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Spirituality uses different tools than the mind, the world

Spirituality, finding your way, finding your self, the path to living a life worth living use different tools from science, schools, the mind, and ordinary thinking.

Not just different tools, but tools used differently.

If you haven’t found what you are seeking… if your seeking has taken you on a wild goose chase only to find nothing of value for yourself… then you owe it to yourself to learn to use the tools and to use them in new ways.

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Apple Cider Vinegar and other interesting stuff

Like so many things, guidance is a blessing… and a curse.

So is coaching, by the way.

You can’t catch what you can’t see, and you can’t correct what you can’t catch…

So, this past week has been, thank you for asking, pure hell… lol.

Why, what went wrong? It would be shorter to list what didn’t… lol

Now, apart from a 10-minute period, while I was on the phone with an overly tired and uncaring support staff this morning… I have been having fun.

Yes. Challenges? Yes. Hard issues? Yes. Expensive… Yeah.
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If you love yourself you love your life.

Good enough, the Pareto principle… how you get tripped up by the numbers

80% of your results come from 20% of your efforts.

This translates to a lot of mischief.

I just read an article, OK, I read 20% of it… lol… about China, and about chabuduo… that is Chinese for Good Enough.

The problem is standards.

Your 100%, the Chinese 100%, and my 100% are not the same.
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Want to find your self? Express it? Be true to it? Be motivated by it?

I started to read the book by Edward Deci, “Why we do what we do. Understanding self-motivation”.

This is the first book, that I know, that defines self the way, or similarly the way I do…

To become a person, to have autonomy, self-determination, self-expression, integrity, self-motivation, the most important job is to find the self, by distinguishing what is the driver of all your actions, whether it is inner or outer.

And if it is inner… is it the self, or is it the “not-self”?

Greed, narcissism, hate… area inner motivators, but they are all the not-self. So are all the “negative” emotions, like frustration, haste, the desire to fix, to punish, to suffer… etc. Continue reading “Want to find your self? Express it? Be true to it? Be motivated by it?”

It is exactly 57 times more complicated than that…

The current state of science, knowledge is “one size fits all”.

Just do this and this and this… and you’ll be happy, wealthy, healthy, and in love.

Every profession has their “this is the way, this is the truth” postage stamp size area where they dance…

The medical establishment, pharmaceuticals, psychologists, religion, education, and even the “spiritual” or “alternative” people.

I am a people watcher. I watch their behavior. I watch what they welcome, love, what they tolerate, what they avoid.

I remember I was about 30, and I said:

this is exactly 57 times more complicated than that.

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The seven habits of highly unsuccessful people

I wrote this article in 2016. Nothing much has changed… I got older…

As you know it is the 50th anniversary of my high school graduation.

I had a bunch of extraordinary folks as classmates: they have been meeting every year for the past ten years… and this year they decided to redo the yearbook, which is not a book in Hungary: it is a big board with everyone’s picture and their names. Continue reading “The seven habits of highly unsuccessful people”

Taking a multi vitamin… designer supplements? Calcium? is it good for you?

Rarely, (hailing mostly from other countries,) I find people who have all the 90 daily essential nutrients supplied in their diet. Amazing.

Now, the craze of taking supplements, the MLM (Network Marketing) type of sales systems gets to these people through friends and family, and they start taking “designer” supplements, and suddenly they don’t feel well.

They are entering the Western world’s unhealthy habit of trying to fix something that is not broken.
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Where do your questions come from? If you even HAVE any

I am asked questions, all the time.

Asking questions is one sign. What kind of questions… that is yet another sign.

And then asking intelligent questions… well, that is quite another matter.

I am going to my memory now, and say what I retained about questions from the book Curious… that the better questions, the more intellectual questions one asks the higher level of evolution the person is.

But no matter what question you ask, the answer, if it sticks strictly to the question, will be on the same level where you asked it from.

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The 3 most important questions to ask

As you know, I am a learner myself. I learn better ways to take you to places that serve you, I learn better ways to help you learn skills, life-skills that will allow you to be happy, fulfilled, and have direction in life.

This video and method, developed by Vishen Lakhiani is good. It switches off the mind, and allows you to connect with yourself and answer the three most important questions you can ask of yourself.

Watch the video. And then ask your friends, family, dates the same question. You’ll be able to find better matches for your life than by looks or what they say with their minds, by far.

The video is after you click… you’ll stay on this site…
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Self-reflection: Questions to ask myself

I am sitting here this morning, playing Freecell.

Every game this morning is such that it takes no effort, no talent, no guidance.

WTF? What is the message here? If Freecell is my guidance system, and I have to extend no effort, what does that mean about me?

I am playing and I am thinking, probing, pondering.

Is it a reflection of my life? My life right now? That I am shying away from doing courageous things? Hm, that feels bad enough, so I must be on the right track! Bummer. I muscletest, and the answer is YES. Hm.
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