bankrupt when it comes to helping children become strong adults.

The words ‘caring’ and ‘love’ mean different things to different people: there is barely any agreement about any of it.

But we can agree to disagree… how women hear the words love and caring, I am guessing from their behavior, is being loved and being cared for.

To women it means Receiving. Desire to receive for the self alone.

While men hear it, maybe, as a giving, as an earning, as something that allows them to function in the world better, given that their sexual needs, and maybe some other needs can be taken care of.

In my occasional conversations, women behave like this 80% of the time, or maybe it is 80% of women 100% of the time?

I don’t know.

But the number of women who don’t recognize what ‘deal’ they entered when they got married is staggering. The deal the man thought was made, what the man thought the deal was is that the woman will help their spouse make a living. That the will become mothers to the future generation so the man’s genes will get expression.

This is not only true about talented, high earning women: this is true for women who are not high earning, not learned, not highly skilled.

And of course between parties who didn’t spell out the ‘deal’, and now they are at odds, the children are a burden, or mere negotiating chips.

I do see exceptions, when the woman is exceptional.

And occasionally I do see role reversals as well.

This is not genetic. This is meme based.

  • The genes know what is important.
  • The memes say what is profitable for the meme creators.

Don’t be mistaken: memes, the meme creators have a profit motive, and they may also have an overwhelming desire to create a zombie consumer society where they can sway popular opinion at will.

All you need to do to create a zombie consumer society is to keep people be interested in some vague ideal that they need to fill, be pretty, thin, crave sex, and to harass the men so they can never feel at peace and in balance.

Or be a career woman who fights for equal income, even if she can’t focus at work with sick children at home. To have the children be a burden.

No matter which direction the memes sway you, you are not on the side of life.
All the shoulds and all the should nots are memes. All of them. With one agenda: to keep you out of balance, to keep you buying stuff… to be needy and wanty.

For many centuries it was only religion with its memes. But today… with the social sites… ugh.

With more and more memes every generation of humans is less sturdy, less hardy, less willing to be a self-starter when it comes to educating themselves… because there is hardly anyone who cares about it… other than caring to give lip-service.

The Reality Challenge will be ongoing… so you can sign up if you are at all interested in weeding out the memes… so you can start being the driver of your life.

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Reframing: is losing weight hard? is it hard work?

Reframing: is losing weight hard? is it hard work?

I wrote this article in 2017. It has some truth, but not all that much… I am fat again, and the weight, this time, doesn’t want to move. I don’t walk… so take it with a grain of salt… Please.

 

I went grocery shopping today on my own. I was carrying some 20 lbs of groceries up the steps to get home.

This was the first time in maybe 6-7 years. I don’t drive. So I walked and took the bus and walked some more.

Why am I doing this?

Life tends to make us soft, complacent, comfortable, and comfortable people don’t grow, don’t evolve. In fact they devolve, they shrink.

So when I first had this brought to my attention, in one of the steps of the 67 steps, I set out to make life and myself comfortable with nob being comfortable… and I started to devise new and newer ways to toughen up.

I keep the house at a steady 47 degrees. I walk. I now walk to get my grocery. I walked this week to get a haircut. I refrain from palliative remedies.

It is a great idea to read Freud’s ‘Civilization and its discontents’ to see what you, humans do to deal with the fact that life is hard.

He says: Life, as we find it, is too hard for us; it brings us too many pains, disappointments and impossible tasks. In order to bear it we cannot dispense with palliative measures

Life is hard, but you can start dealing with life instead of running from the hardness, instead: dealing with the hardness. Dealing with life.

The benefits are immeasurable, whereas the palliative measures benefits are tiny.

One benefit is developing, opening up new spiritual capacities. The ones that will, eventually, lift you to the next evolutionary stage: human being.

When you start directing and controlling your epigenetic shifts where you actually cause your genetics change, its exhilarating. And change you to in ways you have always hoped you would change.

I ran into Leo, my musician friend. I explained to him that carrying those 20 lbs of groceries illustrated to me what it was like to climb the steps a year ago, when I was about 20 lbs heavier. In 18 months I shed 40 lbs.

He said: Losing 40 pounds is hard work.

I said ‘no it isn’t…’ He wanted to know how, and I told him that is what I get paid the big bucks for. He laughed, but it got me thinking.

There is a secret that is worth a lot of money:

As long as you eat food that isn’t compatible with your body and wants more of itself… and as long as you eat in a way that isn’t working for your body, you are going to suffer from deprivation… And although that is not work, not in the strict sense of the word, losing weight while you are dealing with a sense of deprivation, hunger, cravings is hard.

