The secret sauce that makes you start having joy in your life

fox_and_hare, dinner or life?The fox and the hare tale: Why does a rabbit run faster than a fox?  Because while the fox is running for his dinner, the rabbit is running for his life.  All of life works the same way…

Keep this tale in mind as you read this article: are you running for your dinner, or are you running for your life?

I have noticed that take-away, as a manipulation technique, works exceptionally well on me.

Here is how the technique works: you show something, and you state that it is only available at this price or any price for a limited amount of time.

I find myself scrambling to get it…

Obviously I was taken in, because once I have it, I don’t want it. I was put in a hypnotic trance, and I acted under that influence.

I am fairly certain that nearly all humans are sensitive to scarcity or takeaway: the pain of loss is bigger than the joy of having something. Or better said: the genes are…

One area you may notice it (the fact that you don’t notice it, doesn’t mean it’s not there!) is how you value your life. Or a relationship. Continue reading “The secret sauce that makes you start having joy in your life”

What is the secret to joy? To a joy-full life?

How much joy do you have in your life?

I learned to ask this question from Dr. Popper… whose videos are my 20-day learning challenge.

Each video is about an hour long, I listen at 1.5x speed, because time is money. This speed still allows me to ponder and listen at the same time.

I am a fast listener: I don’t go to my mind to compare, to negate, to argue. I listen and ponder.

I turn what I hear into gold. This is one of my principles in life: to put all power in all actions… to turn everything I do into gold. Or into Life… which is the same. Praiseworthy. Excellent. Valuable.

Here is what Tai Lopez says about this Continue reading “What is the secret to joy? To a joy-full life?”

Emotional Maturation vs Cluelessness… Can you see?

This article took me a long time to write, and it is so-so… It’s a difficult topic… It’s about being Clueless. The why and the how and the ‘now what?’ And the WTF?!

Once a coach of mine said: “you don’t have to be more than 5% better than others to stand out… and become a winner.” He also said: “You Don’t have to get it right, you just have to get it going.” Continue reading “Emotional Maturation vs Cluelessness… Can you see?”

Can a spiritual capacity turn off ADHD-like symptoms? Procrastination?

I feel and I behave like an injured quarterback without my usual programs at my usual computer.

And the big winter storm is here… so I most likely won’t get the new computer on Thursday… Eh, we’ll just limp along, and it will turn out the way it will turn out… I can handle it.

One of the topics that have come up from students over the past few days is their difficulty to focus.

I say it is ADHD. Now, I am not a doctor, but then again, that’s a good thing. Because as long as you have some medication to take, you don’t pay attention to anything: you let the meds do the work, and you become a slave. Even if the meds work, Actually, especially if the meds work.

I don’t have ADHD. But I do have, from time to time, ADHD symptoms. Continue reading “Can a spiritual capacity turn off ADHD-like symptoms? Procrastination?”

How Can This Simple Exercise Be The Ticket To Happiness?

I wrote this article more than four years ago. I assigned this simple exercise to about a hundred people, and to my dismay, all failed.

I discovered two days ago why… and now I can start teaching it again, and see if it is a lack of capacity, or a lack of intention that causes the failure. Continue reading “How Can This Simple Exercise Be The Ticket To Happiness?”

Astute, clueless… how many distinct things can you tell apart?

There are two ways to get to Self-Love… One through finding things to love… the other is the strait and narrow method: discounting all the bad things you do, so you end up with loving yourself.

I prefer the second path.

Once you love yourself, learning new things to do well is much easier.

So far 46 people read my article about the exercise for self love.

One of them actually did what I did, followed my example, and wrote to me about his experience. He is astute 1.

So what did the rest of them do?

Some of them, at least, hugged themselves, and felt the pain or the sadness.

Did any of them have a conversation? Yes. Some of them. Continue reading “Astute, clueless… how many distinct things can you tell apart?”

A great little exercise to cause self-love…

Last night, in bed, I accidentally hugged myself.

Then, unexpectedly, I said to myself: I love you, little one. And then the “fun” began… The emotional dings, the doubt, the questioning, the grief.

Hoho… I said, what’s going on?

The little voice said: why would you love me?

Because I do… I said.

Do you love me, even though the house looks like a mess?

I don’t love your house, I love you. house, no house, mess, no mess… I love you.

oh. But do you love me even though I am getting old?
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Simplicity, Elegance, Coherence, Ask a different question

We tend to look at the world in black and white terms. This or the opposite…

You and me… 2

But often what you think is the opposite is not…

My current favorite book, 46 rules of Genius, says:
“Rule 24 (of Genius)

“SIMPLIFY

“People tend to view simplicity and complexity as opposites. But this isn’t strictly true. The enemy of simplicity isn’t complexity, but disorder. And the enemy of complexity is also disorder.

  • While complexity seeks order through addition,
  • simplicity seeks order through subtraction.

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Emotions are like firestorms, they cause incoherence, and are the most manipulated aspects of a human

eft-emotional-guidance-scaleThe best way to examine whether emotions give you a reliable internal guidance system is looking at the flip side of emotions.

In emotional terms, for example, love’s opposite is hate, disgust, being appalled, repelled. But if you look at your emotions, these opposites are right there, right behind the emotion: love… They come together like the front of your hand and the back of your hand. You are in perpetual ambivalence, yoyo-ing back and forth, ups and downs, and incoherence.

Love, the one that vibrates at 525 or so, is not an emotion. Love is a commitment to love.

Love is a commitment to accept another human exactly the way they are and exactly the way they aren’t. Whether they do the right thing, love you back, chew their food with their mouth open, lower back the lid on the toilet, or leave the top off the tooth paste.

Commitment. Not a promise, a commitment.

No ifs, no buts, no conditions.

No action necessary, just acceptance.

No show of love, no giving till it hurts, no nice talk… those are not part of love, they are societal demands.
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