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People are writing to me that they had no trauma to bring to the Sunday Feelings Webinar.

A trauma is an incident. The significance is in your emotional response, not in what happened. The same incident is no big deal for others, but it is, or was a big deal for you.

Here is an example from my life:

I went on my biweekly grocery shopping trip with the old folks van yesterday.

They asked what’s new, and I shared that I asked the Community Center to give me a chance to do a short lecture on water. The answer to that was a groan. Audible, and coming from a deep reluctance and distaste.

It wasn’t the right time to deal with it then and there, so I stored it away for analysis later.

And this is “later”… let’s do it now.

First off: the groan awakened a whole series of memories, unpleasant memories of earlier similar incidents.

Earlier similar is a technical term.

Let me explain:

When you are upset, you are never upset from or by what is happening right now. Continue reading “People are writing to me that they had no trauma to bring to the Sunday Feelings Webinar.”

Most people experience stress and suffer from it. But you don’t have to, unless…

Most people experience stress and suffer from it

Stress is your body’s way of responding to any kind of demand or threat. When you feel threatened, your nervous system responds by releasing a flood of stress hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol, which rouse the body for emergency action.

You probably think that stress is the same for everyone, that stress is a physical reality, but it doesn’t seem to be that way.

There is no such thing as stress. Stress only exists when someone says so: it is a lot like most people we deal and struggle with in life: made up by humans. Not real…
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The real reason why you are not happy, not fulfilled, not peaceful… and how to turn it around, maybe

If you found out that all the wrong turns, mistakes you made in your life… probably thousands, you made them because you didn’t see what there was to see.

A number of years ago, one leader in Landmark Education said: Most people either don’t sign up or quit as soon as they see it.

See what? You ask…

See that the solution to the issues of their lives, the decisions that would have taken them to success were there, but they didn’t see them.

I didn’t see them, and you didn’t see them.
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Stress, pressure, and overwhelm… no wonder you are tired!

It was 9 am, and I was already tired… No, correction: exhausted.

So I went back to bed, really curious what was the reason.

I asked and muscletested questions…

I noticed that I was not breathing deeply: in fact I could not. The breath would not go through.

So I doubled up on the question: what is the cause of this inability to take a deep breath? Health, concerns, each individually, and all said no.

Then I asked: feeling under pressure… stress.

And yes, that was it.
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Goals, path, intentionality, agenda, forcefulness, and Zen

I had an interesting insight this morning. I woke up with the wicked vertigo back… I moved my neck the wrong way in exercise class… And I didn’t experience the despair, and the urgent desire to fix it. Or will it away. I observed it, and the secondary symptoms that go with it.

I live a goal-less life.

I don’t get frustrated, I don’t get excited, I don’t push, I don’t force, I don’t rush. I don’t do things for a reason either.

I do what I do. Some are creative. Some are response. Some are maintenance of stuff. I read, I cook, I try to move my body, I reflect a lot. I notice the birds. I notice the trees. It’s very Zen.
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Why you feel how you feel and what can you do about it?

Most people live in a constant “this is not right… this is not where I am supposed to be, this is not how I am supposed to be, this is not what I am supposed to do” jerky place.

It seems inevitable, it feels bad, and all of it is based on delusions, pretenses, and lies.

Obviously you can’t see your delusions. That is your “reality”.

But… if you don’t feel good, if you don’t see clear, if you don’t have a 360 degree view of the world in most issues… they you can be sure you have delusions.
and… if you don’t go for growth, learning, profound well-being, fulfillment, expertise… they you can be sure your life and actions are based on delusions.

Delusion is a “cognitive bias”… you think something is as simple as X, while it is a lot more complicated than that… but you can’t see beyond X. So you don’t see what is, you only see the X.
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Rewiring the brain: The chains of habits…

Most of you live life as if you lived forever. You are patient when it comes to doing what you set out to do, have long term goals and aspirations for your life, that you do nothing about. You are patient.

But when you start doing something, you want instant result. You want it yesterday. Impatient.

This patient impatience renders you an unhappy loser, an underachiever, a never do well… Guaranteed.
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It’s amazing how much you can get if you quietly, clearly, and authoritatively demand it…

Everybody dreams of a stress free life… even though stress wakes you up. Stress as in challenge. I am not talking about the anxiety where you are fighting what if scenarios… that will never happen.

My countryman, who worked in Canada, Selye Janos (aka Hans Selye), was an endocrinologist, who was the first to demonstrate the existence of biological stress.

Stress response, what stress can do to your body.

But in his groundbreaking book, “Stress without Distress” he showed that stress also keeps us alive.

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Updated: Hungry? Eager? How resisting “hunger” can raise your vibration.

Hunger is a poor advisor

It is said by many people, that you shouldn’t go grocery shopping when you are hungry.

Why? Because when you are hungry, the context of your being becomes to satisfy that hunger. Everything seems to be the answer to the question: this is the best way to eliminate hunger, to satisfy hunger.

So you end up spending money on stuff that is not good for you, that you should not have bought, maybe ever, in the first place.

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What’s the truth about you? The truth about your health

Trace minerals… what do you need to know

I have been doing these 90 essential nutrient evaluations for about a month now.

Yesterday I had some time and tested a few people I know, clients, readers, friends, and emailed them my findings… at least the numbers.

I sent an email to one of my clients, and she wrote back arguing. I had a typo in the email… by mistake I wrote that she had 90 of the 90 essentials missing… obvious typo.

But yet, there is a question that she didn’t ask, and I want to ask it for her, so you can learn something.

Trace minerals are needed in higher quantities when you are under stress.

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