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Drifting? Aimless? Unhappy? Bored? So-so? Read this article…
I just watched two book reviews of the same book, Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt. Why? Because I wanted to get the gist of it, without having to chew 300 pages plus.
But I am still interested to hear the principles, in 10 minutes instead of 10 hours… wouldn’t you?
The two reviews differed vastly, because of the reviewers. Continue reading “Unhappy? Bored? So-so? Read this article…”
There is a tool that you could put in your tool box, and get out of tough spots, conquer every issue, and become a happy, wealthy, fulfilled person…
But neither you, nor myself have been trained in it, so we keep on asking the same questions and end up with the same miserable life…
Yesterday I had a long conversation with one of my students. I suddenly had an insight into soul correction, that had been hidden from my view before.
How did I get to that insight? I asked different questions. Continue reading “Are you intelligent to use this tool to change your life?”
You have a deep seated judgment about yourself. And that is the pivoting point, the linchpin that your life is growing out of.
In 1987, in a Landmark Education Forum, there was an exercise to drive this deep seated judgment about yourself to the surface. To make the invisible visible.
The question was: Who are you that you are? Continue reading “Who are you that you are? the bottom line about you”
I woke up this morning. I said the date, out loud, in Hungarian (my last dream before waking up was in Hungarian) and the sound of the words took me to a soul-searching.
I said (in Hungarian), Happy New Year Miss Benshitta… and it hit me, that I would be an old maid, a spinster in Hungary… ugh… would it have forced me to get married and become swallowed up by another’s life?
Had I stayed in Hungary… I probably would have continued working as an architect. I probably would have never done the steps that would have taken me through all the steps one has to take to reach and walk a different path.
I would be unfulfilled, and probably dead.
Continue reading “Are you filling your head with ‘just in case’ knowledge while your life is waiting for you to know what to do?”
There are two ways to hear anything…
Hearing, or course, includes reading. Reading is a version of listening. How you read is how you listen… Continue reading “There are two ways to hear anything… Courage deficiency”
I have been observing people’s behavior in seminars, coaching calls, and even one-on-one conversations.
They are rarely hearing what you are saying. 1
Do what do they do?
I have seen this third one in various courses and seminars.
When the topic goes to something that is unconfrontable, difficult, would take courage or intelligence to follow… something that is contrary to their worldview… people check out. They may fall asleep… especially men.
Continue reading “There are two ways to hear anything Part 2. What was said and what you heard…”
One of the brilliant ideas from the 67 steps that hardly anyone considers as applying to them is the idea of spending at least one third of their discretionary time
Discretionary time is time you have control over, time you can call your own. I have found that it could be as high as two hours, but as a minimum, an hour a day is necessary if you want to grow. You’ll train your TLB with this too… because being with people who are better than you is NOT comfortable… actually it can be very painful. Continue reading “The Law of 33%, and why you resist it? tooth and nail”
Dear Sophie:
I just watched this interview with the author of “Never Split the Difference.” It’s a book about negotiation techniques. The author is a former FBI hostage negotiator. I found it quite intriguing. My head was spinning just trying to keep up with the conversation. Afterwards, I was left with very mixed feelings. It seemed to me that my desire to learn more about these techniques was rooted in greed and a sense of wanting to learn in order to win or manipulate. Whatever the feeling, I am not comfortable with it; it was not a pure feeling. I have a different idea about communication, one having to do with connection, more along the lines of Steven Covey, ” Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood,” and Dale Carnegie, and the Communication Course. Maybe I misread the author (without having read the book). Maybe my aversion to learning negotiating techniques is related to my resistance to A is A. I am curious to know the truth value of the material and the intention behind it.
Continue reading “Negotiation, enrollment, differences of opinion, arguments”
Make your plane land where you want it to land… or what one thing you want to learn from Babe Ruth
This is probably the most shocking sentence in the whole 67 step program.
I literally don’t know anyone who lives that way.
People try to succeed, try a diet, try this and try that… while their plane crashes in every area.
So what is the difference between who are like that, who are on their way to become that kind of person, and others who never ever land their plane on the landing strip? Continue reading “What one thing you want to learn from Babe Ruth”
This article is stream of consciousness… I apologize for that.
Principles 2 are tricky. Depending on your level of vibration, on the size of your cone of vision, on the number and size of patterns you can see, you’ll translate the principle down to your size.
A principle says something to me, and another thing to you.
And yet, being guided by principles, your results in life will be happier than if you choose to live your life from vague longings, goals, or following how the ones went before you lived their lives. Continue reading “Your life and principles… Ask: To what end? What life you want to have had on your deathbed?”
