Don’t set ambitious goals! sounds counter cultural?

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the lesson you didnt learnIn the famous marshmallow experiment by Walter Mischel. He said that the 30% of the kids that didn’t eat the marshmallow, didn’t even look at the marshmallow. They kept doing other things, keeping their eyes off the marshmallow. Consciously, intentionally, and purposefully.

The marshmallow is ‘the thing’, the goal people want… and it is what actually causes them to jump the gun, to quit pursuing it prematurely.

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At any moment you are either growing or you are dying

At any moment you are either growing or you are dying… but how do you go from dying into growing again?

You can plan for survival, and you can plan for growth

The most important difference, from your point of view is this:

When you plan for survival, every setback threatens you with death, or poverty, lack, illness or shame.

When you plan for growth, every setback is a new opportunity to use your skills to now grow from this new level. Continue reading “At any moment you are either growing or you are dying”

What is the real goal of getting more productive?

Articles and books that teach you to be more productive try to appeal to a part of you that you may not have… The industrious part.

So they more often than not miss the boat… and you continue being unproductive.

So how does your day look? You are doing things slowly. Unorganized. Listless.

It is distasteful to you to do what you need to do because… because what you value most is your free time. Free from obligation, free from anything that needs to get done, or has to get done, or should get done. Continue reading “What is the real goal of getting more productive?”

There seems to be a certain order in the Universe.

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There is a certain order in the Universe.

I know it looks random and capricious, but it looks that way because of your lack of respect, lack of looking again.

Human nature is to think that what you do in one area, like fixing what you think is wrong, doesn’t effect the whole, and it will be OK.

But human interference in the order of things forces a kind of phenomenon that is a lot like wounds in war… Some are mortal. Continue reading “There seems to be a certain order in the Universe.”

Transformational methods to get you unstuck

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Or how to set the context to alter the story and therefore alter your actions?

Whether you know it or not, your relationship to life is stiff, inflexible, and therefore ineffective.

You look at things, always, from the same exact perspective, and therefore you see, always, the same old, same old life: good or bad, the same. Continue reading “Transformational methods to get you unstuck”

The sideways glance that raises your vibration

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The Sideways Glance is The Key To Raising Your Consciousness Raising Your Vibration

I watched a movie last night. Stayed up watching it till 1:30 am. Way past my bedtime, because it was urgent for me to watch it. lol.

I knew there was something very important in it for me to get. but what?

I had seen this movie, back in Hungary, 50 years ago.

The movie is called ‘The Lawyer’
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You’d rather be right than be happy or rich…

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lie to me... you cannot. your microexpressions that you cannot control will give you away You’d rather be right than happy, you’d rather be right than rich… Your microexpressions will give you away

I had a few remarkable experiences the past few days.

The conclusions from these experiences make me mad, angry, bitter, and hopeless… but that should not surprise you: the condition of humanity is hopeless.

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A new lease on life. How I got, unexpectedly, what joy is

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joy of livingLast night I had a conversation with myself and Source.

As I shared in my previous post, I have lived my whole life based on an untrue assumption that I was living on borrowed time, and at any time it can be taken away.

I saw that life needs to be set up in a way that matches that base assumption: don’t own anything, travel lightly, don’t get attached, don’t… don’t… don’t…

Don’t love deeply…

All to avoid personal loss. Because all can be taken away in a heartbeat. Continue reading “A new lease on life. How I got, unexpectedly, what joy is”

What is the difference between you and someone smarter?

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Do you think it would be worthwhile to learn what is the difference between you and someone really ‘smart’? So you can become smarter, maybe even really smart?

Someone really smart makes fewer mistakes in every area of life. They know what to take personally and what not to. They know how to spend their money. And they also make smarter choices. They get paid more because they spend more of their time with what produces value. Etc. Etc. Continue reading “What is the difference between you and someone smarter?”

Your life-success score is low… how do you raise it?

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Your starting point measurements tell me the whole story that you are.

And the picture of putting all those starting point measurements together also tells me how humanity as a whole is doing.

Pitiful.

But why?

Most people think that what they do when they are at their best, when they go to church in their best church-going outfit, when they are smart, nice, funny, or can answer a question right… that that is who they are. Continue reading “Your life-success score is low… how do you raise it?”