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The homework attitude and the desire trap

I got an insight today…

People are asking this question: how do I start? How do I get to where I want to get to?

And when I tell them how to get started, they ask the same question again. My answer wasn’t good enough for them.

So the insight I got is this: when you followed the current harmful teaching to imagine yourself where you want to be, you are expecting me to hand you the key… not tell you how to build that new reality from the bottom up.

This ‘imagine…’ bullshit has destroyed people’s ability to see themselves, and see reality, accurately.

Nothing works the way those ‘imagine people’ say… everything in reality is built from the ground up.

Yesterday someone asked me how to talk to someone to get a date.

I offered, instead, to look if he is ready to date, if he knows what he wants from dating, what is his agenda, etc.
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The Desire Trap and how to release a life of wants

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The Desire Trap and how to release it… A life with greed, want, desire, or resistance cannot be a happy life

The book Feelings writes at length about the Desire Trap,

Quoting from the Feelings book by Margoczi:

Although the desire trap may look harmless at first sight, this is the trap the most people suffer from around the world.

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This explains why we are fat, broke, sick and unhappy

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In Reddit there is a thread where the guy shares that he ordered in his grocery pickup, eight bananas.

So they gave him eight bunches of bananas, and charged him for one single banana.

So he posts this on Reddit, and the people there went apeshit with ideas how to eat all the bananas, recipes galore. More comments than in any post I have seen before. Continue reading “This explains why we are fat, broke, sick and unhappy”

Mental toughness, your TLB… and desire traps

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TLB is your Twitchy Little Bastard score. Mental toughness, AND high TLB is the difference between a reactive, undisciplined, five year old who cannot see past the next five minutes, and a person (whatever age) who can actually see and act conscious of the consequences of their action or inaction.

Tai Lopez calls these according to names of the Greek philosophies that reigned around the time of Seneca the Elder: the Stoics, and the Epicurians.

If you gobble up a cheese burger, you are an Epicurian who can’t see where eating that toxic stuff will leads you… fat, poor, sick, and wanting more.

If money burns a hole in your pocket… you are probably living the Epicurian lifestyle. You can’t stand not having your phone with you, ditto.

You dream of instant success, instant weight loss, instant love… you are an Epicurian… and a TLB 1. Continue reading “Mental toughness, your TLB… and desire traps”

Times are a-changing… are you prepared?

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Are you secure enough in who you are to look at things that are of no personal relevance to you?

That sounds like a ‘so what?’ question, but it isn’t.

You see, one of the most important measures in predicting your happiness and success in life is your cone of vision plus your about-me score.

Ultimately the two measures, combined, give me how much of all-knowledge you are willing and able to see… so you can navigate life, the economy, relationships, health, successfully.

The smaller the combined measure is, the less you are willing to see. Your reaction to it: ‘it doesn’t apply to me‘ and you just block it out. You don’t even entertain it for a moment. (I can see it in your 67-step reports clearly. Or in what articles you open… or not) Continue reading “Times are a-changing… are you prepared?”

Allow easy things to be easy. Smooth. Flowing.

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Here is an identity, a life script I have been a slave to.

I am up against impossible odds… and yet I can win. Look a me! Look at me!

It’s both funny and tragic.

It was pointed out to me back 1987, but I wasn’t ready to get it.

I KNOW that if you look first, look at what is there to do, the layout, the situation, then the success is almost certain.

But where is the fun!? Screams the identity. Let’s make it hard and let’s win against impossible odds! Continue reading “Allow easy things to be easy. Smooth. Flowing.”

If you start in the middle, you’ll lose…

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The most important thing that happened to you happened when you were around three years old. It was a decision that happened to you. Even though you made that decision, you are now a slave to it.

Until that first incident you were innocent. Unless you make that decision malleable, that decision you made about how life is, how you are, how it’s best to behave, nothing can change about you or your life.

I can pull your anchor to doom energetically, and yet… nothing changes. Because that decision is like a physical skeleton, a framework, that everything, all of your life is built on.

And however you are today, however you approach anything comes from that decision. Entirely.

How the world occurred to you then.

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Your standards and ideals. Rulemaking. Wanting to win…

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…every step of the way

Here are a few unexpected ways you keep yourself trapped in your misery:

1. You have a standard for everything and everyone but often not yourself.

How it should be, how it should go, what is right and what is wrong behavior, looks, everything.

You apply these standards to measure everything and everyone… and, of course, everything and everyone falls short… including yourself.

Standards are something that you invented, or alternatively bought into. You relate to them as if they were universal and mandatory for everyone…

It is all made up. There are no standards that survive reality: these are all made up reality, not binding to everyone, maybe not even to anyone. Continue reading “Your standards and ideals. Rulemaking. Wanting to win…”

We are destroying life on Earth… Unless…

Most of the things that are visible, you are not able to see.

It is like seeing the back of your head: you need a mirror to see it. A ‘talking mirror’, meaning: another person. An observer.

I have been reading this fantasy series by David Estes. Heromarked, soulmarked, fatemarked, whatevermarked… I like it, I just don’t remember the titles… sorry.

Anyway the idea may be nebulous: depending on how you look at it. If you look at it as nebulous, then for you it is.

This morning I had a realization that people don’t know what their lives should be about, they don’t have a meaning, they don’t have a purpose. Continue reading “We are destroying life on Earth… Unless…”

What is driving your life? Not satisfying? Now what?

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At any moment what you do, what you think, what you say either comes from the inside, your core, or the outside…

And depending on the source of the action, thought, you are either true to yourself, or true to something else.

There was a two-part episode of Doctor Who that I watched some years ago, the episode ‘Human Nature’. Watch it if you can. Continue reading “What is driving your life? Not satisfying? Now what?”