The two components of a successful and easy eating regimen, 1. what you eat, and 2. how you eat are equally important.

I haven’t written about the eating styles lately, even though, I see that eating according to your eating style is about 50% of success.

I am still not 100% adhering to mine, by the way. It’s taking me forever to surrender. I am now at 90% doing it… 1

I am lucky, I get instant heartburn from not adhering to my particular eating style. So I get a kick in the stomach as a feedback. 2

So what is an eating style?

The distinction comes from the Human Design people, and some of it is b.s. but some of it has been tested and has proven very accurate.

Depending on your mutt factor, your eating style is closer or further from how our ancestors ate about 20-30 thousand years ago.

I am closer to the ancestors in my mutt factor, and my eating style is the closest to how they ate.

When I work with people, I muscletest their eating style… instead of muscletesting their mutt factor.

  • Eating style factor 1: how do you know you are ready to eat?
  • Eating style factor 2: how you make your meals?

Factor 1: Some people need to smell their food and that starts the appetite… Appetite is the body’s message that it is able to receive and digest the food you consider. I call this type ‘cat’.

Some people need to taste their food to start the digestive juices working.

Hunger is not the same as appetite. Hunger is not necessary for appetite, in fact I haven’t been hungry for months now.

Salivation is an indicator that you are ready to eat.

Factor 2: Many people won’t get well if they cook and eat the way their mom prepared the big meals.

I, and many of my clients/students need to eat one food-thing per meal. I consider fat, salt, water, not a food-thing in this regard. I might be wrong. Too early to know.

I can eat fried eggs, but not a cheese omelet. Not even goat cheese omelet, even though goat cheese is on my allowed food list. And so are eggs. My type is called separator. Or a newer word: Alternator.

Some people are allowed to eat more than one thing per meal, if they don’t eat them in the same mouthful. The type is called Consecutive eating style.

I call the Consecutive eaters lucky… They are usually younger, as young as children.

And then some people are allowed to eat ‘normal’, to eat proper meals.

It’s quite a challenge for me to find out what eating style will work for people… Often I need to experiment. Often the style changes… like everything.

One thing is certain: if you eat only the foods in the combination that the style allows, you’ll have an easy time to be well, have lots of energy, sleep well, and never be hungry or crave foods that are not on your list.

Our bodies haven’t changed much in the past 30,000 years… and the further away you go from how we used to eat, the less health you’ll have.

OK… a little shift in topic:

As you know I have been studying Dr. Joel Wallach for 25 years.

His truth value is 30%.

Whenever he talks about the things he first hand experienced, he is right on… or close enough.

But whenever he falls victim to the certainty bias, where causation and correlation are confused, he is wrong.

It is very difficult to see what causes what in health. Testing is near impossible, and money concerns color the ‘scientific’ data.

Dr Wallach says that the reason people in the Southern states die earlier is because of the fried food they eat.

So today when I was frying my catfish (yumm!) I asked Source, and the result I got is that that is bull…

  • Frying my fish in ghee (clarified butter, the protein burned out of it) is actually not harmful.
  • Frying stuff in animal fat: ditto
  • Frying any fish in vegetable oil, including coconut or olive – on the other hand – is not something anyone’s body has adjusted to. Our ancestors didn’t do that.
Vegetable oils block most essential nutrients from being absorbed. That is the likely cause of the lower life expectancy of anyone who uses vegetable oils, not the frying.

In my family my mother switched to vegetable oils in the 1950’s… I think, and with that she effectively killed my father, killed herself, and is killing her two sons.

I don’t use vegetable oils, and haven’t since I listened to Dr. Wallach’s expose Dead Doctors Don’t Die.

There are other likely reasons for early death… Milk and milk products.

The A1 protein that causes plaque, diabetes, and whatever else that’s horrible… like addiction to morphine.

I was hooked on milk for most of my life, even though I felt it was really bad for me.

More than half of the 18 months were spent trying to kick the milk habit. It is an addiction that is really hard to break.

And here is an aside:

The French Paradox is b.s.

The French is thinner, and has less heart trouble deaths.

They eat tons of cheese and butter. Yum.

The difference is the breed of cow that gives the milk.

Dieters in France are getting fat… they replaced butter with oils… We, Americans, dumb down the world.

But I did it, and my weight is still going down. I now weigh what I weighed 30 years ago.

Even though I am only 90% adherent to my preferred style of eating.

Was it hard? It has been, actually both interesting, and uplifting. To me.