You are hardwired to be bad and pretend to be good or better than others

make me be the person my dog sees when he looks at meUntil you can look inside at your ugliness, at your emptiness, at your hatefulness, spitefulness, gossipy judgmental behavior, and see it for what it is, you will NEVER raise your vibration.

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Is what you are reading talking on the right level?

Is what you are reading talking on the right level?

For the first time in who knows how long, how many years, I have nothing to write.

One could say “writer’s block”… but I would not know. I have never had that…

Except…

So I am looking. When I have nothing to say… and that is unusual, what happened that is also unusual?

Did you see how I formulated the question?

Your ticket to get out of anything, to innovate yourself out of a problem is the question. Or questions…

So that question did direct my attention to something I’ve been doing that is also unusual.
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Awareness… it’s seeing what you are looking at. Accurately

Awareness… it’s seeing what you are looking at. Accurately

cherry-hazelnut-muesli-2I have been in this inquiry since February when I first heard Tai say: the strongest predictor of your success, in any area of life, is the level of your awareness.

So what is this awareness that is so important.

Nine months… it’s taken me till today to get complete clarity of what this ‘thing’ awareness is.

Six million Jews perished in the gas chambers and mass graves during the holocaust, because they were not aware.

Tens of millions of people were ashamed of themselves and their association with Germany, people who elected Hitler and the Nazi party… because they were not aware.
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Feeling Left out… and you are scrambling or resign…

Feeling Left out… and you are scrambling or resign…

others bragging make you feeling left out, less, inferiorWhen you become aware of your urges… a feeling that urges you to do something, mostly to relieve a tension, a pain, a fear, you’ll often find this fear there. The fear of being left out, being left behind.

One of the survival conditions for a human is to belong to a group… or they are dead.

So the need to belong to a group is a very old DNA-driven need.

I see people all the time whose entire existence is inside that unfulfilled need: people who look different, people who speak differently, people who feel different. Whose desire to belong was thwarted at some point, and got stuck.

When you were three and they didn’t let you visit your mother on the maternity ward… you were too young. But you felt excluded… and still do. You are 60. You are the victim or and the generator of that feeling.

Or when you had asthma as a little kid and your mother babied you. And you were not allowed to play rough with the other kids in the street.

Or when you were different… dyslexic, gay, slow, and you were told that you don’t belong… That you can NEVER belong to the winners… whatever.

Urges, DNA needs make you do self-destructive, self-damaging things.

Do things that when you watch other people do them, you shake your head. What are they thinking?!

The fear of being left out, the fear of being left behind, the fear of not fitting in has an age associated with it. It’s young. And your behavior to ‘fix it’ will be young too. Ineffective.

As you may know, I am working with a group of people to take them through the “Gate of Heaven” through the Detached capacity taught in the Detached Workshop.

As usual, unexpected snags abound. Whoever said it was going to be easy?!

The issue I am encountering is the ego doing its darned best to prevent the capacity from functioning. It is trying to prevent participants from stepping back, or staying back… staying out of the mind and looking from a different vantage point. Maybe I should be saying… step aside… and look from there instead of saying: step back?

When I observe the ego, it’s gritting its teeth with tenacity. I have a suspicion that the ego is a hireling of society, of the horizontal plane. I have a hunch that the passage will be harder than I thought, due to the crab bucket dynamic.

Everything that is between the two selves, the real Self and the imaginary social self, everything that is fake and pretentious is becoming active. And is pulling the participants down.

This article is about what you can do to help me and help yourself to become all you can become, to become a human being.

I used to have it in spades. I used to have no tolerance to a closed door, being inside when children played outside, I wanted to be with them, ‘me too’.

It looked that people were having fun, and I wanted in. But I didn’t have that much fun, and I got into a lot of trouble, with parents, with school, with my health.

The reason you are so afraid to be left out, because you are afraid to be alone. To meet yourself. To face yourself. To face the emptiness.

So you postpone it by joining in the fun.

One way you do it is you talk too much. To send email after email… don’t ignore me! But when you are in… you have nothing to say. You have, maybe, empty inside/empty outside syndrome.

But you desperately want to matter.

What you want is echo. What you want to feel is that you matter, that your life matters, that you are not alone. That someone cares about what you do. That what you do is important to someone.

