When I am looking at winners, they are involved with something worth working for… involved, as in action about.
When I am looking at you, I see you being self-involved, 90% of the time. Self-involved… I haven’t been able to find a definition I agree with… so let’s be crass: you are self-involved if anyone would think or say: dig your head out of your ass… please…, or you have your head up your ass… or nobody home…}}
And even when you look not so self-involved, your actions, your blaming, your finger-pointing belies the underlying self-involvement… you feel that you are a superior person when others seem smaller.
As long as your biggest concern, expressed in your attention and actions, is yourself, you will be miserable, guaranteed.
Did you notice that I didn’t say: expressed in your words, in your facebook posts… no, your words lie a lot.
I meant: you’ll have your attention on yourself, and your actions will be irrelevant, not building anything, not growing anything, including you… leading you to be split, and miserable.
The “self” your attention is on, is your small self… how you are perceived by others, what you want, what you don’t want, what you like and what you don’t like, what you are afraid of.
Continue reading “Self-involved or self-aware? Centering is the biggest difference.”
I have gotten to a point in reading Freud’s book where I am now clear where what he says and what I know to be effective in facilitating happiness in humans.
