Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
I just had an interesting interaction with my buddy, Source.
I have been under the weather, my heart is ailing, and I have been giving a lot of thought to dying… and the things a responsible person does to make their dying easier on the people they leave behind.
I am doing what Source suggested I did to get well, and it is not happening fast enough… lol. Continue reading “You are is resigned and cynical. That’s who does your life”
The smarter you fancy yourself, the stupider your behavior. The big picture of your life…This article is slightly philosophical, I cycle through many ideas to get to a conclusion that makes a difference. You can jump to the end, to the conclusion, and we’ll know what you are… This article is about you.
Life’s way is to handle one thing at a time… make it work and keep it working. Then, when it’s working reliably, Life will start on the next thing.
Most of Life is continuing… not starting. Or modifying and continuing. Or adding and removing. But continuing… Getting better and better. Growing. Continue reading “What makes you a slacker? or a never do well?”
Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and
do that. Because what the world needs is people who come alive. ~Nelson Mandela
There is a word in Hungarian. It is very expressive, a word I ponder… a lot.
It is “elanyatlanodik”. If I want to translate, so I don’t lose the root, it means becoming a motherless orphan.
The word indicates that a child, at any age, goes through a fundamental loss when they lose the mother.
Half of my students, in some emotional way, lost their mother, the other half would have been better off losing their mother.
What do I mean? Continue reading “What’s blocking you from having a fulfilled life?”
Imagine that you find yourself in Los Angeles… and then you find out that your meeting was in Seattle… and you took the wrong plane.
If it happened, you would hop on another plane, or in the worst case rent a car and zoom up parallel to the Pacific Ocean, and voila you would arrive to Seattle… tired, but you would be there.
When evolution has taken the wrong “airplane”, let’s not worry if it was hijacked or not, you don’t have the luxury to take another plane, or rent a car…
You have to go back to where evolution took the wrong turn, and take a different path.
The grand experiment I am engaged in, is about that. Continue reading “Turning back the clock from misery to a life worth living.”
Self-awareness is the rarest of all the human virtues. Why? because it is all inner. . . and unless you have it you won’t even know you have it. And unless you grow it, you can’t change.
This is one of the things I measure in the Starting Point Measurements.
The numbers I get are between 3% and 20%, with 20% is being rare: I only found, so far, one person with that level of awareness.
So what can you notice if and when you are self-aware? Continue reading “Self-awareness: what is it and why is it crucial to have it?”
How much voice do YOU have in the chorus of the voices that live in your head?It’s Thursday morning, and I am starting a new experiment.
Yesterday I discovered that I have no idea what it is like to eat when you have an appetite. I observed myself, and I solely eat, have been eating, for taste. Texture. The mouthfeel.
But my physiology wants me to eat for appetite. 1 Bummer, I don’t know the first thing about appetite… 🙁
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I look at different languages to get a clue… In Hungarian appetite, the word, says “the desire to eat”. Hm. In other languages there are appetizers… that grow that desire to eat, or maybe to wake up the dormant desire? Continue reading “What a nice cup of coffee has to do with having a Self?”
You can only control what belongs to you… Your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions don’t belong to you. Your actions, your attitude, what you actually heed, what you say… they do belong to you.
They are interestingly difficult to see… they are hidden from your view, overcrowded by noise.
We call these here: invisible dynamics. They are tiny machines, their behavior is predictable, manageable, and their effect on your life are detrimental. Continue reading “Focus on the things you can control… but what can you?”
Motivation… it is either a stick or a carrot…
And it is either an inside job, or an outside job.
I am more motivated, more nudged on to do a move, to do something, to make a change in behavior by the stick than by the carrot… the inside stick… Continue reading “Am I weak? Are you weak? Can you activate the inside stick?”
I am republishing this article so you can see how much my truth value have risen in the past 10 months with the current Playground… It is not just you who grows… I grow too.
In the noise of the world, an orgy of misdirection, it is hard to feel, see, hear the guidance…
Awareness, especially Self-awareness is missing…
Who trained you? Other unsuccessful people. Your parents, your teachers, your PhD’s, your blog writers, your youtube Heroes.
And of course you buy their b.s., lock stock and barrel, as if it were the god honest truth.
I was somewhat lucky: my parents didn’t talk to me… so they could not mislead me. My teachers didn’t talk to me, there were no blogs…
But, unfortunately, as an empath, other people’s feelings that felt like mine, did mislead me and I paid for it dearly. Continue reading “How to make decisions the majority doesn’t make?”
The power of “instead of”Consider that it is not what you don’t do that gets you into trouble, but what you do do… or what is the meaning of the strait and narrow method of going to heaven, whatever YOU call heaven.
Every article, every book that deals with procrastination, with being an underachiever, with being an unsuccessful person concerns themselves with what you are not doing… and not with what you are doing that makes you unsuccessful, unhappy, etc.
Continue reading “What you do habitually is what gets into trouble”
