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When you ask someone: what is the opposite of fear, they say “courage”. But they are mistaken. Courage will never take you to the other side of fear… fear won’t disappear with courage.
Fear is like a flower closing its petals. Courage is still trembling, still closed, still fearful. Continue reading “What’s the opposite of fear? The opposite of stinginess?”
Every generation is more entitled than the previous one. Why? Let me explain…If appreciative is the opposite of entitled… does that mean that all those people who are not appreciative are entitled?
Entitled 1 is a worldview. It is a ground-of-being phenomenon, invisible, like the floor. An unexamined truth. To you. But for the other, it is quite obvious… 2
So how do you know that you are not appreciative? that you are entitled?
This is how:
Is there really such a thing as a belief?
One of the things that keep you stuck is the language that you use.
One of the words that definitely hand over the reins to someone else is the word belief.
I, personally, argue that such a thing even exists.
Approaching life, approaching reality, approaching tasks with inadequate tools, antiquated tools will lead to disaster, and that is where you, most of you, find yourself.
Lots of words, lots of books, lots of talking, but no advancement. Neither personally, nor as a race.
As a true empath, I actually see why.
You and everything you read is stuck on the surface. On the seeming working of the Universe, or in this case, the seeming working of a human.
If we dealt with computers, or cars, or even houses the way we deal with, try to fix, etc. humans, ourselves, our thinking, our behavior, we would go back to the stone age. Continue reading “What are beliefs? And what keeps you from what you want?”
Is it worth it? Is it worth the bother, the effort, the work? Will it get me finally what I want?One of the reasons people don’t like to try new things is because they cannot judge whether they can do it or not. Whether it will be easy or not. Whether it will be pleasant and enjoyable or not.
How come? Why is it so difficult? Life is complex, and most of us have no tolerance for complexity. Complexity, ambivalence, ambiguity are normal, but the capacity to hold them becomes available to you in only at a certain brain development age… If you got stuck in young child brain development, that is most people, you have never developed the capacity.
Can you develop this capacity now? Of course you can. What is preventing you from doing it? Your low TLB number… you are a Twitchy Little Bastard… and you can’t deal with complexity, confusion, or looking long enough to actually see something.
Some of my students, when they learned about my habit of looking long and more than just once… as a way to deal with my dyslexia, have started to practice the same… and their ability to hold controversy and ambivalence has increased… because of that practice. But if you fancy yourself smart, quick, etc. Looking long and hard is going to be difficult, because your precious I will tell you that only stupid people look long and hard.
Actually the opposite is true: your precious I is deceiving you and keeping you… eh… stupid. In the stupid as the stupid does sense. Continue reading “Become someone who can make good decisions”
What you don’t know that you don’t know
If you are like me at any point you think that what you know is how it is. And that makes you stuck.
Here is what happened that woke me up from this seductive illusion that what I know is so.
I have been fascinated with nut butters. OK… nothing fancy in that…
I bought a machine to make nut butters, and it was a tedious job: 90% of the time was scraping the wall of the bowl… or the machine would run as if it were empty. Continue reading “I didn’t know that I didn’t know! The the dangers of thinking you know something that actually isn’t true”
I am working on something important to me. In fact two things I have two things I am working on: what I teach and how to put myself in the position to have more people to teach… These are important things to me.
So I get up, as always, shuffle to my computer, make my first come of tea with hemp and butter, and tackle my students’ emails…
But then I make a mistake. I look at my email from Medium, and I can feel as I am being dragged away from what is important to me. I am not on the strait and narrow… I am on someone else’s agenda.
How do you know what you are afraid of? Why you are afraid… even when you have no reason to be.
It was 1991. Georgia… some miles from Atlanta, in a hunting lodge. November. Communication Commando Course.
Just the name was enough to put the fear of god in me. But then they ushered me in this little room where I needed to answer some questions about myself, name, age, where I live, who I live with… in front of a camera.
Now, by that time I had been on television twice, seen and recognized by millions of people. And yet, I was terrified.
What was I afraid of?
This is what this article is about… what is it that you are afraid of, that you cannot tell what it is, but it is as real as that if they keep you underwater long enough, you’ll be dead. Dead dead…. Continue reading “How do you know what you are afraid of? Why you are afraid”
First let me digress… If you search this question of google, you’ll find out that not many people even know what this question means, what awareness means… They confuse and collapse consciousness and awareness… It’s like they don’t know shit from shinola…
OK, back on track: If you went back to your high school class and were given the opportunity to pick one person. And you would get 10% of their earnings for your lifetime. How would you pick? Would you pick yourself?
There are many criteria you can choose by.
According to the 67 steps, the level of awareness is the most telling of how well a person will do in life. Continue reading “What is the level of your awareness? inside and outside”
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You don’t seem to be able to change…
You have been unsuccessful getting their guidance, getting your information from outside of the mind.
This manifests, among others, in your inability to muscletest correctly.
The question is why?
The phenomenon, what actually seems to happen is this: you understand where to look, how to look, and you nod rapidly. You bring great examples to show how you just succeeded in using the new capacity… but I can smell the mischief… you are trying to throw me off my tracking.
Now, I say “you” but who is this “you”? What aspect of a person am I talking about?
In this case, the dominant aspect, the ego your delusional self, who you fancy yourself to be, your “precious I” you defend at all cost.
Continue reading “Why can’t you change? What’s keeping you the same?”
One of the hardest things for anyone is to know themselves. 3
And not knowing yourself is the cause, not just correlation, of the most misery.
Why you don’t know yourself? Thousands of reasons… knowing yourself also obeys the Anna Karenina Principle.
Continue reading “What if you find that your word has no power?”