For a human it is as important a need as water, air, you have to have it.

But you are looking at the wrong place to get it.

You are looking for it outside. Through the mind.

You hope to get it from the outside, from people, from sex, from success, from money… but what you are really looking for cannot be found outside.

You are like the drunk who is looking for his car keys under the street light, but when asked where he dropped the keys, he says… over there… where it’s dark.

teen-feeling-left-outWe are looking for proof that we are worthy, likable, deserve to live, but the world will not give it to us.

The world doesn’t care about you. But more than that: if I told you you are worthy, likable, deserve to live; how long would it be nourishing you? A second?

The next moment you would say: But you don’t know me. I am this and I am that, and I did this and I did that.

No one word is going to be strong enough for you to finally feel heard, witnessed, and worthy. Because feeling left out is not real… it’s a feeling.

You are really waiting for YOU to say that… but the small you, the worldly you is comparing you with others, and there is always someone who is prettier than you, smarter than you, more graceful than you.

The lower you is in cahoots with the world.

But the higher you is not like that. The higher you knows who you are, even though you are doing your darned best to cover it up. And it accepts you. Accepts you exactly the way you are and accepts you even though you are not better, not more, not different.

Your disconnect comes from all the stuff you and society piled up in between the two yous. Stuff. Worthless stuff. Opinion. But it’s there, and the small you doesn’t feel the light and warmth and acceptance of the higher you.

Powerful energies are needed to remove that stuff, piece by piece, thread by thread, so you can feel, finally, at home with yourself.

When you remove all the stuff that is between you and you, you’ll stop chasing others, stop chasing acceptance. Stop chasing respect. Stop dying to be heard, being well-thought-of. Seriously.

When you remove all the stuff that is between you and you, you become your own person, and that’s that.

My Unconditional Love Activator is a powerful energy remedy. 40 energies bundled, to handle any and all stuff that stands and separates you from you. Separates you from being loved, you from being accepted, from feeling that your life is witnessed. That you matter.

Are the effects permanent? Even after so many years, when I stop taking the remedy, I start feeling the separation.

Is there a permanent solution?

No. The world will always be worldly, and without strengthening your inner connection, the world will win, hands down, every time.

And by the world I don’t mean existence. I mean society.

Society is a political construct, and political constructs only care about controlling, overpowering, herding sheep.

So, no. Unless you take the remedy regularly, you’ll fall back to the world’s way: competition, pretense, longing, feeling left out.

It’s winter, and I don’t ship liquid remedies in the winter: they freeze.

But you can make your own remedy with the Unconditional Love Activator audio. It takes 15 minutes to make enough for a year. Then just put a splash in all the liquids you drink and you are set.

Or alternatively freshly infuse your beverages every day.

I freshly infuse my water every day.

Do it the way it works for you. Just do it.

Without it you have no control over your urges. You’ll continue living with the lack, the comparing, the gap.

Guaranteed.

Read more about the Unconditional Love activator, or if you are ready, you can buy it right away

Please make sure you use the remedy, every day, every sip of drink you take, including your tea, coffee, and you can infuse your soda if you still drink soda.

 

Keywords:Description:
feeling left out by family When you feel like you are the black sheep of the family, when everyone seem to love everyone else, but you… that is feeling left out by family
feeling left out at work When it feels like everyone is doing well, except you. When people get raises and promotions, and praise… except you. Feeling left out at work.
feeling left out by friends When the person who thought was your friend, but when they meet someone, immediately they only talk to them… you feel left out, don’t you?

 

The path to beauty, goodness, and truth is through…

The path to beauty, goodness, and truth is through…

The path to beauty, goodness, and truth is through the ugly, the bad, maybe even the horrible, not around them

We all bow to a deity, the god of respectability. Looking good, being well thought of, getting respect.

Even animals pretend, just watch your cat… their survival depends on looking good to you… so they pretend…

To be authentic

…to have no need to pretend, being willing to be seen, warts an all, is more human, it is in the direction of the evolution of the species.

While you give your life to respectability, your life sours, your dreams die, you stop knowing who you are, where you are, what YOU want, what YOU want to do with your life. You don’t know who you are.

Very unpleasant and troubling feeling.

