A trauma is an incident. The significance is in your emotional response, not in what happened. The same incident is no big deal for others, but it is, or was a big deal for you.
Here is an example from my life:
I went on my biweekly grocery shopping trip with the old folks van yesterday.
They asked what’s new, and I shared that I asked the Community Center to give me a chance to do a short lecture on water. The answer to that was a groan. Audible, and coming from a deep reluctance and distaste.
It wasn’t the right time to deal with it then and there, so I stored it away for analysis later.
And this is “later”… let’s do it now.
First off: the groan awakened a whole series of memories, unpleasant memories of earlier similar incidents.
Earlier similar is a technical term.
Let me explain:
When you are upset, you are never upset from or by what is happening right now. Continue reading “People are writing to me that they had no trauma to bring to the Sunday Feelings Webinar.”