Most are stuck there, but some (you?) yearn to know and live in harmony with who they are… love themselves, but how do you go about it?

  • Bad news: you can only get to your true self, to your inner beauty, your inner goodness, your inner truth through wading through the ugly, the nasty, and the mountain of lies about you.
  • Good news: What you need to wade through is only a certain amount of ugly… 30, 50, 70? Depends on you and how much you sold out on respectability, status, on looking good.
There is a finite amount of ugly, though it is still a small army…

behind-the-darkenss-is-light…that unless you can face it, without running from it, without judging it, without trying to unsee it, it is going to stay and multiply. and keep you in the world of pretense, where who you are is not who you pretend to be.

Now, I know it is a mouthful, but

ultimately that is the work. Seeing all the ugly about yourself. And make peace with it.

The help I can give, is to give you pointers, give you beacons so you will see the ugly by their light. And, of course, the Unconditional Love Activator, will make it a lot easier…

One such beacon is when you feel an urge to explain or justify.

If you stop for a moment and look behind that urge to justify your actions, you’ll see ugly. You’ll see that either you don’t trust yourself, or you don’t trust the other person to like you after you did what you believe is the right thing while you knew it wasn’t.

Don’t just stop explaining or justifying… no value there. Look. See the ugly in you. Own it.

The ego is the part of you that wants to stay the same. It wants you to resist looking because if you saw it, you’d want to change.

The ego is the part of you that you’ve been quietly and secretly in cahoots with… but, unfortunately, it is also the ego that could give you strength to accomplish.

But you limit what the ego can do for you by having more and more to hide, more and more falsehood to prove every day.

You look at every program with suspicion. Will this want me to change? Will this want me to look at what I have been hiding?

You say you want to change, you say you want a great life, but you are lying.

You can’t have the rose without the thorns, you can’t have night without day… Life has a certain order to it, but you want, with all your might, to go around it.

You want respect without giving respect, you want love without giving love, you want something for nothing, you want beauty without the ugly.

You invent religions, you invent gods, afterlife, karma, just to avoid having to face the truth about you.

You rearrange the furniture, do feng shui, invite a shaman in your home to get rid of evil spirit… but you go back, and there it is again: evil spirit. In you… The ugly that you have been hiding.

Everyone has ugliness inside, by the way. It is not just you.

Beacon #2:

You can see the ugly in others that means you are good or at least better. Nice. High minded.

Exactly the opposite is true.

All the nasty stuff you see in others is something you recognize because you have it.

They hold up a mirror for you to see it. But you run, but you hide, but you blame, smear, get angry.

You miss the lesson.

I am not saying it’s pleasant. But it is possible to bring a sober eye to the things you see and say: Hm… I see that. Hm, that’s ugly. or nasty. However you express yourself. Sober. Matter of fact. Flat.

To the degree you can own the ugliness, to the same degree it loses its hold on you.

Whatever you allow to be, allows you to be.

Beacon 3: Apologizing

Husband cheated on you? Notice the nastiness that comes up… it is choking you. Notice that you want to be nice… then the nastiness comes out… and you apologize.

Don’t apologize. Actually have it a goal to never have a reason to apologize.

If it comes out… then instead of pushing it back, and feeling shame, fear, rejoice. You got a chance to see the poison you carry around. And own it as yours.

Sit down and watch it simmer. Accept it for what it is. Embrace it. Do NOT justify, do NOT explain, just allow.

The longer you can watch it the less power it will have… Half done work (looking away, justifying) will bite your ass.

The beautiful you is behind the ugliness… it is not next to it, not in front of it, it is behind it.

As long as you have the ugly, all beautiful is a pretense… ugh, that hurts, right?

Now get to work. And let me know if and when you are ready for the Playground. Or Reclaim. Or both…

Oh, and don’t forget to stock up on the Unconditional Love Activator. You’ll need it.

How to reclaim your Self from the mind and why

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The mind doesn’t know who you are.

The mind also doesn’t care who you are. The mind also doesn’t care if you enjoy life, live life fully, are fulfilled, or not.

The mind is in cahoots with the world, with the “community”, with society, because that is how it was trained, by society.

If and when the mind is calling the shot 1 in your life, you become an effect, instead of the cause, the Creator of your life, you were meant to be.
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